Avoiding drinks during the holidays

Jstrlv · November 2015

My husband and I are still TTC but I will be testing right before Thanksgiving. In the event that I actually am pregnant, what are some excuses you have given to avoid drinking when offered during the holidays? Our families don't know we are trying. My family is also good about taking a celebratory shot at the start of every family event. Thanks ladies!

kyraaD · November 2015

i just told my family members i didnt want one, I'd rather stick with my pop/water/juice/etc.

steminist · November 2015

Ear infection, so you're on antibiotics. No need to fake symptoms like with a sinus infection or other illness, but still gives you a solid out. Good for one week only, though!

goldie987 · November 2015

You've got a few options. Some doctors recommend against drinking while in antibiotics so you could always make up a sinus infection or UTI. People usually dont question much with things like that.

Another option is to dump out a beer or cider, wash it and fill it with water. The color of the glass can hide the fact that it's water.

A last option, my husband has legitimately turned down alcohol because he drank too much the night before and alcohol just didn't sound good. Don't know your family and how they would react to that but it's always an option.

Pompomlove · November 2015

Antibiotics is a great one... Google something that might need a long dose and it should get you out of a bit. Designated driver is a good one too if it works. Just say it's your turn and you owe your OH one.

megstervt · November 2015

Migraine/bad headache so don't feel like drinking. Be the one in charge of pouring (out of sight) and fill your glass with a similar colored liquid. Say no to the shot, but take a swig from your "beer/cider" (filled with water like a PP suggested).

YogaSandy · November 2015

What about, "No thanks; I just don't feel like it,"?

goldie987 · November 2015

YogaSandy said:
What about, "No thanks; I just don't feel like it,"?

At least with my family, if someone offered me a drink and I turned it down because I didn't feel like it, especially during the holidays, the first question will be "what, are you pregnant or something?". I would need a valid reason to not drink, offered before they asked why I wasn't drinking. A glass or two of wine is just part of our holiday celebration.

OP, another option, if you've got the logistics for it. Apparently diluted apple juice looks a lot like white wine (I've heard, haven't personally tried it).

No need to fake symptoms of any infection, antibiotics usually have you feeling better in 2-3 days but you've got to take the full week long course to make sure you got it all. Being at the end of the course could still exclude you from drinking while feeling fine.

DeePaddy24 · November 2015

The "no thanks, I don't feel like it" response wouldn't fly with my friends/family either. They'd know immediately. A few weeks after I got my BFP we were at a Halloween party, so DH chose to drink rye & gingers all night, & I said I was drinking them too (though my cup was just gingerale). No one caught on at all.

Good luck...you'll figure something out!

meggyme · November 2015

Bring some soda in a dark colored bottle, like root beer, cream soda or ginger beer and either use a cozie or peel off the label. Also, if you're usually a wino bring some sparkling cider or cranberry juice to pretend it's champagne or wine.

PinkLady2015 · November 2015

I would have the same drink as my husband.... As he drinks most of it, discreetly switch drinks so yours looks like you've been drinking and he gets the full glass. You can dump the rest out in the rest room. My family would also call me right out for not drinking!

missljew · November 2015

I definately get where you are coming from, I was a regular drinker and around Christmas it would be way too obvious, thankfully I have tested with just enough time to actually spread the amazing news on Christmas Day with our families! For now I'm telling people I'm on antibiotics or that I'm just not feeling great when I'm offered a drink! Getting away with it so far but not sure how much longer I'm going to be able to hold off the questions!

TennisCourt · November 2015

PinkLady2015 said:

I would have the same drink as my husband.... As he drinks most of it, discreetly switch drinks so yours looks like you've been drinking and he gets the full glass. You can dump the rest out in the rest room. My family would also call me right out for not drinking!

This. My hubby and I plan to do this on Thanksgiving. The last few things with friends, I just haven't drank and I think most of them know that it isn't appropriate to ask. Last night though, one of my friends asked "do you have something to tell us?". I just said "nope" and walked away. I had been talking about future kids so I probably set that up for her. Everyone can think what they want!

Knottie83732320 · November 2015

Before I was pregnant I lost 132 pounds on weight watchers so my go to thing to say was that I didn't want to drink because I'm watching my weight. No one ever argued with me or tried to guilt me into it.

jennamarie05 · November 2015

If you're at your own home, or at an event where its BYOB, I always have an empty vodka bottle filled with water. I can mix my "vodka club sodas" and no one knows the difference!

lolonvive · November 2015

'I just dont want one' doent fly with my fam either, especially on holidays. We're very ummm..... festive?

I'm also searching for a solution to hide it on TG ( I started a thread in the June 2016 board if you're interested in ppls suggestions)

Before i got pregnant I drank red wine and beer at family functions, so most of the suggestions for mixed drinks would raise red flags in my family. If I had a 'mixed drink' someone would definitely grab it and taste it lol

So far here is my plan: Before heading to dinner, we'll buy a six pack of hard cider with dark bottles, my husband will drink a couple, I'll replace with ginger ale/sparking cider, what have you, and mark the tops or tear the label a little so I know which ones are mine.

Two beers for the duration of the meal is respectable, and should dispel all the rumors I hope, so it can be a surprise when I announce to my siblings the following week!

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