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LIES its all LIES

KristynLee15KristynLee15 member
edited November 2015 in October 2015 Moms
I know the whole time were pregnant and maybe before even, everyone tells you all sorts of things about babies and being a mom. What have you found to be lies. All be it, maybe unintentional lies, but lies nonw the less.

1. This will be the most rewarding time of your life. .....LO is almost 7 weeks all and although i love her dearly, rewarding is not how i would describe this stage. Maybe once shes a little older and theres more responsive interactions. But right now, lack of sleep..saggy skin, crappy sexlife, and being smelly since its hard to find the time for a shower...all that does not feel like like the prize in the cereal box!

2. You will forget the pain of childbirth. I definitely have not forgotten it. We had a bit of a traumatic delivery ending in a csection andbive healed really well and fast. But i totally remember feeling like my hips were being torn apart. It will not stop me from having more children but please there is no "forgetting" feeling like you have a searing hot knife being twisted in your vagina!
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  • KristynLee15KristynLee15 member
    whitemn04 said:

    I was told don't be afraid to ask for help, people are willing to help. I think they forgot to mention husbands aren't so willing at night. I ask him to help after all the care has been done and the crying doesn't stop. He will do it half assed or is extremely grouchy.
    And that it's only a moment in time BS. Yes it's a minimal amount compared to the rest of your life but at least be honest and say it's a long moment that will have you at wits end for months and months. This came from a friend who didn't BF so had the choice of more help from her hubby who was always up till midnight anyway so she got some rest at night. I love my baby so much and will do what it takes but those that act all happy and chipper about the first months are full of sh*t.

    They must have perfect never crying babies!!
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  • rms924rms924 member
    Great post! "If you stay active during pregnancy the weight just melts off pp"

    Umm no. But this also might be my fault as the only thing keeping me sane are graham crackers. I still have 25lbs to lose!

    Me: 34 DH:38
    DS: 18 months   <3
    Dx DOR AMH .2
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  • rms924rms924 member
    Casseylemon said:

    "I was jogging by 4-6 weeks"
    Yikes. Nope, not me with a third degree tear :( and even if I felt good, where would I find the time?!

    Preach! I love spinning and I can't imagine sitting on a bike again :(

    Me: 34 DH:38
    DS: 18 months   <3
    Dx DOR AMH .2
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  • jasminelukejasmineluke member
    I second the naps post! I cannot nap when she naps! I either have to catch up on house chores - work stuff - Christmas shopping on Amazon hahah. I cannot nap when she naps let alone fall alone completely at night when she sleeps cuz I'm always scared of her waking back up !
    For future moms im gunna tell it like it is
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  • jasminelukejasmineluke member
    Edit previous post - fall asleep* not fall alone lol
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  • KristynLee15KristynLee15 member
    kaza512 said:

    "Maternity leave is the best time and it just goes by too fast". I am happy to be home for a while with my daughter and the sleep deprivation definitely has me grateful that I don't have to be up and dressed before 11am, but I miss my job and the work that I do. No one warned me how boring it is to be home by myself with a baby! (It was great the first two weeks.. But now I am just bored!). I wish this time off and healing coincided with when the baby is more interactive and responsive!

    I agree!! Im waiting for this newborn stage to pass. Which makes me feel terrible!
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  • millereliz13millereliz13 member
    I 2nd the just ask for help. My parents rock and my best friend helped out the one day, but my in laws don't help and when I really needed sleep, they went there.
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  • KristynLee15KristynLee15 member
    I cant bring myself to ask for help. I dont know why. My mom offered today to take lo when she gets home from work and let me sleep for 5 hours straight. Im having a hard time accepting it.
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  • millereliz13millereliz13 member
    @KristynLee15 I recommend you take,her up on it. The first few weeks my hubby was,back to work, my mom came over a few times to let me nap, it really helped me mentally.
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  • KristynLee15KristynLee15 member
    Im pretty sure i will. Mainly because I'm feeling so run down. Im pretty sure im coming down with something.
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  • jasminelukejasmineluke member
    I second the waiting for newborn phase to be over ! .... Lol
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  • koriemokoriemo member
    Breastfeeding gets easier after the first monthl
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  • KristynLee15KristynLee15 member
    @Cmoniga i just went through this. Dying for a shower all day, daddy fonally got home, handed off lo and took a nice long hot shower !!
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  • jasminelukejasmineluke member
    I second the newborn sleeping 20 hours lol. Or phrases like "sleep like a newborn" - LIES lol.
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  • KLHauck12KLHauck12 member
    KristynLee15 said:

    I cant bring myself to ask for help. I dont know why. My mom offered today to take lo when she gets home from work and let me sleep for 5 hours straight. Im having a hard time accepting it.

    Do it! My mom has done this and it really helps! My husband and I share nights but there have been a few nights where he took the majority of it. And I felt like a million bucks! Take it when you can get it! I am dying for sleep right now. My husband caught a cold and I woke up with it today. I feel like crap. And what's a thousand times worse is that LO caught it too. She is coughing and all stuffy. It's causing her to puke up her bottles. So we have to give her small amounts every hour to help her keep it down. And we have to wake her up to feed her. Then she doesn't want to fall back asleep because she is mad that there isn't more milk. Then she finally falls asleep when it's almost time to feed her again. It's going to be a long night.... :(
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  • KristynLee15KristynLee15 member
    @KLHauck12
    I just always feel bad because they all have to get yp for work in the morning. I feel 100x better after my shower. And right now LO is in her crib...awake and fidgeting, but NOT crying. Not sure how long itll last but im laying down while shes in there!
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  • cdepperschmidtcdepperschmidt member
    edited November 2015
    Everyone said, you won't feel like doing anything, you'll be too tired. No, I'm pretty much the same as before. I am getting less done, but it's cuz I love snuggle time.
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  • bellatrice79bellatrice79 member
    Agreed! I didn't work one lick while pregnant and my LO is 5 weeks and I'm 10 pounds away from my pre pregnancy weight. And I breastfed for about 3 weeks, but not exclusively. Maybe that helped??
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  • KristynLee15KristynLee15 member
    Im oretty sure breasy feeding helps lose weight. I breast fed for 2 weeks and lost 20lbs. The minute i stopped, weight just stuck. I guess it helped that i never ate either. I had a really poor appetite during my baby blues.
    Now i guess i actually have to go to the gym..HA right...when will i find time for that??!
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  • millereliz13millereliz13 member
    kassyfry said:

    I was told repeatedly that I wouldn't be able to go anywhere by myself with him or ever get to take a showe. I've gone several places shopping with him. And I've also showered everyday since he has been born.

    My LO goes where I go during the week. I shower even if I have to take it after my husband gets home.
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  • KristynLee15KristynLee15 member
    I take LO everywhere too. I was afraid at first because i didnt want to be the crazy lady with the scresming baby in the mall. But i dont even care now. As a matter of fact were going pottery painting tonight with a friend of mine cuz DH is working late.
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  • nianicho777nianicho777 member
    mak1020 said:

    Sleep when baby sleeps.... Please! By the time LO is asleep during the day( if he naps anymore) I am so beyond tired that I can't sleep! If I hear this one more time I'm gonna spaz! Lol LO is 9 weeks... I've given up on naps during the day lol .

    So true OR if he does nap by the time I fall asleep he's waking up!!
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  • jessrljessrl member
    I told my husband he would never play video games once LO got here. I should've known that was a lie 
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  • cdepperschmidtcdepperschmidt member
    hobo920 said:

    I told my husband he would never play video games once LO got here. I should've known that was a lie 

    Seriously...I think my husband has played more videos since LO was born...Paternity leave is rough...
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