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Is it just me?

KristynLee15KristynLee15 member
in October 2015 Moms
Im feeling a little guilty. I go back to work in 3 weeks and LO will be going to daycare. Now im a homecare nurse so somedays my days are really short. I hardly ever (and by that i mean maybe 4 times in the last 8 years) work a full 8 hours. I am paying for daycare full time because technically my work hours are 8-4.
Now to my guilt. Im kind of excited to be going back to work. It means i get sometime to myself while im in the car. Ill be able to take an hour after work to go to the gym or do some grocery shopping. Or maybe even shower in peace! I obviously wont leave her in daycare everyday for the full 8 hours. But its nice to have the option of me time!
Am i a terrible mother? I just feel like all the moms i know literally want to be attached to their child allllll the time. And im just not like that. I love her to death and i love spending most of my time with her but sometimes i just need a break. And work os almost going to be my vacation.
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  • jasminelukejasmineluke member
    I echo your feelings. Although I'm nervous of managing her care while I'm at work .. I'm still looking forward to being at work and feeling like myself again! My husband keeps telling me that it'll be a good break and give me a breath of fresh air! I'll be able to come home and be with her with fresh arms which may help me get through her evening fussiness and crankiness!
    It's important to feel like yourself again.. Even if that means a short car ride listening to your favorite music and sipping on coffee on your way to work !
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  • ameares721ameares721 member
    It's just you.

    KIDDING! Tomorrow is my first day back after 12 wonderful weeks of maternity leave, but I am excited to wear clothes that aren't pajamas and look somewhat decent! I also eat a lot better when I work (better food and at regular intervals) so even though I'm back at prepregnancy weight, I think this will help me lose a couple inches. Plus I can relax a little and maybe stop listening for a baby making fussy noises.

    Baby will be better if you are concentrated on her when you are together and not worried about trying to run errands, going to the gym, etc.
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  • KristynLee15KristynLee15 member
    Thank you! I was startong to feel really bad lol
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  • rms924rms924 member
    No I am right there with you. I feel guilty about it sometimes. I need my break every day but I think it makes me a better mom. The 2 hr break I get daily means that I am so patient and loving no matter what when I am w lo

    I grew up with an anxious/depressed mom and I am still working through that stuff. That's one legacy I am determined not to hand down. Being able to get away/be me helps me stay balanced :) on the days without a break I really feel fried by the end
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  • KristynLee15KristynLee15 member
    LO has been a beast all weekend and SO has been at drill so its just been me. And we live with my parents so im also dealing with my mom and dad who drive me insane. I cant wait until SO gets home today and i can maybe take a nap!!
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  • LittlehummingbirdLittlehummingbird member
    I am happy to go back to work and don't think being a SAHM is for me. I totally respect people who stay home with their LO's, but wouldn't choose it for myself. I am great at what I do and get a sense of success from my work! I'm sure I'll miss my little guy though!
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  • TelebellTelebell member
    Not just you!!! We had a daycare down the hall with my first and I NEVER got her early. I claimed every minute I paid for, even if I got home 10 mins from pickup time. I would sit on the couch for 9 mins and walk over in the last minute. Now that we have a nanny, I still never come home early. If I'm in the area with time to spare I get a coffee or sit in the lobby until 6:30 on the nose. You need your you time too.
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  • BryDientaBryDienta member
    edited December 2015
    I had the same feeling thinking there was something wrong since I was looking forward to going back to work! Be prepared for people who expect you to be a weeping mess... I had to learn to just explain I'm happy to be at work and it makes getting home that much better! I'm gone for 11 hours four days a week and then have one early day where I spend all afternoon with my little guy.
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  • chein1chein1 member
    Hell no! I'm a teacher so I'm off during the summer and still sent DD1 a few times a week. Sometimes I was productive around the house and sometimes I just binge watched something besides Mickey. I also planned all my catch-up lunch dates with my non-mom friends on those days so I could actually interact and be attentive to them rather than my child.
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  • KristynLee15KristynLee15 member
    Luckily i dont really work closely with people. Being a homecare nurse, im on my own so i dont need to worry much about the judgements! Not to my face anyway lol. Im excited for lo to go to daycare also because shell get more interaction than just me.
    Im so glad im not alone with this. I just have all these friends who literally want to be attached to their baby 24/7. And in loke "what mom, youre offering to babysit so me and so can have a date night?! Heck yeah! "
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