Anyone else just feel "down"??

ChrissyMarie128 · November 2015

Seriously. I don't know what it is or what exactly happened to put me in this funk but I feel miserable. I'm eating horribly because nothing but carb heavy and bad for me seems be able to go down easy. I'm sleeping on but it could be better. Have the constant urge to gag sometimes. I feel like I just need to jump out of my skin right now. Maybe I'm just being a whimp right now, but damn I wish I felt better emotionally. I just feel down in the dumps. Maybe its underlying anxiety since I have officially made it past where I was when I miscarried. I don't know, but this feeling has been a little debilitating.

Anyone feeling similar?

Puddles03 · November 2015

That sounds common, might I suggest you see a perinatal therapist who deals with this specifically? It helped me a lot last time and I might be setting up a meeting just to make sure things don't progress to what they did after I had DD last time.

Y0urm0m · November 2015

You should definitely mention this to your OB. prenatal depression is very much real. It also puts you at an increased risk of post natal depression. Hope you can get the help you need.

acadia07 · November 2015

I've been feeling pretty down. But for me, it's directly related to how bad I'm feeling physically. Pregnancy is so hard on me. I'm sick all day long from 5w-20w and doing anything is a struggle. Showering is a struggle. I'm usually into fashion and makeup and I haven't put on a decent outfit or lipstick in weeks. I feel like a disgusting mess of a failure, I'm not myself. Add in the guilt of having two kids who I never take anywhere fun because I just can't and the extra burden I'm putting on my already taxed husband...it's a tough pill to swallow.

Yesterday, I woke up with severe vertigo. It's unrelated to the pregnancy (I have an inner ear disorder), and just such shittty timing. As if I needed to feel worse! I literally could not stand up without the world tilting. At one point, I stumbled to the bathroom and the vertigo made the nausea so much worse that I immediately threw up and peed myself. Low moment. I cried all day. I missed Thanksgiving. I finally sent my husband and kids to my parents' at 2 because it was clear I wasn't making it. I've been so sad since then, even though the vertigo has eased. I'm just miserable and pregnancy is mean. But it's like this every time, and I'll be okay. I'm an eternal optimist, and while it's hard to keep my chin up, I manage. And thinking of the gorgeous baby I'll get to hold in a few months helps.

Mention it to your OB, but I do think it's fairly normal. Pregnancy is hard on us, it's not all love and glowing and happy baby kicks and joy. It's okay to feel your feels.

carcrashheart · November 2015

Y0urm0m said:
You should definitely mention this to your OB. prenatal depression is very much real. It also puts you at an increased risk of post natal depression. Hope you can get the help you need.

I agree with this. Make sure a professional knows how you're feeling so that they can monitor it and take action, if needed. Feel better!

ChrissyMarie128 · November 2015

I have an appointment this Monday and will certainly mention it. I wouldn't classify it as a severe or completely overwhelming sense of depression, but just down and physically worn. It's really only been these last 2 days. I'm happy. This is just not me and I'm hoping it's just a phase.

Thanks for all the suggestions and support!

stillcozy · November 2015

I agree with above posts. Hang in there and let us know how we can support there is an exercise post if you want we can post there to support each other in healthy eating.

your not alone I've had many a day where I struggle to get out of bed because I feel so awful.

Y0urm0m · November 2015

And when ever your feeling sad post here. We can always have a gif party for you. We are here for you

victoria98 · November 2015

I definitely feel this. I just want to be in bed all day! & being in bed obviously makes me gain weight so I just end up feeling more like crap. Plus I haven't talked to the BD in like 3 weeks. I feel so alone & physically miserable. Even though I'm really not alone, I have my mom and my family but even when I'm with them I find myself uncomfortable & going to another room to be alone. I'm not sure if that's depression but it definitely feels like it COULD get there. I'm sure once I feel better physically I'll feel 10x better mentally. Like my jeans fit so tight & if that's not depressing I don't know what is. Walking more is for sure my goal just because it's overall healthy for everything. I just need to get my lazy ass up every once and a while to do it !

stillcozy · November 2015

victoria98 said:
I definitely feel this. I just want to be in bed all day! & being in bed obviously makes me gain weight so I just end up feeling more like crap. Plus I haven't talked to the BD in like 3 weeks. I feel so alone & physically miserable. Even though I'm really not alone, I have my mom and my family but even when I'm with them I find myself uncomfortable & going to another room to be alone. I'm not sure if that's depression but it definitely feels like it COULD get there. I'm sure once I feel better physically I'll feel 10x better mentally. Like my jeans fit so tight & if that's not depressing I don't know what is. Walking more is for sure my goal just because it's overall healthy for everything. I just need to get my lazy ass up every once and a while to do it !

Bring it up in your next appointment if you are still feeling this way I'm planning on it too

I'm wondering if our hormone changes have something to do with many of us feeling so down. So many changes happening it's hard sometimes to keep up, hang in there we are here for you.

juliaL13 · November 2015

I'm with you....but I don't know for me if it's really depression or the fact that I often feel down when I am really tired and/or not feeling well....I remember feeling kinda like this with my first, but once the first tri was over I felt like myself again. I hope that's what will happen with this pregnancy!

Taymiller · November 2015

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m8881 · November 2015

Early pregnancy can be the worst. So many worries and fears and you don't look pregnant. You feel bloated and sick and no one knows why. I hate this time during pregnancy. I know it's worth it but it's hard. I feel exactly like you but not every day. Today is a rough one. Nausea all day, only junk is partly edible. We ate mini donuts for lunch

Can't wait for the next phase.

picare88 · November 2015

I can relate to all of these posts....I suffer from anxiety/depression and SADD around this time of the year. I am 8w along and have been off my meds for about 2 months. Feel awful....feel tired, never know what I want to eat and throw up/gag a lot. I feel like crying ever now and then. Not sure how to get over it....I'm kinda at a loss as well...

anneliesvm · November 2015

Hi, I'm happy to read that other moms to be are feeling miserable too. I don't mean to sound harsh, just thought i was the only one.
Since i found out i'm pregnant i've been doubting if this is a good idea (although i was looking forward to it beforehand), i've been doubting my relationship and just in general my life and how i'm living it. And i just can't seem to shake these feelings

This all on top of feeling sick everyday and being tired.
Please tell me this gets better

i can't confide in anyone due to a lack of friends i'm afraid. I hope to be able to talk here.

stillcozy · November 2015

We can support each other here Pregnancy is hard in itself and add in all our extras and it can definitely feel daunting

I'm very thankful for this thread.

Crystal520 · November 2015

I felt this way yesterday at work. I woke up feeling really nauseous and threw up twice. I work at an animal hospital as a receptionist and we have a separate room for incoming/outgoing calls aka the phone room. Well I was scheduled to be at the front which means I would mostly be on my feet. I asked a co-worker to switch with me so I could be in the phone room so I could sit more and she basically told me to "suck it up. it's all part of pregnancy". It made me almost cry. She is a really close friend of mine and I know she didn't mean anything by it but with my emotional state, it just brought me down. Luckily I started feeling better halfway through my shift and we weren't that busy.

Hang in there hun! We are all here for you and each other!!!

Jodi1980 · November 2015

Like the rest of you ladies, I too have had many doubts when this was the very thing we wanted! I have history of depression and unfortunately runs on my families side. I only have my husband's side of the family to help me. Loss has been significant on my side. While this is supposed to be a wonderful, happy time, it's just blah for me. Perhaps it's the MS right now (only queasy and nausea, the tight fitting clothes, etc.. I am also 3 years out since bariatric surgery. I had the procedure, the VSG (vertical sleeve gastrectomy) and have successfully lost about 100 pounds. I donated my clothing some time ago only to need them back. It plays with my mind of how bloated I have become among the moodiness. Among all things, I can't confide in the very people I need right now...my mother, aunt, uncle. Worst of all, I don't talk to many women I can call good friends plus I am only 6 weeks 5 days so people won't know until after the New Year when I am further along.
I'm chewing on ginger root and it seems to curb the nausea. I'm just trying to make the best of it right now.
Hoping all of you ladies make the best of your time while pregs....if your mad at your mom, dad, sister, brother, it's not worth it! You might not have them tomorrow!! Get over it and have them with you always! Xo

sboston06 · November 2015

@Jodi1980 - I am going through a very similar thing right now. I lost 80 lbs between January 2013 and October 2014 and have really only been at goal for about a year. I am grateful that I have many of the healthy habits, but this bloat is just so depressing. I feel like a failure for gaining weight even though that's what I'm supposed to be doing (though maybe not this early).

I'm glad we have this community too.

stillcozy · November 2015

Hi ladies I'm struggling this evening. Feeling really nauseous and just feeling anxious about going back to work after some time off. I don't even know why I just am and I had a hard workout to try and improve my mood but now I'm worried that I pushed to hard and worry about little baby. Ugh just a bad night!

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