What do you hope to pass on?

and_peggy · November 2015

Just thought it would be fun to see what traits (personality and physical) you all hope to pass on to your child.

For me, I'm hoping our child will have my husband's piercing green eyes and his wit. He is very quiet but when he says something, people listen. I admire that about him. I have always been very independent and decisive, so I would hope to pass on some of that.

(Edited for typo)

thismakes4 · November 2015

My blue eyes with my husbands dark skin. None of my children have blue eyes yet. As well as athletic capabilities and musical talent.

Charissadeats · November 2015

An open mind and the ability to think and argue for him/herself.

kbrands7 · November 2015

I'm hoping that this little one gets at least some of the qualities that DS displays of ours, namely my compassion/empathy, focus, and musical ability and DH's sense of humor and decisiveness. He is quick to learn like both of us, but also inherited other shared qualities like stubbornness (which can sometimes be good) and he's a light sleeper. Is it too much to hope for a slightly heartier sleeper?

Physically, I wouldn't mind if this child has more of my Mediterranean coloring. But, if he/she has DH's blue/green eyes, whiter skin, and lighter brown hair that would be great too. He's handsome and our son has his coloring but more of my facial features. I think a mix of light/dark would be stunning though. I do hope that this one gets DH's cheek dimples and taller height and my hair body/thickness like DS did. I'm really hoping to not pass on my thalassemia minor trait.

Really, we got very lucky with our son and I'm hoping that this LO is a nice combination of us as well.

yogahh · November 2015

DH and I are veryyyyyy similar in our personalities so won't be surprised if our kid is as opinionated and stubborn as we both are! There is nothing specific I *want* to pass along though. I just want our kids to be smart and healthy and caring. And to learn to be their own person.

camillaandcarson · November 2015

Something simple: my eye color. Hair color would be cool if it were my mom's hair color (I know, kind of silly but would be neat.)
Our first is amazing in personality, humor, intelligence and health. Of course I hope for the same with the next go round.

Merciel · November 2015

Good health (mine), IQ (both, so hopefully that one works out), ambition/drive/focus (mine), decency/strong ethics (husband's, definitely not mine). If we can either teach or pass on those traits, I figure the rest will take care of itself.

AdorkablePixie · November 2015

I'm hoping my baby gets my eye color (blue) even though its the recessive gene. I also hope the baby gets my intelligence and determination and DHs artistic abilities. I hope it gets both of our athletic genes. Mostly though, all I want is for my little bean to be happy and healthy and think for itself!

NinnyJean · November 2015

I'm really hoping our little one will have my dimples. We both have curly hair, so hoping the little one will have that too. My husband is a logical thinker and hoping that gets passed down too!

Par13 · November 2015

It would be neat if this LO got DH's blue eyes, but I think that's pretty unlikely as my eyes are so dark brown that I doubt I have any recessive genes for eye color.

From a personality perspective, I think that's a lot of learned behavior rather than genetics, so I hope we can instill a sense of humility, respectfulness, and generosity through DH's and my actions...although I have a pretty short temper; I need to learn to work on that so LOs don't pick up that trait!

arj14 · November 2015

DH's eyes - not necessarily color (we both have blue eyes), but DH has really good eyesight and I have terrible eyesight. Also, DH is a redhead, and I think if our baby was a freckle-y redhead I would die of cuteness.

Merinmac · November 2015

I'm hoping my little girl is a redhead.

I'm ginger myself, and dh had some reddish highlights in his hair and beard, so there's a good chance. I also really hope she's a reader like I am. I have so many books I can't wait to introduce her to! From dh, I'd like her to have his abstract thinking ability and calm, even temper. I wouldn't wish my emotional mess of a brain on anyone.

kbrands7 · November 2015

Par13 said:
It would be neat if this LO got DH's blue eyes, but I think that's pretty unlikely as my eyes are so dark brown that I doubt I have any recessive genes for eye color.

From a personality perspective, I think that's a lot of learned behavior rather than genetics, so I hope we can instill a sense of humility, respectfulness, and generosity through DH's and my actions...although I have a pretty short temper; I need to learn to work on that so LOs don't pick up that trait!

The eye color could happen! I have dark eyes, but several of my great grandparents and one grandmother had blue eyes. Almost everyone in DH's family has blue or green eyes and our son ended up with blue eyes (though they may turn blue green like DH's since DH says his were solid blue like DS's until he was around 3yrs).

I agree with you about many mannerisms being passed on through example rather than genetics. DH used to have a nasty habit of pointing and shaking his finger when he was angry. At nine months, DS started doing it. DH was mortified and watched his body language better after that and within a few weeks, DS stopped doing it too and started asking for hugs when he was angry instead (something I encouraged).

Charla1224 · November 2015

I feel mean for saying this but knowing we're having a girl I hope LO is a lot like me physically. My H's family creates great looking manly men and women. H played the center position in college football and his girl cousins could've joined him on the offensive line. On the other hand I spent every weekend at a dance competition growing up (Abby Lee style) and danced on my college team. I've spent most of my life long and lean.

amscape · November 2015

Empathy is the first thing that comes to mind. Being intelligent, thinking critically & growing tall like DH would be great for rowing & other sports are secondary things that would be great too!

mhc13 · November 2015

My easy going personality! My daughter totally has a stubborn streak like my husband. She's been the most willful and independent child. Something I adore and laugh about but it can be really frustrating at times. It would be great if baby #2 was more of a go with the flow kid. We shall see! Though I hear taureans are very stubborn...if you believe in all that.

H0neyC0mb · November 2015

I'm hoping to pass along my red hair as well.

If they had H's blue eyes or my green eyes that would be awesome too. We'll probably end up with a blond though.

H and I are so different personality wise it'll really be a toss up. I really hope they get my empathy and H's I'm-going-to-change-the-world out look on life. I already know that they're going to be stubborn, as that's one major trait H and I actually share.

AdorkablePixie · November 2015

arj14 said:

DH's eyes - not necessarily color (we both have blue eyes), but DH has really good eyesight and I have terrible eyesight. Also, DH is a redhead, and I think if our baby was a freckle-y redhead I would die of cuteness.

I want a redhead so bad. My brother has brown hair but his little girl was born with reddish hair and I love it. Apparently it's the hair color my grandfather had. Red heads are adorable.

Sienna516 · November 2015

I'm hoping our little guy inherits these traits from each of us:

From me:

Loving to read

Good at English/language

Good at math

Musical

From husband:

Good at computers/technology/cars

Good at cooking

Common sense

Good at science (especially units, somehow I epically fail at measuring units)

I hope he doesn't inherit our nonathletic ability/interest and both of our inability to dance. Both of us would totally help him as much as we could if he took an interest in either. I hope we can raise him to be a little less introverted than we are too.

saladflambe · November 2015

My husband's eyes (I mean vision...he has perfect vision)

My teeth (no ortho work ever)

His saliva (apparently his saliva contains a natural anti-cavity protein, so he's never had a cavity)

My thyroid (DH is hyperthyroid)

DH's skin (I had horrendous acne)

...you can see where my priorities lie (avoid all the doctors!!)

Jesse835235 · November 2015

From my husband:
Vision
Interest in science/math (he's an engineer)
Being handy/ problem solving abilities

From me:
Hair
Vocabulary/public speaking abilities

From both:
Straight teeth
Athletic ability
Eye color (his are blue, mine are green)

We're not having a girl, but I hope any future girls have my body type.

I just hope baby is full of personality that is uniquely his own. So exciting honking about it.

TheThornBird · November 2015

Great question!

I have a rebellious streak, question everything, and am a critical thinker. My SO tends to follow social norms and go with the crowd more, but has a tremendous amount of confidence, is very vocal about his opinions, and loves to rock the boat. I'm hoping our baby gets the best of both and we have one mighty little hell-raiser. I'd love to have a kid who questions my authority and keeps me on my toes

laurenmdrn16 · November 2015

I hope that our child gets MH's laid-back, chill personality. Sometimes I see my son get a little too intense about stuff, just like me, and it makes me kind of sad because I know how stressful it can be to be so tightly wound.

I also hope that our second child has our entire family's love of music. We are a ridiculously musical family and I would hate for our newest member to feel left out. I wouldn't mind if this nugget was a *tad* bit more cuddly and physically affectionate since my son is a lot like MH and shows love through acts of service and not physical displays of affection like me. It is sweet that my son wants to get my water bottle, put on my socks, clean up, and wrap a blanket around me, but I wouldn't mind a little more cuddling.

I will say that my son and MH have GIANT feet and hands so, if this one is a girl, I hope she doesn't have man-hands too. I have extremely petite hands and feet so I know it is much easier for me to find cute shoes for my fairy feet (size 5 1/2!) than my sister who has average sized 8. Of course, MH is a 14 mens and my son (who is only two) is already in an 8-9 toddler. We also need to get my son child sized mittens/gloves since the toddler ones are too small.

This is going to sound weird, but my son is a bit of a goody-goody, which I really appreciate (and he definitely got from his Dada), but I wouldn't mind a little rebel. I was sneakily rebellious growing up in that I would make everyone love me and then get away with whatever I wanted. I was a "living doll" and because I would smile and say nice, polite things, no one ever suspected that I was the one causing trouble. Though I am sure it annoyed the crap out of my mom, I feel like it might be cool to see that trait in my kid. Honestly, it has really served me well in life because I know how to "play the game" and get my way while still being generally likeable.

But, there are so many facets of my son's personality that I look at and they are all his. He is brilliant in math which I know he didn't get from me or MH. Maybe from my grandfather, but I think that is all my little guy. He also has a super kooky sense of humor, which is different from my dry wit and MH's understated observational humor. My son is very tall and thin, which doesn't fit with any member of either family (MH's family are all tall and stocky and my family are all petite). So, I know that while there will be a lot of things I recognize in this nugget's personality and physical traits, there will also be a lot of surprises that are unique to him/her. It is beyond exciting!

kbrands7 · November 2015

laurenmdrn16 said:

I will say that my son and MH have GIANT feet and hands so, if this one is a girl, I hope she doesn't have man-hands too. I have extremely petite hands and feet so I know it is much easier for me to find cute shoes for my fairy feet (size 5 1/2!) than my sister who has average sized 8. Of course, MH is a 14 mens and my son (who is only two) is already in an 8-9 toddler. We also need to get my son child sized mittens/gloves since the toddler ones are too small.

I feel you on the foot size! I'm an 8 which is average size for my family, but DH is a 15.5 and DS is in an 8 at 19 months. Online shoe shopping is really the only way I can reasonably find shoes for DH and I expect it'll be the same for DS when he gets older. If we have another boy, it's fine, bring on the big feet. If we have a girl, I hope she's sized more similarly to me so that she doesn't end up trying to buy size 11 or so shoes as an adult. It definitely gets more difficult to find a good selection as the sizes go up.

sarawifenow · November 2015

I hope my baby gets my love for reading and H's patience!

dsmith211 · November 2015

My eyes (green) and DH's hair (blondish) would be great. His laid back attitude for sure as I tend to be very high strung. My athleticism. His teeth bc he has never had to have braces or dental work done and no cavities. Neither of our eyes bc were both blind as a bat without glasses or contacts. Both of our goofiness/nerdyness. I also hope baby ends up being a normal height bc I'm kinda short and DH is over 6 ft tall, so maybe it will even them out a little bit. lol.

pavlicekb18 · November 2015

I hope this baby gets my ears (husbands are in the bigger side) and eyes! Our first looks exactly like his daddy and acts like him too. I'm hoping for maybe a little more of me in this baby.

JessicaB0627 · November 2015

I love DD so much, but the girl is a stubborn brat. I know that one day I will really love and appreciate her stubborn, independent attitude, but holy crap it's so frustrating at 2 yo. DH and I are both very much like that so I'm afraid there's no hope for a laid-back child!
DD definitely has my curiosity and love of learning. I'm a scientist and since I was little I've always wanted to know how everything works and why. Already at 2 she's so interested in figuring things out and how they work and her favorite question is "why". She loves to learn new things and show them off and she absolutely loves books. DH was very anti-school but he's a very good with hands-on things. She also gets her manipulation from DH. She's able to manipulate everyone and she gets away with way more than she should.

DD has DH's gorgeous blue eyes and I will probably be sad if our 2nd LO doesn't have the same eyes. Although I think that she's going to be very tall like him. I'm 5'0" and DH is 6'4" and I'm afraid DD is going to be taller than me by the age of 8. But if we have a boy then I hope he does have DH's height. And I hope both of our kids end up with my teeth!! I've never had a cavity and the only work I've ever had done was getting my wisdom teeth removed.

So basically I guess I'm really not sure what I want passed on. Definitely cosmetic things like my teeth and DH's blue eyes, but personality wise I have no idea. Although DD is very difficult at times and high maintenance I think I'm really going to appreciate her personality when she's older and has to take care of herself. But a little more laid back LO wouldn't be a terrible thing.

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