Everyone is impatient.. Who out there isn't besides me? (kinda long, sorry!)

Seleyna · December 2015

I've been lurking a lot more the past few months versus being more active in the beginning (DS has been extremely demanding of his Momma's attentions and he loves to bang on the keyboard if I'm on the computer).

But I have a silly question to pose to you ladies. I know that we are all sick and tired of being pregnant, and anxious to meet our new little persons. However, is there anyone out there who wants their kiddo just just chill and go a little over? I'm due Friday, but I'm hoping that he decides to wait until next week (since I'm scheduled the rest of the week), even though my plug is gone as of Turkey Day and the rest of it tonight.

I don't have a job with paid maternity leave, just Short-Term Disability, and working in the restaurant industry, money is a very hit or miss thing. So the longer I can work, the better off we'll be bills-wise and stocked up on diapers, especially since there wasn't a shower for this one, so everything is coming directly out of our own pockets, versus having the extra bit of cushion from friends and family that we got last year with our first. Not everyone's situations are the same, and I'm just curious

satindawl83 · December 2015

My insurance plan allows for fully paid maternity leave starting on January 1st, and I'm due the same day you are...so in theory, I should want to keep our baby in as long as possible.

BUT, I think for a lot of women, including me, it's the possible repercussions of going past our due date that's scary. What if my body won't naturally go into labor? What if the doctor wants to induce? Or what if going over means I'll need a c-section I may not have wanted? So on and so forth. We all know the baby is coming out eventually, but once you go over, the intervention talks start.

To me, that's scarier than losing out on a little money. Just my two cents.

Seleyna · December 2015

With my first, we were really hoping he would be early or at least on time. He was due close to his older brother's birthday, and my stepson's mother unfortunately is slightly unhinged, and I was terrified that she would tell him that we "were replacing him with his baby brother" if DS had been born on his birthday. As it was, I had Reese the day before Marcus' birthday.

I'm not expecting to go late with this one, but I'm at least hoping to make it to his due date.

BrookeBrown2015 · December 2015

I wasn't ready and was hoping he would stay in as long as possible until just here in the last couple days I have started feeling like I just want to get it over with. However, I am in college and I also would like to get all my classes done and over with. My Dr. Gave me a due date of 11/28 and ultrasound techs told me 12/4 based on size- have no clue what the other date is based on- but if I could make it until 12/11 that would be ideal so I could get my classes all done. So, mostly that's why I'm not ready is because of school. Also, I have yet to install my car seat or figure out how. I asked my husband to do it but it seems he is no more motivated than I am

. Nor have I packed a hospital bag...oh well, we don't live far from the hospital.

MerBot · December 2015

I'm not ready either. We have a basement renovation that needs to get done so our student renter can move down there and free up the baby's room. Due Dec 28 and all my moms babies were early. But I'm OK if I go a little late

More to self-care, I need some time off. I've been working relentlessly long weeks over the past year and took a few extra weeks off before the baby. I want to read many books, exercise and eat and sleep well for a little while before baby comes.

angelicac06 · December 2015

Yes! Im very sad I'm at 40 weeks this Wednesday and baby is schedule out via c section. No reason other than Ive loved being pregnant and sad it will be over. I wish I could push it out a week later. Ive been on leave since 38 weeks and my company is paying for it for over 3 months so im not concerned about that. Just don't want to stop being pregnant.

EmmyMommy123 · December 2015

I'm due New Year's Eve and I'd love it if baby would just stay even a few hours past my due date to be clear of the holidays. It's always such a hectic time! Plus hubbys company closes over the holidays and it'd be nice to have one last break together, as well as I'm almost done all my nesting and prepping, so the longer he stays cooking the longer I can relax!

At the same time I definitely fear being induced, I want to meet him so bad, and although I have mostly loved being pregnant, I'm having moments/hours/days where the physical strain is getting to me!

Cmagno · December 2015

I really wanted to make it to December so LO could have a December birthday, I'm due 12/2 and since its 7:30 PM on 11/30 I'm thinking I'm making it to December! After that I'm done!

Had a membrane sweep today and feeling crampy, excited to have made it full term and hoping she makes an appearance soon!

ZoeyRaeJames · December 2015

I'm excited, and nervous. But I'm at 37 weeks currently, so I have a little longer to go! I'm just tired of being tired, out of breath, and uncomfortable!

ATolentino89 · December 2015

I have always felt that my original due date would be when I would have him. I am due 12/9 but I will be induced 12/2. I was originally against an induction wholeheartedly but ever since he dropped I have been miserable. I blame it on my small frame (4'10") even though I only gained 20lbs. I have had an easy pregnancy thus far but when my dr mentioned an induction my type-a personality liked the idea of knowing when it would come to an end. That and since I live 45 minutes away from the hospital it takes the scary guesswork out of it (FTM so I have had anxiety about the big when)

kaitykins · December 2015

I am due 12/15/15 and I would like her to come around then. I have shortened and effaced but still plugged

. I have just stopped work (one more half day that is mostly to say goodbye) and have some things to try and accomplish this week and next. I will be so tired after she comes that I want to enjoy these last weeks of rest and getting stuff done while I can. I just hope she comes before Christmas but who really knows.

celainev · December 2015

I'm overjoyed to meet my LO sometime soon!! However, I get a really sad feeling whenever I think about not being pregnant anymore.

And my pregnancy has been anything but easy! But it's still such a comforting feeling never being alone!

mltarrio · December 2015

I am due Christmas Day and I (selfishly) would really like baby girl to stay put long enough so I can enjoy Christmas dinner.

sheinritz · December 2015

Baby girl is due 12/16 and I'm hoping she stays in 'til her date or a few days after. My husband is a first year teacher so he only gets the holiday break off from work and I want him to have as much time with her as possible before going back.

groovylocks · December 2015

I complain but i have enjoyed being pregnant and have had a much easier one than i could have had, considering what i've heard other women talking about. Hypotension/low BP/faintness has been the worst symptom i've had, really and I've carried small so I've been pretty agile right up to now. I've enjoyed this and I am well aware that if we do this again, next time could potentially suck. So I've tried to savor these moments.

But I'm not sure that I'd say I would like to put it off. I want my daughter. I miss her. I want to touch her face and hear her voice and hold her. So as much as being pregnant has been interesting and fun, she's the whole reason I put myself through it all. And she's all i can think about.

CanadAli · December 2015

I'm due 12/16 with my first, and I am in NO HURRY to deliver. I totally hear you! Even though I get six months of partially paid leave (I live in Canada so technically I get a year, but I make more $$ than my husband so we're splitting the leave and he's taking the last six months), I'm in no hurry to be done being pregnant. This baby (still a gender surprise!) can come when they are good and ready and not a second before. I have a midwife so I'm not worried about "failure to progress" or having a forced induction, and I like that my husband and I are more relaxed about the birth. Don't get me wrong, I'm super excited to have a baby and find out what the gender is and what they look like, but everything will happen when it happens. . . . as long as it happens AFTER this Friday (I have my work Christmas party and my MIL got me a new dress to wear!) lol

soccsm13 · December 2015

I am so not ready! I think having a toddler at home is giving me anxiety. I can't wait to meet baby girl, but it's also such a change to go from one to two kids! I'm a stay at home mom too, so I will be jumping right in to full time with 2 kids. I kinda wish I could put my son in daycare for a month

I am only 37.5w though so I'm soaking up the 1-1 time I have with my son for now! Today we made cookies and did a fun art project.

rockinmathchic · December 2015

I'm wanting baby to bake as long as she can but for a different reason. I am a STM and my first was delivered 1 day shy of 35 weeks due to HELLP Syndrome and Severe Preeclampsia and spent 2 weeks in the NICU. My goal this pregnancy is to make it as far as I can. So far I have been doing well and I will be 36 weeks tomorrow. I am not worried if DD comes at 37 weeks or 40 weeks, as long as she is ready and healthy.

Ancheta3 · December 2015

I wouldn't mind being pregnant for another three months!

harstadkn15 · December 2015

I have to admit I had an easy going pregnancy until recently. And now I am so ready. ..37 weeks and due12/23. I have had a rough week and would love to see the joyous outcome. I had intense pain this Saturday that we (my husband and the on call doc) thought was labor pain for over 12 hours. I finally begged my husband to take me to the hospital at 8pm. Once I arrived, the nurse asked for my symptoms and she thought it didn't sound like labor but like a kidney infection. An ultra sound tech arrived very quickly and shared that there was no blockage but what looked like pus on my left kidney. I received 48 hours of IV antibiotics treatment for kidney infection and we strained my urine just to check for stones. I was just thankful that I wasn't crazy (everyone kept asking me if the contractions were getting closer and I kept saying the pain doesn't go away). My cultures came back negative for any bacteria. My anemia spiked due to the kidney infection and not bringing my iron pills to the hospital. I left the hospital with some kidney pain and an oral antibiotic prescription (with the orders to have tylenol for pain unless it was severe, return to the hospital). Once at home, I took a day to recover and relax, only to have a raging yeast infection occur (which is most likely due to antibiotics, according to my doc). I would love to work (I enjoy my job) but I am so uncomfortable that I'm unsure if I will be able to make it a whole day tomorrow. I feel guilty taking time off to recover and not have a baby in my arms. Therefore, I think my impatience to have baby here is mostly due to feelings of guilt and tired of being so uncomfortable.

TomekiaB · December 2015

I'm 38+2 and have had some soreness in my hips and back but not enough so that I'm anxious to have the baby early. I really just want the baby to come within 4-5 days of the due date. My OB said he would induce at 41 weeks if necessary and I assumed that meant 41+0 (which is my ideal time frame because I don't like the statistics for the risk to the baby after 41 weeks). My midwife said she would sweep at 40+2 and schedule induction for 12 days past EDD so (41+5)...waiting until 41+5 for induction would not make me happy medically! I will be speaking to my OB for clarification this week on how close to 41+0 he intends to induce, if necessary. I also think it is weird to seriously discuss induction when at this point baby could still come "early" or on time.

steffnstuff · December 2015

People keep asking me if I'm ready and making assumptions that I am. While I am excited to meet my LO, I've done this three times already and I am not in any way looking forward to the recovery process (I'm having a rcs ). I'm also not done nesting. So at this point, as uncomfortable as I am, I'm in no rush for my scheduled date to come at least until I finish everything around the house I want to get done.

groovylocks · December 2015

I think one thing that does come to mind though, beyond just wanting to see and hold and hear her, is the constant fear that she's in some sort of distress. Like today.. she's been really quiet. She has quiet days now and then and I realize she's running out of room but my exhausted, terrified, first-time-mom brain is coming up with wild scenarios of her continual doom, mostly because i just can't see her. I can't hold a mirror under her tiny nose to check for steam. I can't give her a poke and wake her up. I mean sometimes that works.. but she's a little turd about sleeping when she wants to sleep

So there IS that. I DO want her out for that reason.

raq_2020 · December 2015

I want him to come late, for sure! This pregnancy has been awful for me and I definitely want that part to be over & absolutely want to meet my little baby! However, those things don't change the fact that we have a lot to do to prepare for him, such as purchasing items, preparing the nursery, installing car seat, etc., etc. So I am counting on baby boy coming on time or a bit late.

BrookeBrown2015 · December 2015

@groovylocks yes! I'm feeling just like that- especially I think because people have been asking me a lot lately if he's moving more and I'm just like- more?! Um... no? I thought he was supposed to be moving less because he is squished?! It's starting to worry me that I haven't felt any contractions, haven't lost mucus plug, nothing. Nothing is going on/has happened and I am due any day now.

kelseyofanne · December 2015

BrookeBrown2015 said:
@groovylocks yes! I'm feeling just like that- especially I think because people have been asking me a lot lately if he's moving more and I'm just like- more?! Um... no? I thought he was supposed to be moving less because he is squished?! It's starting to worry me that I haven't felt any contractions, haven't lost mucus plug, nothing. Nothing is going on/has happened and I am due any day now.

Maybe you just aren't feeling them? I miss a lot of my more mild contractions since it's just a tightness and not really something that interferes with day to day life. Sex and nipple stimulation can help get things going though if you're concerned!

groovylocks · December 2015

BrookeBrown2015 said:

@groovylocks yes! I'm feeling just like that- especially I think because people have been asking me a lot lately if he's moving more and I'm just like- more?! Um... no? I thought he was supposed to be moving less because he is squished?! It's starting to worry me that I haven't felt any contractions, haven't lost mucus plug, nothing. Nothing is going on/has happened and I am due any day now.

Actually some babies get really active before birth and some get really quiet and some stay the same.

Also, not everybody loses their mucus plug in one big glom - lots of women lose it gradually apparently and don't even realize they've lost it. I also heard that not all women even LOSE the thing before they go into labor but i don't know for sure if that's true.

And don't worry. He won't be in there forever. It'll happen

With a lot of FTMs, I read we don't even know what hit us and it comes out of the blue because we don't know what to look for.

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