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NBR rant

mrsberry1992mrsberry1992 member
in December 2015 Moms
Okay so I live in an up stairs apartment and the people under me suck!!! At around 8pm if I lightly wak to the bathroom they start banging on the roof and yelling!! Even my landlord can't stand them. I'm very conciderate and I try my best to be nice and think about the fact that they are down there but dang. Even just now my husband got up and got a drink and they did it again! Smh I'm so sick of this bs. I want to say something to them but the landlord said last time someone confronted them they called the cops and said they were bring threatened. Anyways just had to rant.

ETA spelling and Grammer isn't my friend at the moment because I'm so pissed.
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  • mrsberry1992mrsberry1992 member
    Also ant advise in what to do about it would be appricaited.
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  • garrettnrgarrettnr member
    That sucks.
    Apartment living sounds awful.
    I guess you could just make a ton of noise until they decide they have had enough and move?
    You will be getting up more after the baby. I wouldn't want to be confined to bed just to keep a neighbor happy. It's not like you are throwing a party.
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  • mrsberry1992mrsberry1992 member
    That's what I discussed with my landlord we have my step son every other weekend and last weekend they woke him up with hitting the roof. I swear if they do that when my new born baby gets here, they will have a reason to call the cops.
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  • colsen4colsen4 member
    They might figure it out if they wake the baby every time they do it. Between baby crying and you having to get up to comfort. what are they going to do? Call the cops because your baby is crying. Let it go as best you can.
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  • MerBotMerBot member
    edited November 2015
    I would keep a notebook and document every time they do this. Every time and if they talk to you, every conversation. Date and time. In case it ever comes down to it, that can help prove they are unreasonable. You can even videotape the noise/sound of what happens.

    I wouldn't do it when they are mad/reacting, but at another time when they're calm, have you tried talking to one of them? Edited to be clear - NOT to confront them about their behaviour, but to ask what you can do because you know your noise is bothering them. With another person there with you to back you up if they claim anything else happened.

    Sometimes people are jerks until you talk with them directly, hand them some cookies and sweetly explain that you're having a baby soon/have your stepson over and you're doing the best you can to minimize noise...

    Even ask what times they need quiet the most and if anyone there works shifts etc. You can mention if you have/are getting area rugs too etc. and if they're a jerk don't react.... Don't say anything. Just walk away. You're not trying to ask them to stop or prove who's right but to have them meet you and let them feel heard.

    But sometimes once people put a face/situation to the person that is living upstairs it's harder for them to be mean...

    And if not, you can now document that you tried (with a witness there) to resolve it.

    On your end, do you have area rugs? That can help reduce noise from your side.
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  • Mother0fDragonsMother0fDragons member
    edited November 2015
    The last place we lived in was made of cheaply constructed flooring so we could hear every sound the upstairs neighbors made. It was obnoxious. We even tried peaceful confronting them but they didn't give a rat's a$$. The only thing we could do was to just deal with it until our lease was up. I don't know what kind of floors you have, but I agree with pp's that you could try putting down area rugs to help muffle the sounds. Good luck!!
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  • Mother0fDragonsMother0fDragons member
    garrettnr said:
    That sucks. Apartment living sounds awful. I guess you could just make a ton of noise until they decide they have had enough and move? You will be getting up more after the baby. I wouldn't want to be confined to bed just to keep a neighbor happy. It's not like you are throwing a party.

    That is terrible advice!! Do not purposefully make more noise in an attempt to piss them off (to the point of moving) it will only make things worse.
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  • BostonBaby1BostonBaby1 member
    colsen4 said:

    They might figure it out if they wake the baby every time they do it. Between baby crying and you having to get up to comfort. what are they going to do? Call the cops because your baby is crying. Let it go as best you can.

    Actually, I grew up in an apartment. Cops were called out once and said to the complaining neighbor, "What do you want us to do lady? Arrest the baby???"
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  • mrs14678mrs14678 member
    We had horribly noisy upstairs neighbors for a while, and they had obnoxious kids..... Stomping snd screaming at 1am.... We could hear their entire bedtime routine from 10pm-1am. We asked them to please be quiet and not vacuum and 11pm, etc.... They were extremely rude! So, I can understand the downstairs perspective. That being said, the people above us now are only a little noisy, but it's the normal walking around noises.

    It sounds like you're doing the best you can to be considerate!! I agree with PP about documenting all their rudeness. Just in case! And yeah, "What do you want us to do? Arrest the baby?" totally makes sense... What kind of people are they below you? Young? Maybe they haven't ever had experiences with kids? Old? Maybe they're just cranky? Maybe visit with your landlord about approved soundproofing options?
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  • MelissadmagMelissadmag member
    You are so much more mature than me...at this point I would have either called the cops on them...or started being so loud and obnoxious that they would beg us to act like normal... Probably not the world's greatest advice since they could retaliate by messing with your car or being loud themselves or something, but good grief if they don't want to hear you walking around they can pay extra and move a floor higher. That's part of what comes with getting the less expensive apartments on the lower floors, you hear the people upstairs and there's not much that the people upstairs can do about it, unless you learn how to fly or something. 
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  • mrsberry1992mrsberry1992 member
    We have a big area rug I'm the living room and some in the baby's room. They are older so they might just be cranky. I should and will go talk to them. Maybe introduce my stepson so maybe they'll be more understanding. I'm sitting in L&D right now due to bleeding so they won't have to worry about any noise for the next few days if they keep me :).
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  • TaylovesbradTaylovesbrad member
    Take the high road
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