People suck

laura6006 · December 2015

A guy I work with occasionally just asked me if I am going to be induced...I'm 39 weeks and said I don't know. Then he asked me if I knew how big the baby was because I was running out of room. Again, I said I don't know, but really was trying to keep from asking him if he just called me fat. He looked at me like I was stupid and then proceeded to tell me about the birth of his son and how his life changed as soon as he held him. Maybe I'm just being hormonal, but I seriously wanted to punch him. Obviously he doesn't really know what he's talking about and when I go home tonight I am going to tell my husband to never talk to a pregnant woman about what he thinks I went through and how he felt. It was only 8:30 am and I really wanted to walk out and go home to sleep.

enigmaanjel · December 2015

I am staying home and avoiding people because of that right there. I know most people are just curious, but i am already a mess because of what i am being forced into for no other reason than stupidity. I can't handle stupid right now

JElizbetty · December 2015

If I didn't have to take my daughter to school and pick her up, I'd be staying away from people too. Having to deal with the same mom asking me day to day "anything yet? Labor pains? So do you think he's coming late or on time?" She even text me over the weekend whats new with baby watch 2015? I'm really close to telling her, uh well you're going to find out later when we're ready to announce like the rest of the people in my life I'm not close to so just sit tight.

groovylocks · December 2015

Sweetie, we can't win. I recently got told my business because I'm carrying "small" - turns out I'm not carrying that small but she's sort of back a bit so it leaves me 3-5 cm under what would be typical. And i also "look" smaller than that. The guy kept saying "Well you should be bigger at x weeks". This same doucher had choice words for me about my refusal to birth naturally. The best thing to do is start asking them awkward questions about their penises. It really does hyper-change the focus almost immediately

haylierm · December 2015

I'm starting to seriously think my step mom doesn't remember being pregnant... At all. For the millionth time I FEEL PREGNANT! That's how I'm doing. A freaking bowling ball is hanging off of my midsection. No, I'm not sleeping any better. I won't sleep any better until I'm done being pregnant. My hips hurt because they are soon going to accommodate a child passing through them as well as I can only sleep on my sides. They are not going to stop hurting until I'm done being pregnant. So asking every time e talk is pretty unnecessary. Not only am I super uncomfortable., but general insomnia is pretty common for this late in the game. I don't need to ask my Dr anything because I read up and am informed about what's happening inside my body. My due date is in 5 days. I'm uncomfortable for the long haul as is every other pregnant lady in her 9th month. Did you seriously forget what its like to be pregnant? I've been conveniently forgetting to return calls at this point because I'm sick of explaining to a mother of 2 what pregnancy is like. Lol if my mom, who's youngest is 21, can remember I think someone who's youngest is 16 can remember. Lol

Praying41 · December 2015

haylierm said:
I'm starting to seriously think my step mom doesn't remember being pregnant... At all. For the millionth time I FEEL PREGNANT! That's how I'm doing. A freaking bowling ball is hanging off of my midsection. No, I'm not sleeping any better. I won't sleep any better until I'm done being pregnant. My hips hurt because they are soon going to accommodate a child passing through them as well as I can only sleep on my sides. They are not going to stop hurting until I'm done being pregnant. So asking every time e talk is pretty unnecessary. Not only am I super uncomfortable., but general insomnia is pretty common for this late in the game. I don't need to ask my Dr anything because I read up and am informed about what's happening inside my body. My due date is in 5 days. I'm uncomfortable for the long haul as is every other pregnant lady in her 9th month. Did you seriously forget what its like to be pregnant? I've been conveniently forgetting to return calls at this point because I'm sick of explaining to a mother of 2 what pregnancy is like. Lol if my mom, who's youngest is 21, can remember I think someone who's youngest is 16 can remember. Lol

I'm so sick of people asking how I feel and then standing there looking at me after I say "fine" like I'm supposed to elaborate. I feel like crap and you asking just reminds me of that so shut up. I hate people right now especially my coworkers. Don't give me the "oh I'm so sorry" face. And don't tell me "this is why I never had kids" just leave me alone people!!!!!

laura6006 · December 2015

So glad you ladies understand.

rachel10488 · December 2015

Ugh yes. And people asking "are you ready?" I have no freaking clue. For awhile i would answer it honestly and elaborate but now at this point I've gone over the same thing so many times with the same people that a simple "yes" seems good.

GinnyBarrette · December 2015

Or "you're still pregnant!!!" No lady I'm just fat! I get asked that at least every other day at work. I hate people

keiragann · December 2015

I walked into work today, which is my due date, and people looked at me and said why are you here? Ummm well obviously I'm still pregnant and that's why I am here.

Chumby1982 · December 2015

Yep!!
I think people serously don't know what to talk to you about,besides the usual cliche pregnancy questions when they see your big belly. It's like you are no longer a person - just a belly. Lol!!

stephaniearthurs · December 2015

I had 2 interactions with a co worker of my husband's that left me angry after the fact. First he asked t old gen "are you sure you aren't having twins", I sort of just said no and then moved on. My husband was mad but didn't want to embarrass me.

Next time, we were talking about seals (I can't remember why) and I said that I thought all seals were cute (I love animals), and he kept insisting that I was thinking about baby seals. Now this didn't bother me until later. It's stupid but like i'm a 31 year old well educated and well traveled woman, I'm pretty sure I'm not mistaking a grown seal for a baby seal. In fact, I've been kissed by a grown seal that I thought was adorable.

So hubby and I were complaining about him last night (he gives my husband a hard time at work). And I thought, wow, he not only called me fat, he also called me dumb.... I'm pretty sure he deserves a throat punch

nz113 · December 2015

I went to get my nails done yesterday so I wouldn't have ogre feet at the hospital and another pregnant woman who was 36 weeks was sitting in the chair next to me and she asked me, "are there two in there?" Seriously? A pregnant woman should know better... I almost slapped her.

haylierm · December 2015

Praying41 said:

haylierm said:
I'm starting to seriously think my step mom doesn't remember being pregnant... At all. For the millionth time I FEEL PREGNANT! That's how I'm doing. A freaking bowling ball is hanging off of my midsection. No, I'm not sleeping any better. I won't sleep any better until I'm done being pregnant. My hips hurt because they are soon going to accommodate a child passing through them as well as I can only sleep on my sides. They are not going to stop hurting until I'm done being pregnant. So asking every time e talk is pretty unnecessary. Not only am I super uncomfortable., but general insomnia is pretty common for this late in the game. I don't need to ask my Dr anything because I read up and am informed about what's happening inside my body. My due date is in 5 days. I'm uncomfortable for the long haul as is every other pregnant lady in her 9th month. Did you seriously forget what its like to be pregnant? I've been conveniently forgetting to return calls at this point because I'm sick of explaining to a mother of 2 what pregnancy is like. Lol if my mom, who's youngest is 21, can remember I think someone who's youngest is 16 can remember. Lol
I'm so sick of people asking how I feel and then standing there looking at me after I say "fine" like I'm supposed to elaborate. I feel like crap and you asking just reminds me of that so shut up. I hate people right now especially my coworkers. Don't give me the "oh I'm so sorry" face. And don't tell me "this is why I never had kids" just leave me alone people!!!!!

Yeah, we're fine "considering". Do you really want to know about my hemorrhoids and lighting crotch? Lol its not going to get better until its over so just shut up about it! Lol

BrookeBrown2015 · December 2015

A guy I work with (once a month in the national guard) said "Brown, you're still pregnant?! You've been pregnant for like 5 years now!" and compared to some character on Family Guy. I just thought it was funny.
@laura6006 I think that guy was probably just surprised you didn't know the babies' size. Men just don't know half of what we experience and can't know how much we know about what's going on. He probably just figured that the doctor was telling you. Sometimes they tell a size estimate in ultrasounds and sometimes they don't. I don't know why... maybe that guy's wife got more updates from her doctor for some reason. I got an ultrasound done today and my mom asked me how big my baby is and I said I don't know; they didn't tell me. I haven't gotten annoyed with people asking me how big he is though... but I try not to show it or blame them because how can they know what I do or don't know.
I also second what a pp said about people just not knowing what to say to us these days because it's like all they can see is a belly and that's all they know how to talk to us about now.

ckenyon82 · December 2015

Thank god I'm not the only one feeling like this. I constantly feel like I'm going to throat punch any person who asks me questions. It's the same questions from the same people EVERY.SINGLE.DAY.

Alyssaerin996 · December 2015

I've definitely gotten some annoying comments (the conductor on the train I take to work makes the same "are you going to pay for the triplets to ride!?" joke at least once a week), but more than that I am just sick of the pregnancy small talk! It's like as soon as someone sees my big stomach, they feel like they HAVE to say something pregnancy related. Even if I see them all the time, like coworkers or the women in my barre class. So I get a lot of "How ya feeling today, mama!" and other things that no one really means for you to elaborate on. Nooooooo one wants to talk about this! Why do we keep doing it to each other? Blerg. Also, I'm getting grumpier by the day. Can you tell?

cmv5 · December 2015

I know the feeling.. I hate every time some one at work tells me that im never going to sleep once the baby is born o that my husband and i never going to travel. Really??? Im sure im going to keep traveling of course it will be harder but is not their business. So many stupid opinions.. The other day a guy at work that i barely know stopped me in the hallway to start talking about his newborn and how newborns look "weird" the first days. then he said "your baby is going to have a lot of hair because of your dark skin" Wtf!!! what kind of comment is that. my skin is not dark but im latina, even if my skin was dark i thought his comment was just so out of place.

navyblueladybug · December 2015

groovylocks said:
Sweetie, we can't win. I recently got told my business because I'm carrying "small" - turns out I'm not carrying that small but she's sort of back a bit so it leaves me 3-5 cm under what would be typical. And i also "look" smaller than that. The guy kept saying "Well you should be bigger at x weeks". This same doucher had choice words for me about my refusal to birth naturally. The best thing to do is start asking them awkward questions about their penises. It really does hyper-change the focus almost immediately

Usually I'd let some annoying comment like what this guy said roll off my back, but if this ass hat caught me on a particularly bad day I'd ask him how long his penis is.... Because he looks smaller in the junk than the average man. What a nut job!

Praying41 · December 2015

Today I was in the elevator with a coworker and he started asking how I was feeling and how long I had to go, questions I don't mind... And then he's like are u nervous and I'm like yes and he's like don't worry you'll forget all the labor as soon as you see her and I'm like yes I've heard that and he's like no really you will forget all the pain... Um since when have you ever pushed a baby out of your vagina that u suddenly know how it feels and know how "you forget the pain"???? Men!!!

amye02 · December 2015

At least 10 times a day I'm asked how much longer (like I freaking know) and my favorite "how are you feeling?" To which I always reply "pregnant" this is from women AND men. I hate people sometimes

Rratledge · December 2015

cmv5 said:
I know the feeling.. I hate every time some one at work tells me that im never going to sleep once the baby is born o that my husband and i never going to travel. Really??? Im sure im going to keep traveling of course it will be harder but is not their business. So many stupid opinions.. The other day a guy at work that i barely know stopped me in the hallway to start talking about his newborn and how newborns look "weird" the first days. then he said "your baby is going to have a lot of hair because of your dark skin" Wtf!!! what kind of comment is that. my skin is not dark but im latina, even if my skin was dark i thought his comment was just so out of place.

Definitely don't listen to people who tell you that you won't be able to travel! We travel differently since my almost 3 year old son was born, but we've taken him to the Bahamas, Canada 5 times, Paris, Tokyo and several places around the U.S. He travels great in a car or on a plane and I think part of it is that we started him out early. We don't plan to slow down with baby #2 either as long as he handles it as well as big brother.

blansaw · December 2015

A girl at work who was due 2 weeks prior to me was induced the Saturday after Thanksgiving and had her baby. So the following Monday I had people coming into my office wondering if I popped yet.

Nope, I still have two weeks, and I wouldn't be here if I did pop.

momotheflyinglemur · December 2015

Yeah, that sucks. There is a new dad in our office. His LO is two months old so he has been using me as a sounding board for his parenting and pre-parenting information for my entire pregnancy. We just found out approximately how much baby weighs and the first thing out of his mouth is "Did you know, that the measurement can be off by an ENTIRE pound in either direction?" Yes and no, my OB informed me that he could be about half a pound smaller, but was very unlikely to be larger. Still who cares...

He and his wife had a WHOLE birth plan ready, not that I have anything against those who put together birth plans in a formal manner. The only things on our birth plan is epidural: yes, delayed cord clamp: yes. Everything else, skin to skin and such is already common practice for my hospital. Unfortunately for his wife, her birthplan went out the window when her induction didn't take and she had to have an emergency c section. Still, he has been pressuring me, "make sure you have a birth plan" "you're going to want to know how things are going to go". Honey, you are a poster child for how things may not go the way you plan. I am going to go with the flow, because that is who me and my So are.

/rant

ammnam14 · December 2015

I went to TJ Maxx the other day to find a pair of sweatpants to come home in. This certain store is located in the "richer" area of town and snobby old ladies are everywhere. Two older ladies were having a conversation and one of them looked me up and down and said "Seriously?" Umm..okay. I'm aware I look like I'm 12 but that's just rude! This is why I don't like people. Lol

Daphneh28 · December 2015

momotheflyinglemur said:

Yeah, that sucks. There is a new dad in our office. His LO is two months old so he has been using me as a sounding board for his parenting and pre-parenting information for my entire pregnancy. We just found out approximately how much baby weighs and the first thing out of his mouth is "Did you know, that the measurement can be off by an ENTIRE pound in either direction?" Yes and no, my OB informed me that he could be about half a pound smaller, but was very unlikely to be larger. Still who cares...

He and his wife had a WHOLE birth plan ready, not that I have anything against those who put together birth plans in a formal manner. The only things on our birth plan is epidural: yes, delayed cord clamp: yes. Everything else, skin to skin and such is already common practice for my hospital. Unfortunately for his wife, her birthplan went out the window when her induction didn't take and she had to have an emergency c section. Still, he has been pressuring me, "make sure you have a birth plan" "you're going to want to know how things are going to go". Honey, you are a poster child for how things may not go the way you plan. I am going to go with the flow, because that is who me and my So are.

/rant

I hated when people would ask about my birth plan. My birth plan was to have a baby lol! But that happened to me, the induction didn't take so now I'm doing what I wished I didn't have to do, care for a newborn while nursing a major surgery wound. I'm not going to lie when I knew we were better off with a section I Lost it a bit cause it's nerve wrecking but the safety of my LO is first and foremost and I'd do it again for her. So birth plan mirch plan. Go with the flo and make the decisions that are right for you and your baby

itstheblackwidowbaby · December 2015

Oh god I don't miss this. My mom asked me "well how are YOU feeling?" when I hit 40 weeks pregnant. I started hysterically laughing (I snapped) and told her that that question should be off limits and illegal after 35 weeks.

Go ahead and start mentally prepping yourselves. The stupid questions don't stop PP, they just change. The next person who asks me how I'm sleeping is getting my foot up their ass.

krick43 · December 2015

One doctors I work with asked me how dilated I was yesterday... I know he is a doctor but we don't work in OB and he's the director of my program (so essentially my boss). I wasn't mad about it just absolutely mortified- people really do feel free to ask some crazy things. Or maybe I am just a total prude haha

sbodman82 · December 2015

Omg if i get one more you look huge comment or i bet there are twins in there im gonna flip. My new favorite is why am i still working and people actually asked if i was getting induced and i really want to say none of your buisness!

Praying41 · December 2015

I had a guy tell me the other day "omg you look like you are about to pop" gee thanks for making me feel like a cow.

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