Baby Shower for Baby #2: yay or nay?

spicedice · November 2015

I've had a few people ask me if we will be having a baby shower for our second little one. Part of me thinks that it is tacky, since the kids will only be about 21 months apart once our second one is born. Another part of me would love the chance to celebrate this little one.

I know a lot of people who had a full baby shower for their second, but their kids were closer to 3 years apart.

I'm not planning on throwing anything, but should I tell others not to bother throwing me one if they ask? I don't even know if I should make a baby registry.

What do you guys think?

Motiejmr · November 2015

My mother in law wanted to throw me another baby shower for my new baby since I am having a girl this time. I told her I don't mind having a small gathering at her house and recieving some clothes or diapers but no to a full on baby shower like I had the first time around. I won't be registering, my daughter won't care if she has blue jungle theme towels just like my son doesn't care we were given a pink Bumbo chair for him. My son is only going to be 23 months so all of his things are still in perfect order for her to use. If there are large items such as a rock and play I want I will be buying them myself

akb1125 · November 2015

I say nay. My mil asked about and I said no. It seems gift grabby to me.

Mailmans Baby Momma · November 2015

I think if someone offers to throw you a sprinkle that it's fine (however I learned during my last pregnancy this is regional thing). I'm going to decline the one at work they're going to offer to throw me.

And just FYI some people register but don't share the registry just to get the completion coupon.

spicedice · November 2015

Mailmans Baby Momma said:
I think if someone offers to throw you a sprinkle that it's fine (however I learned during my last pregnancy this is regional thing). I'm going to decline the one at work they're going to offer to throw me.

And just FYI some people register but don't share the registry just to get the completion coupon.

I'm not a fan of baby showers, so having an excuse to say no will be nice.

I have a register that no one can see as a reminder to myself of things that I want to get new. There were a couple things we gave away or never bought with DS, so I planned on buying those things myself.

DH wants to throw a baby celebration right before April with some family and friends. It wouldn't even be baby related--just getting people together to eat and drink beer.

jonesl12 · November 2015

I'd decline

Sarcasm101 · November 2015

Nope. At 21 months apart you should still have all the baby stuff from round 1. Its gift grabby.

If you want to celebrate your new baby, host a sip and see after the baby is born.

sarahufl · November 2015

Decline.

spicedice · November 2015

This has definitely solidified my desire to decline another baby shower. Thank you, mommas!

blonde_mama · November 2015

If someone is offering to throw you one then I don't see why not. Maybe just have a sprinkle instead of a full on shower if you feel weird about it

spicedice · November 2015

jordanbara said:
If someone is offering to throw you one then I don't see why not. Maybe just have a sprinkle instead of a full on shower if you feel weird about it

I might compromise with a diaper and beer party, if those people keep pressuring me about a shower. Get all of my friends drunk in exchange for diapers and wipes? That's definitely way more tolerable than people guessing if I'm as big as a beache whale or a hippopotamus lol

NachosAndPeaches · November 2015

If someone offers then I think it's polite accept but stress no gifts, just a celebration. A small celebration!

AshleyM1985 · November 2015

My ds and new baby will be just about 5 yrs apart. I've already had a few people ask about a shower. I've said no thanks.

Honestly we budgeted for baby before trying to have baby. I will appreciate any gifts I get but they are not by any means expected

geminioftwo · November 2015

I'd say no.

MamaRoni · November 2015

I'm torn on this as well... here in the deep south we usually just do one... unless there's a big age difference or different sex...
however... I have a frieNd on her second baby, years of trying, different sex than first baby... and she's had 3 showers so far. And asked me tosay when mine would be...
my BFF wants to throw a "something" even with this being our 5th aNd 5th boy. She says we should still celebrate him. Idk. I'm just torn. I did get rid of lots and lots of baby items after my last one but I hate to appear needy... when I just want to celebrate his life ; )

pinottoparenthood · November 2015

I was offered a shower or a sprinkle by friends for this baby (my second, three years apart). I said no because I think it's tacky. My friends have all already bought me baby gifts, why should they feel obligated to do that again? Also, anyone who is truly my friend will celebrate with me in her own way throughout this process, whether it's chatting about the baby, coming over to meet the baby after he's born, etc. Honestly, I don't see the point of having a "shower" if you request no gifts. People are still going to feel like they should bring gifts, and its' just weird. If you want to get together with your friends, just have a regular cook-out, dinner, or party, and don't call it a "shower" if you don't want people to feel like they should bring gifts. Because if there aren't any gifts, it's not a shower.

rebelone · November 2015

DD is 2 and even though this one is a boy I don't plan on having anything. It's not going to hurt me to get clothes for him and we have gender neutral baby things except for the electric swing, it was a gift for DD and it's pink. He's not going to care what color it is. :P

spicedice · November 2015

MamaRoni said:
I'm torn on this as well... here in the deep south we usually just do one... unless there's a big age difference or different sex...
however... I have a frieNd on her second baby, years of trying, different sex than first baby... and she's had 3 showers so far. And asked me tosay when mine would be...
my BFF wants to throw a "something" even with this being our 5th aNd 5th boy. She says we should still celebrate him. Idk. I'm just torn. I did get rid of lots and lots of baby items after my last one but I hate to appear needy... when I just want to celebrate his life ; )

I really want to celebrate this baby in some way. DH wants to do a BBQ before baby comes.

This baby wasn't planned and it caused us a lot of stress right after finding out. After talking it out, DH and I decided that we were happy that the pregnancy happened when it did, and that we were really excited to have another little one come into our lives. DH and I talked about this being our last baby if this is a girl. If this is really our last baby, then I really want to celebrate the last time that I'll ever go through this miracle, especially since we were afraid that we might not be able to have any more kids. I had two miscarriages before DS stuck with Clomid, and I was terrified to do that all over again and come out with no sticky baby. This baby was a blessing for that fact.

rebelone · November 2015

I was also thinking if I would do anything, maybe have a BBQ and invite people and make no mention about bringing gifts but just maybe say come meet DS.

spicedice · November 2015

thegoudalife said:
I say just have a regular barbecue. No mention of gifts, diapers, etc. Just invite people to one last shindig before the baby comes and life gets pretty hectic.

If people want to bring a gift, they will. And it's still a celebration!

I'm now set on the BBQ idea. If anyone says they want to throw me something, I'm going to decline and see if they want to help out at the BBQ.

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