May 2016 Moms
vinerie
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OT: Why in the world does my S/O ___________
vinerie
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So yesterday my H decided that he was going to change the oil and check the air filters in the cars. This took all afternoon. It always does. In fact, it took so long we didn't eat dinner together because I gave up on waiting for him to finish. Then he came in all flustered because he has SO MANY THINGS TO DO. This isn't something he does that annoys me, per se, or makes me mad. It just makes me scratch my head. Like, why would you spend all afternoon doing something that will take 20 minutes at the Jiffy Lube when you have 800 million other little things to do on your list before Monday morning? But he ALWAYS does this--he takes on these projects that are helpful (I mean, it took an item off my list, in terms of stopping to get my car maintenance done), but he spent all afternoon on it when I knew he had many other things to do (side note: We leave for vacation on Thursday).
So I was just curious...what does your S/O do that just makes no sense to you whatsoever? Not stuff that annoys you or makes you mad, but stuff that just makes you shake your head and wonder about him/her?
Me: 38; DH: 41
DS: Born 5-17-16
DS: Born 5-17-16
Re: OT: Why in the world does my S/O ___________
My H does stuff like that, too! He has this weird need to "do it himself" even if he has a list of other things to do, too!
For me it is how H eats. He literally mixes things together like a 2 year old. It is actually kind of cute now, but at first I was like
@ncm0328 are we married to the same man?! H does this all the time, too! I appreciate that he is helping out in the kitchen, but, no honey, I don't want to add a tablespoon of cumin to my chicken picatta!
Been married since 2009.
Unicornuate Uterus (yes I menstruate glitter)
Several MCs
DD born 2013 (our miracle "you can't have babies" baby!)
DH is horrible at prioritizing. For example... he'll have to mow the yard which obviously has to be done while the sun is out, but instead he'll do all his indoor chores and then it ends up being too dark outside by the time he's ready for the yard... Then we get a notice from the HOA that we need to cut our grass bc he does this over and over...
In general he is just bad at time. People in the family have started to lie to us about when certain events start so that we are more likely to be on time. We're pretty much late to everything and it drives me nuts bc I hate being late.
He also misplaces things all the time, which in itself is not annoying, but he refuses to look for things. Generally it takes me 2 seconds to find the things he's complaining about.
And green beans. He has to line them up like little logs before scooping them up with his fork.
And pizza. He eats two slices at a time, toppings together, and eats it kind of like a sandwich.
Married: 1/2008 ~ DD#1: 3/2012
TTC #2: Started 4/2014 BFP 7/30/15 MC 8/3/15 BFP 9/4/2015 EDD 5/16/2016
But mainly, he just doesn't see ALL the million daily household things that need to get done & doesn't feel bad when I do them all. Being pregnant has helped in this regard but damn!
DS1: May 2016
DS2: Jan 2019
Baby #3 EDD: 6/18/24
@kbrands7 Yes! My Husband does the same thing, he would rather starve all day instead of just make his own lunch! If I do not make both of our lunches he will not eat. I would love to have my lunch made every once in awhile!
And our baby room... ugh, right now its 'his room' and I keep the door shut so I don't even have to see it. IT IS A MESS!! I'm dying to at least clean it up and get it some what ready for the baby. But he doesn't want to give up his room just yet, so he keeps telling me to wait 'the baby wont be here for another 5 months'. He has been beyond amazing to me since I've been pregnant, so I hate to yell at him... just going to keep the door shut, and try to breathe.
My H mostly makes his own schedule (he is a writer who teaches twice a week) and works from home or a coffee shop close to home but anytime he actually has to be somewhere at a specific time he blocks off at least 2 hours to 'shave and shower.' If he has to be somewhere at 12 he is up my butt while I'm getting ready for work trying to get his turn in the bathroom, mind you I'm always out the door before 8:30 and it takes him less than an hour every time so he's all primped and ready to go with hours to spare before he has to leave the house.
Also, he has never done a single load of laundry since I've known him. I'm very particular about my laundry and don't like to send it out or have anyone else do it so I do both of ours but if I'm behind on it he will just buy new socks and underwear rather than do a quick load. As a result, he has more socks and underwear than anyone I've ever met yet still finds himself without any that he can wear, it is baffling to me. I swear he must change boxers several times a day.
Lastly, he will always use the green or blue toothbrush no matter who's it is. If I get a blue or green toothbrush for myself too he'll get confused and end up using it so mine always has to be a 'girly' color. He has some kind of memory lapse in this one area and I will never understand it.
Such a lovable weirdo, glad he's mine!
DS: Born 5-17-16
DS: Born 5-17-16
DS: Born 5-17-16
DS1: May 2016
DS2: Jan 2019
Baby #3 EDD: 6/18/24
Mine does this too...with cookies, and pie, and everything else that is sweet. I remember the first thanksgiving we spent with my family, I always make the homemade pies and I made four different types that year. My husband grabbed 4 plates, served himself 1/4 of each pie, put whipped cream on top of all four, and grabbed and ate them like a piece of pizza. My brother turns to me and goes "does he have an eating disorder? Like binge eating disorder? He eats A LOT." Nope, he sure doesnt. And here I am, can't even have a bite of pie cause ill gain 5 lbs while my husband eats a whole pie between all four of his slices.
Been married since 2009.
Unicornuate Uterus (yes I menstruate glitter)
Several MCs
DD born 2013 (our miracle "you can't have babies" baby!)