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Kbalas1018
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I know pregnancy hormones cause us to be a lot more emotional and I have definitely been experiencing that first hand more so lately than I have throughout my entire pregnancy (30.5 weeks).
What bothers me though is that because I am pregnant, very few people take my emotions seriously. Everything I say or feel is stamped "pregnancy". I generally am a vocal person anyways but I have been more vocal because with certain situations I think I have the right to be because it has to do with decisions for my baby.
But there is nothing that I have reacted to that I wouldn't have reacted to before. I may just shed a few more tears or be more heightened than what I would have prior to pregnancy. It causes me a lot of frustration because even though my husband or my other family members will try and console me, that's all they're doing... They're not really listening. They're not really hearing the issue and trying to help change it because they can't see past the "pregnancy hormones". It comes across as very patronizing as if they're secretly laughing it off in their minds.
I dealt with it even at work. It was like as soon as everyone found out I was pregnant people quit considering my opinion because apparently pregnant women suddenly don't know how to rationalize anything.
This is very hard to deal with for someone who is a very logical thinker.
Does anyone else feel this way? If so, how do you deal with it?
I have talked to my husband about it some, and he seems to try to understand but I don't notice a lot changing which doesn't help with how I feel and respond to things. It makes me feel very alone and irritated all the time.
What bothers me though is that because I am pregnant, very few people take my emotions seriously. Everything I say or feel is stamped "pregnancy". I generally am a vocal person anyways but I have been more vocal because with certain situations I think I have the right to be because it has to do with decisions for my baby.
But there is nothing that I have reacted to that I wouldn't have reacted to before. I may just shed a few more tears or be more heightened than what I would have prior to pregnancy. It causes me a lot of frustration because even though my husband or my other family members will try and console me, that's all they're doing... They're not really listening. They're not really hearing the issue and trying to help change it because they can't see past the "pregnancy hormones". It comes across as very patronizing as if they're secretly laughing it off in their minds.
I dealt with it even at work. It was like as soon as everyone found out I was pregnant people quit considering my opinion because apparently pregnant women suddenly don't know how to rationalize anything.
This is very hard to deal with for someone who is a very logical thinker.
Does anyone else feel this way? If so, how do you deal with it?
I have talked to my husband about it some, and he seems to try to understand but I don't notice a lot changing which doesn't help with how I feel and respond to things. It makes me feel very alone and irritated all the time.
Re: Need to vent
Just do your best to keep your personality the same. There is nothing wrong with feeling more emotional, obviously, but do your best to control your actions in response to the feelings, then when people try to discount you, point out that you have been under control and the opinion that you are voicing now is the same as it would be if you weren't pregnant.
So, what I have done, is tried to distance myself MORE from these kind of people. Because if I don't, I am actually pretty easy to make really mad, and will flip out. And the pregnancy hormones have REALLY upped that attitude! I guess that's just the "mama bear" instincts really kicking in. Lol! But I understand where you're coming from. It's very annoying, and frustrating!
There's just a lot on our plates so I think anyone regardless of pregnancy or not would feel a lot of the way that I do. My husbands temper has even been worse, not always directed at me but I can see his anger rise quickly with many situations and he's not pregnant!! Lol. My point in saying that is clearly the things I get upset about are not just due to pregnancy. I really try to think through everything before I speak because I don't want the hormones to be what's talking.
I really just need encouragement and prayer.