September 2015 Moms

Start of PPD?!

Lately I just feel like I'm in a funk. A couple of different things have made me think I could be getting PPD.

I've been getting cabin fever, so to speak, lately and find that the only thing that makes me feel better is to go out and that usually means I'm shopping and spending $$. Not a good thing to be doing all the time and my husband isn't happy with me for it.

When baby was born, we had ppl visiting all of the time. Now, no one seems to come over and those that say they want to come over, don't. I'm just missing the socializing a lot!!

My husband comes home and tells me to turn off the tv when baby is awake, and then proceeds to turn off tv. When he comes home, I feel like those 4 hours in the evening should be his time with baby and my time to relax a bit. He doesn't think so.

I love my baby a lot!! We have a ton of fun together. There's only so much an almost 3 month old can do. When he's napping, I try to sleep as well as he does not sleep well at night.

This turned into more of a rambling rant than anything. Has anyone else experienced things like this? How do you get out of it?! Does this sound like PPD?

Re: Start of PPD?!

  • NirolosaNirolosa member
    edited December 2015
    Many hugs! Not sure why your hubby wants the tv off, we've kept a certain noise level for our little one since birth so he wouldn't wake as easily if we accidentally or on purpose made any sounds. As for wanting to get out, I hear you! Between winter and a local outbreak of whooping cough. .we haven't got out much. Trust me though, you will need an outing especially baby free at least once in a while. For me that's every week and a half or else I feel PPD trying to claw it's way in and it doesn't make me feel good. I get angry ovet nothing and it makes me feel just horrible and teary. When it starts I have to do something just for me and my mental health.
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  • I understand how you are feeling. I have had a hard week myself. I attribute it to winter blues more than PPD. Not sure what region you are in but here we are only getting about 7.5 hours of sunlight now.

    My DH works long hours, usually 6 days a week. And when he is home he needs to run errands or catch up on his own stuff. He doesn't understand that I never get a break or a chance to "run errands". He had the kids for 2 hours by himself and the amount of praise he got from family was rediculous. Oh and the reason he was alone was because I was taking my dad to the doctor.

    I'm cooped up and lonely. My 3yo is very strong willed and has not been listening lately. I feel like my brain is mush because I have a hard time even stringing a sentence together.

    I agree with pp about getting out on your own. I need to start doing this more frequently. DH always tells me to make plans and I'm going to make an effort to really start doing that.

    Hugs to you, I hope you are feeling better soon!
  • Agree with PP that it would seriously annoy me if DH tried to tell me I couldn't watch TV while the kids were awake. I don't think they understand how isolating it can be to be alone in your house day after day caring for children. Sometimes the TV or radio is my only connection with the outside world. If he doesn't want LO to watch just turn him away from it. Also, don't turn it off on me like I'm a small child who needs Daddy to make my decisions for me.

    My DH works long hours too. He somehow finds time to help me and give me time to myself. He frequently jumps in and will completely take over if I'm getting frustrated. I do all the nighttime stuff because he wakes so early but in the evenings he is definitely spending time with his children.

    It sounds like you have a husband problem more than a PPD problem. That's not to say that you shouldn't talk to someone who may be able to help just that you may feel better if YH was more likely to be involved in the daily childcare tasks apart from dictating how you should do them.
  • The tv thing is more that he doesn't want our baby to want to watch tv all of the time. We definately don't whisper around our baby lol. It's just frustrating. I told him how he was feeling and he proceeded to tell me what I should and shouldn't be doing. I told him that only makes me feel worse. I don't think he gets it :(
  • I should leave the 2 of them for a couple of hours and maybe he'd have a newfound respect for what I do during the day.

    I also work at a big retailer and will go in maybe once a week for groceries, and get told by co workers that I'm always there. Doesn't make me feel wanted so now I'm trying to avoid going there.
  • Definitely let your H experience taking care of the baby. Make plans one weekend with your girlfriends or go for a massage. Do something you enjoy. Grocery shopping doesn't count! As for the tv, you both have a say in parenting and you are free to proceed how you wish. Watch tv in another room and let him "relax" with the baby.
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  • The funny thing with the tv is, once he gets home, that's all he seems to do it watch it lol. Don't get me wrong, he will play with our baby, feed and change him. It's a bit hypocritical if you ask me lol
  • I feel the same way that you described. Being at home day after day is so isolating and depressing. I really look forward to evenings and weekends when I'm with my husband, family and friends. I'm getting really nervous about going through a long winter with the baby. I'm out on maternity leave for 6 months! I actually have a history of depression and stopped taking medication for 6 months before I became pregnant. I'd been doing great until very recently. I try to keep as busy as possible during the week. I schedule lunch dates with my co-workers and friends or take the baby to mommy and me classes. I ask try to set one goal for myself to achieve each day. I try to cook dinner or go to the gym when my husband gets home. Just one goal a day seems to help me a lot to feel a sense of accomplishment (other than keeping the baby alive!). I felt really down this week too, but I feel rejuvenated after going to dinner with my best friend last night and then lunch with co-workers today. It's really amazing how surrounding yourself with friends can change your whole outlook. I don't know if what you're describing is PPD, but I'm definitely going through the same thing.
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