Alright, so my Husband and I made the decision to start TTC about a month ago. 1 cycle in, BFN, no problem.
Here's my issue: He is NOT on board with tracking cycle/intercourse. He actually laughed at me when I told him what my expected fertile days were when he discovered I was using an App to help us out.
Anyone have any experience in getting hubby's on board with the idea of planned sex?
Re: Getting Hubby On Board -Help?
I agree with not telling your H or maybe put it in a better perspective - better timed intercourse in the privacy of your home than him masterbating into a cup at a doctor's office to VHS porn.
Me: 28 DH: 29
Married: August 2014
TTC #1 Since March 2015
Diagnosed with PCOS March 2016
SA results normal April 2016
3 rounds clomid + trigger + TI = BFN
3 rounds clomid + trigger + IUI = BFN
Uterine polyp removed July 2017
Round 1 IVF January 2018
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That said, every guy is different, so if it makes him feel super duper pressured then it's counter productive. But he should still respect your right to educate yourself about your cycle.
Me: 30 | DH: 34 | DSS: 14 | DS: 4
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Me: 28 | DH: 31
Together since 2006 | Married May 2015
TTC #1 since November 2015
BFP 5/17/16 | EDD 1/27/17 | Born 2/4/17
My DH looks at it differently. He thinks FF is like a game and enjoys hearing his stats. But we try to stay as active as possible throughout the cycle so there isn't such pressure in the FW. Every couple is different though. We don't have kids yet and are pretty much on the same schedule so that makes a huge difference for us.
Eta - charting/temping is your best shot at accuracy but you don't both have to do it. Unfortunately, the burden falls on us to take the temps and keep track of them although I've seen that some posters are calmed by it and enjoy the ritual.
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TTC Since: Nov. 2015
Dx: PCOS
Clomid + Ovidrel, Round I: BFN
Clomid + Ovidrel, Round II: BFN
Clomid+Ovidrel, Round III: BFP! 7/5/16
Married 7/15
BFP #2 2/18/16
When I started with the BBT I would get up and do it in the bathroom because I didn't want him to know, but after the ugliest most unreliable chart, I decided to tell him he's going to hear a beep in the morning and not to be alarmed haha. We are both light sleepers so he does hear it but now it's turned into a bit of a gimmick and he asks me "how's your temp today?" half jokingly and half curious, it's actually so cute.
He was put off by all of it at first, I also slowly introduced new concepts over a few weeks. I keep him in the loop about everything EXCEPT THE FERTILE WINDOW. I'll tell him after the fact if we got it right but I don't want to put that pressure on him, even though he doesn't seem to be affected. Sometimes he asks, which is also cute.
TTC #2 since Mar 2017
DX: MF June 2019, varicocele embolization Jan 2020, good improvement (14 mil, low motility)
IUI#1 Aug 2020 - BFN
IVF #1 Dec 2020 (ICSI) - ER, freeze-all - 15 retrieved, 15 mature, 15 fertilized. 4 embryos frozen, all day 5 blasts!
FET #1 Feb 2021 - BFN
FET #2 Apr 2021 - BFP 5DP5DT!! Beta #1 13DP5DT (17DPO) = HcG 1,238. Beta #2 17DP5DT (21DPO) = HcG 8,269
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However, I have zero intention of explaining CM to him. Ever. Gotta keep some mystery alive.
I will take a bit of advice from each of you, and slowly introduce it in a different way.
TTC since November 2015
BFP #1 12/17/15 - MC 1/28/16
BFP #2 4/22/16 - EDD 12/30/16
May 2016: 100mg Clomid for 5 days, Estrace for 5 days, Mucinex for DH and I during ovulation week, 100mg progesterone & a baby aspirin until I get BFN (so of course I'm hoping to have to continue taking them). DH is now also taking a multi-vitamin with Zinc.
Course of action is still medication and TI
After our first BFN last cycle after our first month TTC, MH is all about knowing when I'm ovulating and asking lots of questions. It's cute I guess it just takes men a little while to realize it's (usually) not as easy as just having unprotected sex.
Now... CM specifics... I'll just keep that to myself. There is definitely a line.
Dx: Both tubes blocked, PCOS, DOR, RPL
IVF Cycle #1 Dec. 2016 - 11R·11M·5F - Transferred 2 - BFP - Miscarriage - 0 Embryos Left