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Switching Dr's almost halfway through.......

swaters14swaters14 member
in May 2016 Moms
This happened with my first as well. So I switched Dr's before finding out I was prego with our second. It was 'good' in the beginning; I've never really had an experience with a Dr. that's been 'great' I feel so jealous of the women that say "Oh, we absolutely loved our Dr., they were awesome, blah blah..." 

I contemplated switching mid way through my first and did not, because I thought I was just being bratty about it, and I regret it. I've so far liked this Dr. okay, but just went to my appointment yesterday, and got the same feelings back. I had been going off of my weeks every Sunday, so this coming Sunday I thought I would be 18 weeks, so therefore I could schedule my 20 week scan (to find out gender as well) the days before Christmas. Well, Dr. comes into the office and starts off saying 'okay were at 16w5d' so my first thought is 'wtf, no' I asked her when did that change, considering I did not have an ultrasound this appointment, and she said 'oh no, It's never changed, you must have just been off' 

I'm aware i'm more forgetful lately, because of prego brain, but I'm not a complete idiot. So needless to say, after she was rude and wouldn't even explain anything further to me, when I go to try and schedule my '20 week' scan up front, of course they're booked the few days before Christmas (I had a feeling that would happen, so wasn't too upset over that, I guess) so I asked the girl if there was any way possible I could come in that Friday before, a few days before being 20 weeks and she was so shitty about it. 

Is it worth is to even try and switch Dr.'s at this point?? Am I overreacting about it? 

I think i'm just more disappointed that I will not be finding out before Christmas like I had originally hoped, but that aside it seems to still upset me. 

***Sorry so long, just needed to get that off my mind..........
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Re: Switching Dr's almost halfway through.......

  • JessicaB0627JessicaB0627 member
    I don't think you should switch doctors just because you can't get your anatomy scan before Christmas.. but if you don't feel like your doctor is the best fit for you then I would switch. I switched half way through my first pregnancy due to a move, but I wasn't really happy with my first doctor anyway. The second doctor I found is AMAZING! I totally trust him with everything and I know he really cares about my health. I also know that if I have any problems whatsoever it will be him I'm talking to and seeing at the hospital, not an on call doctor. That was really important for me. I wanted a doctor who knew my situation very well and could make decisions for me based on my history.

    So maybe ask around and see if you can find a doctor you like more, or even look online. As silly as it sounds I think there are websites where people "rate" doctors and leave reviews and stuff. That could be helpful! Good luck.
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  • wamam027wamam027 member
    I've got to switch due to moving for my husband's job (military) and other moms and wives I know have switched OB's up to the last few weeks of pregnancy just because we have no say in when we move. I'm definitely not concerned about it, I won't be seeing my new ob until I'm about 22/23 weeks and I feel I've got plenty time to establish a new relationship with this ob and her practice once we get to our new home in the next two weeks. Agreed, if you're wanting to change simply because you won't have your anatomy and sex scan before Christmas, I wouldn't make such a move, however if you're not feeling right about this ob I say you've got plenty of time left to be able to change and go for it!
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  • SunshinebinsSunshinebins member
    Maybe get an elective ultrasound before Christmas at one of those boutique places? That way you still find that out but dont switch doctors. Unless, as PPs said you aren't feeling that practice anyway.

    If you really are measuring at 16w instead of 18, they probably won't want to do the A/S at another office either because it's more for checking the major organs of your child, and that's more accurate when you are closer to 20 weeks.
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  • pbandjyummiespbandjyummies member
    I agree with pp, I want to find out the sex before xmas and decided to do an elective ultrasound for that.

    I'm also planning to switch but mostly because I've been going to an OB and I would prefer to work with a midwife. The midwife would be a bit further away but I think it'll be worth it.
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  • dsmith211dsmith211 member
    Agree with the PP's about the elective ultrasound if you are set on Christmas. We got lucky with ours... I have to go to an outside office to do it bc my midwife does not do them in office and we got a choice of between 10 facilities. Even considering that we got a before Christmas date, but barely. We got the last appointment before Christmas we could find. If we didn't get one though we were going to go to a boutique place and have one done.
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  • jumpy57jumpy57 member
    If it was previously established that you were 18 weeks and the doctor changed it without really telling you why I would also be rather upset. I say go ahead and find someone new because if it were me I would be annoyed about the date change and lack of explanation at EVERY following appointment which is not how I would want to feel.
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  • JennyS86JennyS86 member
    Go with your gut Mama!  talk to other women you trust and find a great doc!  I would say that I don't 'Love" every doc in my group (6 total), but they have a ton of experience- my priority!  Let us know what you decide!
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  • swaters14swaters14 member
    edited December 2015
    Thanks ladies! The main reason for wanting to change isn't because of finding out before Christmas, I think that was just my last straw. I was super confused as to why there was not even an explanation given to me about what I was measuring. That's what really irked me! I'll be looking around and hopefully will find something a little more helpful. 


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  • sosweet487sosweet487 member
    If you feel the need to switch then switch. Although I haven't changed my doctor since my pregnancy, before I went through about 3-4 different ones before I found one that stuck. I left them all for different reasons... from not being responsive to my emails, personality was off and I didn't mesh well, and even to a doctor that I felt was a bit racist. Go with your gut! You're not going to offend your doctor by switching. And if you do... so what? It's not like you'll see them again :)
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  • Pascal86Pascal86 member
    This is before I was pregnant, but I switched OBs because the one I was seeing had a bowl cut, dressed straight out of the 80s, and was slightly awkward. Normally things that are totally whatever with me, but when it comes to people looking in my vagina and pulling out babies, I just let myself be as judgmental and particular as I feel like. Also, I'd be super bummed if I found out I was a week behind the timeline I thought I was on, even though it doesn't really matter.
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