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Non stop crying, how do you deal?

trishee13trishee13 member
in October 2015 Moms
How do you deal? My baby only stops crying/screaming when she's eating and sleeping, and she usually cries through her feeding too. I can't take it anymore. I'm ready to runaway. I'm at the point where I'm crying as much as she is because I just CANT TAKE IT ANYMORE!! How do you cope?!
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Re: Non stop crying, how do you deal?

  • jasminelukejasmineluke member
    Well I usually share the witching hours with my husband... We try to make jokes and smile and find things to laugh about while LO is screaming away. Have the TV on or music on in the background to keep you distracted. Sometimes take heart in that you are doing everything you can and babies will just cry and cry and cry. Just always go through the rundown of the possible reasons (hungry/diaper change/body temp/fingers and toes are ok,no hair or thread wrapped around them). If all needs are met just sit tight and hold out and know she will stop or cry enough to tire herself out! I used to swaddled tightly, run the dryer or shower as background noise. I know it's not conventional but I used to sip on coffee or wine to just calm myself as babies can sense when you tense or stressed out. The more relaxed you are the more relax the LO will be.
    It will come to an end and this phase will pass I promise !!!
    My baby screamed her head off from 5-10pm from 2-6 weeks and now she does it less frequently and for shorter time periods. She's 9 weeks now.
    There is a light at the end of the tunnel! You are not alone and know that we all are going through this or went through this at some point.
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  • chein1chein1 member
    Yep every night from 7-midnight LO just cries and cries. Hoping it comes to amend sooner rather than later. DD1 had colic, and we were hoping to bypass it with this one. Apparently not :( I definitely drink wine during this time because I'm just done. My two year old actually hears her sister crying and asks me, "Mommy, time for wine?" Haha yes little one, it's time.
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  • trishee13trishee13 member
    If I drank wine when she started crying I wouldn't make it through the day haha is it acceptable to drink wine from 8-11 am?? It's non stop. I would give anything to only have 5 hours at night (NOT downplaying what you two are dealing with). Ugh...
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  • chein1chein1 member
    I'm so sorry :( LO has her days, and I just about lose it so I can only imagine how you feel. She's pretty fussy throughout the day but it's not a constant cry like her nighttime fit. I cry right along with her because I feel like a failure. Like I'm your mom, I'm supposed to know how to help you and I clearly don't. How old is your LO? Mines 5 weeks but she's finally starting to enjoy being awake. She'll kick and flail and even started making some happy sounds. Up until about 3 days ago being awake just pissed her off lol. I was starting to think she'd rather crawl back up where she came from haha.
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  • trishee13trishee13 member
    Ugh yes that's exactly how I feel! I was induced and she was VERY happy right where she was, I think we pissed her right the hell off making her come out at all!..she's 8 weeks & It's been going on since she was about 2 weeks so this has to end SOMETIME right?! I can't believe you were brave enough to have a second after going through this with your first. I don't know how people do it. I can barely make it through my day right now with her! :(
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  • jasminelukejasmineluke member
    I have discussed with my husband that this is our only child ! It's been so hard on both of us and he even developed paternal post partum depression and cried almost every other day until she was 6-7 weeks or so... It's so hard to imagine going through this again!
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  • chein1chein1 member
    We were adamant about being one and done...until this one slipped through the cracks haha! Some people are made for the newborn phase, I am not one of them. Only thing saving me this time is knowing it's a phase where as the first time around I thought we were in this suckfest forever. I have no problem admitting that I don't start enjoying baby life until we hit the 12 weekish mark.
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  • jasminelukejasmineluke member
    chein1 said:

    We were adamant about being one and done...until this one slipped through the cracks haha! Some people are made for the newborn phase, I am not one of them. Only thing saving me this time is knowing it's a phase where as the first time around I thought we were in this suckfest forever. I have no problem admitting that I don't start enjoying baby life until we hit the 12 weekish mark.

    What a relief to hear at least one person say this !!! This is my first and I feel that inside too. I never had instant gratification when I had her initially and she's 9 weeks and I'm still working on that bond but I'm getting there slowly!
    I definitely am not cut out for the newborn phase and both my husband and I had a hard time adjusting. I'm thinking it's my one and only haha ... Although I guess you never know.
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  • brizer21brizer21 member
    jasmineluke said:

    chein1 said:

    We were adamant about being one and done...until this one slipped through the cracks haha! Some people are made for the newborn phase, I am not one of them. Only thing saving me this time is knowing it's a phase where as the first time around I thought we were in this suckfest forever. I have no problem admitting that I don't start enjoying baby life until we hit the 12 weekish mark.

    What a relief to hear at least one person say this !!! This is my first and I feel that inside too. I never had instant gratification when I had her initially and she's 9 weeks and I'm still working on that bond but I'm getting there slowly!
    I definitely am not cut out for the newborn phase and both my husband and I had a hard time adjusting. I'm thinking it's my one and only haha ... Although I guess you never know.
    All of this! DD1 was extremely colicky and didn't get better until I was going back to work. The only thing that calmed her was putting her in the ergo baby carrier. I used to walk all around the house, outside, on the treadmill. wheb DH got home from work I would pass her off for a bubble bath and wine break for some sanity. If you have support (friends, SO, family- use them!)

    I too hated the newborn stage but alas, I now have a 5 week old. He has been a completely different baby so far, but I think it's because I'm less anxious and more easy going this time around. Plus DD1 became and is the happiest, sweetest little girl. You might change your mind when you are out of this stage ;)
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  • wack0032wack0032 member
    @trishee13 have you asked your doctor about reflux/GERD? If the baby is crying all day and thru feedings, I would bet that is your issue.
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  • trishee13trishee13 member
    She has reflux. We have seen a GI doctor and she's on omeprazole for it but it doesn't seem to be doing much. Also on mylicon and gripe water. She is just the most miserable baby on the planet.
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  • brizer21brizer21 member
    edited December 2015
    @trishee13 sounds just like my daughter at that age... She had reflux too. Have you tried colic calm? It's expensive and black so very off putting but that helped my little one through some of the colic. She was formula fed and outgrew the colic in a couple of weeks, we probably switched her formula 5 times and ended up on enfamil AR which was the winner. She still spit up all the time but at least it didn't seem to bother her anymore.
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  • KLHauck12KLHauck12 member
    It helps so much to hear others talk about this! I struggled so much at first even thought LO wasn't that difficult (in hindsight). I just struggled with my new role, the demands of a baby, baby blues, and feeling trapped at home. I missed my old life! I also didnt bond right away like I expected which made me feel baf about myself (I know now that its normal and the bond is developing). Then right when I began to feel better myself, LO became more fussy and began struggling with tummy issues. Then she got a cold on top of that! She isn't a constant cryer but she has had SEVERAL very difficult days and it feels like a huge success if she has a day that goes well all day. The worst is when she is in pain from gas or constipation. I hate hearing her like that and I feel guilty for not being able to figure out the solution (were on the third formula she currently trying hypoallergenic formula but still having issues).
    All these things have made me have lots of moments where I feel like I want to run away. ...and I get overwhelmed by the thought of it just continuing on like this. But when I look back I realize that things have improved and I'm sure they will continue to! She is more interactive now at (almost) 7 weeks and she is starting to soothe herself a bit. She is sleeping better. She still wants to be held most of the time when awake but seems a bit happier. She also cries off and on if we need to put her down for a bit (to use the bathroom) instead of constantly! So I feel confident that there is a light at the end of the tunnel....and there will be for you too! But even though LO seems to have a more challenging temperament (even the nurses commented on her quick temper, lol!) I don't think that I am someone who'd enjoy the newborn stage with any baby! My husband and I think it sucks and are just buying time until she gets to be a bit older. Everyone always makes a fuss over newborn babies but never talk about how hard it is! I felt better once a friend shared that she had felt the same way - wondering if this baby thing had been a good idea! Now she is a total pro at being a mom!
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