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MIL seems against breastfeeding

gmk1784gmk1784 member
in July 2015 Moms
Ever since DS was born my MIL makes comments about why I shouldn't breastfeed him. At 2 weeks old DS would eat for like an hour straight and his doctor said he was trying to get my milk to come in. She said then that I should switch to formula and it would be better because DH could feed him too. They visited for Thanksgiving and she said that we should switch to solids because it will fill him up and milk is going to make him fat. She also said today that his cough (that he got at daycare) is probably an allergy to milk.

Every time they visit I make sure to have bottles ready and I don't feed him in front of them so it's not an inconvenience or awkward. I'm not going to listen to her or change anything but it's like damn lady, just let me feed my baby.

Ok, rant over
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Re: MIL seems against breastfeeding

  • qtjo5qtjo5 member
    Seems strange she would be so against it. Maybe you should send her some links or give her a breastfeeding book to educate her why breast milk is best for baby.

    A lot of my family members and in laws were annoyed with me breastfeeding at first (because it was so constant) but I have been educating them along the way and now at almost 5 months old no one says anything about me breast feeding, in fact they are so happy I am still going strong with it :smile:
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  • AKOL0AKOL0 member
    I would definitely give her some books or something. When I told my mother I was breastfeeding, she didn't understand. No one in my family has done it. Actually my husband talked me into it. Since I didn't know anyone that had I wasn't even thinking about it being an option. You definitely need to get her straightened out. It's better for your baby and your choice as a mother.
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  • n3na94n3na94 member
    I agree with the previous posts. She needs to be educated about breastfeeding and do not feel like you can't breastfeed in front of her. Breastfeeding is such a beautiful thing and it is so nutritional for them. It has everything they need and even if he starts on solids, he still needs his milk. Breast milk doesn't just fill him up, it nourished him, provides antibodies, vitamins, and a bond between you and your son (and so many other things). Breastfeeding is one of the many things I thank God for! Also I congratulate you for staying strong and not listening to her. You are doing great mama and it might be hard but know you are not alone. Don't let anyone else tell you what's best for your baby. Do speak with her and let her know about breast milk, and it's benefits. I hope she finally agrees with you and if not, stay strong! :smile:
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  • qtjo5qtjo5 member
    Sleeping on the back makes my mil so mad. She blames his thin hair on it lmao
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  • leelee1112leelee1112 member
    My MIL gives me a hard time about breastfeeding too! You are not alone. I agree with pp, we told her it's cheaper than formula. She finally shut up about it.
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  • randa923randa923 member
    I would agree with telling her it's free. Also I wouldn't have bottles ready when they come over. I'd just take him in the other room for a few minutes. Do you pump when they're over?
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  • gmk1784gmk1784 member
    randa923 said:

    I would agree with telling her it's free. Also I wouldn't have bottles ready when they come over. I'd just take him in the other room for a few minutes. Do you pump when they're over?

    They live 3 hours away so they come for weekends and holidays and stay over. They usually stay at my BIL's house who lives another 30 mins away, but that's a whole other story about them. They stop at our house on the way to BIL's so I usually pump before they get here. The few times they did stay with us since DS was born I do try to nurse him more so I can go in our bedroom and have a break
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  • ashleytiffashleytiff member
    edited December 2015
    How annoying! That's what boobs are for!
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  • Smark1129Smark1129 member
    Baby boomer generation had a completely different experience then us. Stomach sleeping, formula, solids early, don't 'spoil', etc.

    My MIL told us that when she was an infant, she was diagnosed with colic and the end solution that worked was whole fat cows milk (breast feeding was it because she was adopted). My LO was colicky and our solution was to eliminate dairy from my diet.

    Oh how times change. Makes me wonder what our babies will experience when they become parents.
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  • Savanna111911Savanna111911 member
    My mom is still this way some. She is super uncomfortable with public breastfeeding and wants me to take a bottle with me everywhere. I get blocked ducts really easily due to a bit of over supply so she doesn't understand that breastfeeding in public is easier than having to find somewhere to pump.
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  • keri0426keri0426 member
    Ask your mil to pay for formula since that is so much better. Perhaps she will shut her trap. Lol. Maybe she is jealous of the bond you are creating with LO and wants time on her own but can't because you are nursing? Keep up the good work, momma!
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