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Pregnant after Vasectomy/No live sperm seen

40mom.defunct63584659817806474040mom.defunct635846598178064740 member
edited November 2015 in May 2016 Moms
I am 39 y/o and pregnant with baby #3 after a failed vasectomy! Huge shocker! My boys are 14 and 17 and we will be having a little girl this time! :) From all the research I've done and in speaking with people, I've found failed vasectomies are common. What IS NOT so common is what has happened to me...after we found I was pregnant, we had his semen tested and the result of "none seen" came back, the Dr. couldn't find any live sperm, so he basically said I was cheating on my partner. I'm highly frustrated and stressed about this. 

Has this happened to anyone else? 
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  • lalala2004lalala2004 member
    Woah, did the doctor actually say those words, or are you just inferring that?
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  • AstraphobicAstraphobic member
    I havnt had this happen to me, but I had a friend who had a vasectomy and his Dr. Told him to use protection for 3-6 months due to lingering active sperm. I can't give you the biological reasoning as to why but if you did the deed in that window that may be why....Plus there's probably a viable level of live sperm they look for and you just may be one in a billion.
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    40mom said:

    I am 39 y/o and pregnant with baby #3 after a failed vasectomy! Huge shocker! My boys are 14 and 17 and we will be having a little girl this time! :) From all the research I've done and in speaking with people, I've found failed vasectomies are common. What IS NOT so common is what has happened to me...after we found I was pregnant, we had his semen tested and the result of "none seen" came back, the Dr. couldn't find any live sperm, so he basically said I was cheating on my partner. I'm highly frustrated and stressed about this. 


    Has this happened to anyone else? 
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  • js8812js8812 member
    Oh wow! I have a cousin who is 37 and had twins this last year after a failed vasectomy. I don't believe they had a sample tested afterward, so I can't speak to that. That is such a stressful situation. The last thing you need right now is accusations of cheating. :(
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  • MellieRoseVargasMellieRoseVargas member
    Don't know anything about this but I'm sorry that you have to deal with the negativity.
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  • 40mom.defunct63584659817806474040mom.defunct635846598178064740 member
    edited November 2015
    Dr. told my partner that he did not need another vasectomy and that he had a "problem" on his hands, meaning, me... :(  I was not at the appointment, my partner just relayed this to me.  He has has been pretty cool about this and has not once accused me of cheating, although he is shocked by the no sperm count.  This is still just such a crazy situation, I was a least hoping the sperm count would point us to an answer as to how the heck this happened and ease the shock of it a little bit for everyone.
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  • thismakes4thismakes4 member
    That's bull on that drs part. My IUD failed and I got pregnant and we were planning a vasectomy for dh... But if THAT fails... Omg I don't even know. Hopefully you guys can overcome negativity. Drs aren't always right.
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  • camillaandcarsoncamillaandcarson member
    What did your partner say to the doctor?
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  • 40mom.defunct63584659817806474040mom.defunct635846598178064740 member
    I don't know what he said, I was not there. I think he was just so embarrassed he had to give a sample there, he was ready to get the heck out of there! ha!

    I think the Dr. just made him feel like we were crazy or something..Ugh.. I was trapped at work, I couldn't go..wish I could have...men are not always good at getting/giving information!
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  • 40mom.defunct63584659817806474040mom.defunct635846598178064740 member
    Since this pregnancy, I have talked to sooo many people who know of someone who's vasectomy has failed, years later...not just in the first year... Had I known how common it was, I would have never relied on it for a primary form of birth control.
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  • evalynn24evalynn24 member
    40mom said:
    I don't know what he said, I was not there. I think he was just so embarrassed he had to give a sample there, he was ready to get the heck out of there! ha!

    I think the Dr. just made him feel like we were crazy or something..Ugh.. I was trapped at work, I couldn't go..wish I could have...men are not always good at getting/giving information!
    So they were able to test the sample right after he gave it? I thought they would have had to send it off, or at least take the day if it was done at the same location? It seems like the doctor may have just been assuming and may not have known for sure.

    I know nothing about how they do the tests so I could be way off base, but it's just a thought.
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  • tripledaggerWed95976tripledaggerWed95976 member
    I can't offer any advise or expertise in this bit I wanted to say I'm really sorry his doctor did that-- that sounds very unprofessional.
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  • 40mom.defunct63584659817806474040mom.defunct635846598178064740 member
    Yes, they had a lab there, so they tested it after he gave it. We live 1.5 hours away so he was not able to go home and bring it back as there are time limits to follow.
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  • GemLeiGemLei member
    That sounds like a very stressful situation to be in. Hopefully everyone will receive reassurance after the DNA testing. GL!
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  • vinerievinerie member
    edited November 2015
    I'm just curious--how is your partner responding to all this and the suggestion from the dr.?
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  • helleebelleehelleebellee member
    Just because there was no live sperm in that sample doesn't mean a damn thing.  Unless they can test every single "sample," you can't be 100% positive nothing is getting through.  No birth control is 100%. 
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  • lisarenlisaren member
    Having worked in a Urological office in the past, we did vasectomies in the office and had the men bring in the samples and the DR would look at in from the microscope and tell if they were alive or not. It generally takes about 3 minutes.
    They do ask the men to give 3 samples. I would highly suggest your partner going to another office and doing another sample.




                                  
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  • 40mom.defunct63584659817806474040mom.defunct635846598178064740 member

    He's being fine with it, I am the one who is freaking out because I am the one pregnant and feel I have to answer to how the heck this even happened.  We live in a small town and all our friends/family know he's gotten a vasectomy.
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  • 40mom.defunct63584659817806474040mom.defunct635846598178064740 member
    Ok. Thank you,  I will mention it to him.
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  • 40mom.defunct63584659817806474040mom.defunct635846598178064740 member
    I know that now, haha! ;) Can't believe I relied soley on this, after all the failures I've heard about lately! :)
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  • seasalt123seasalt123 member
    I'm glad your SO isn't overreacting, but I can well imagine how frustrating this must be for you, particularly since you mentioned many people know he had the surgery. You can have another sample tested but ultimately you KNOW there was, at some point in time (even if that's no longer the case), some live sperm coming outta there. You can always get a DNA test after the baby is born - not to prove anything to yourself or your husband- but simply to put on your medical file so it's clear that this vasectomy DID fail. Whatever you do, good luck!
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  • mschill22mschill22 member
    Just because no live sperm were viewed in that sample doesn't mean that weeks and possibly months ago when you got pregnant, that there wasn't sperm then...
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  • LuxaniLuxani member
    My sister exists due to a failed vasectomy lol
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