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Complicated Reveal party

jessicarose0602jessicarose0602 member
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I'm not very far along in my pregnancy. I have yet to even go to my first obgyn appointment. My boyfriend and I currently live in pennsylvania, around all of his close family and friends. We are wanting to relocate very soon back to my home state. Here's my problem. This is our first child. We would like to do a reveal when the time comes but unsure of how to do it. My sisters know the possibilities of me being far away at the time that the sex of the baby is revealed. They came up with the idea of me having someone put something in envelopes determining whether it's a boy or girl and all of them opening it at the same time. It just doesn't feel the same though. Any suggestions would be appreciated. If nothing else I may have to do their idea. Here's to hoping we move back in time. ;) I know, that's very selfish of me, I'll admit.
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  • suchaglencocosuchaglencoco member
    jessicarose0602 said:

    I'm not very far along in my pregnancy. I have yet to even go to my first obgyn appointment. My boyfriend and I currently live in pennsylvania, around all of his close family and friends. We are wanting to relocate very soon back to my home state. Here's my problem. This is our first child. We would like to do a reveal when the time comes but unsure of how to do it. My sisters know the possibilities of me being far away at the time that the sex of the baby is revealed. They came up with the idea of me having someone put something in envelopes determining whether it's a boy or girl and all of them opening it at the same time. It just doesn't feel the same though. Any suggestions would be appreciated. If nothing else I may have to do their idea. Here's to hoping we move back in time. ;) I know, that's very selfish of me, I'll admit.

    Although I do not agree with making sex reveals a big party or public event, I would suggest setting up a group FaceTime or Skype session where they can see your reaction when you find out.
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  • CosmoAnne1CosmoAnne1 member
    edited November 2015
    I agree with suchaglencoco about doing FaceTime, Skype or even a video. This is a picture that I did with my last pregnancy. It was fun! I plan on doing some little and fun like this again. We aren't having a party or a baby shower or anything being as this is my 4th child. We do want to celebrate this baby just like the rest. We will have a family dinner or something. So this Baby has pictures to look back on.
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  • ecwkecwk member
    I would just call them. If you want something fancier, you could try wait until you're all face to face but a nice phonecall and hearing it directly from you is just as special as any other way. 

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  • delujm0delujm0 member
    We live in another state from our families, and we just called the VIPs after we found out, and they spread the word to everyone else.  i see no reason to do a big reveal...really the sex of the baby is not important.
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  • ambercakes92ambercakes92 member
    Do you mean that everyone you want to share the sex with would have their own envelope to open? I think it would be better for you and your partner to open an envelope while someone takes a video showing your reaction. Then just send that video around. Otherwise I would just call people. It'll still be special without a big show.
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  • jessicarose0602jessicarose0602 member
    I'll figure it out on my own I guess as the time gets closer. This is my first child so yes it's a big deal to me. Thanks for the input though ladies.
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  • kqualls5kqualls5 member
    We had a reveal party and his best friend wasn't able to make it so we had another friend FaceTime him the whole time. Maybe all of them could go to one house and FaceTime you during the reveal. And if they're all in different places you could do a group Skype!

    I totally agree about it being a big deal with your first, and wanting to do all that fun stuff. My mom and dad were the only ones who found out at the ultrasound and they planned a nice party at a park, where we pulled open a box (think like a home-made pull string piñata) that blue balloons and confetti fell out of. It was amazing.
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  • jonesl12jonesl12 member
    jessicarose0602 said:

    I'll figure it out on my own I guess as the time gets closer. This is my first child so yes it's a big deal to me. Thanks for the input though ladies.

    Your welcome ????
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  • jessicarose0602jessicarose0602 member
    I asked how I should do a reveal, not if I should. I understand all of you ladies have different opinions and of course that's okay. Just seems there's tons of negative comments no matter what I post on here. I apologize if you ladies read into anything I posted the wrong way though.
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  • ecwkecwk member
    jessicarose0602 said:

    I asked how I should do a reveal, not if I should. I understand all of you ladies have different opinions and of course that's okay. Just seems there's tons of negative comments no matter what I post on here. I apologize if you ladies read into anything I posted the wrong way though.

    Everyone answered your question. The overwhelming consensus is that you should reveal over the phone, Skype or FaceTime. If you're not going to do that that's totally fine, it's your call at the end of the day. You don't need to assume we're all a bunch of negative nellies just because we didn't tell you to send everyone pink or blue stuff in the mail and make a gigantic stressful fuss over the sex of your baby.

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  • ambercakes92ambercakes92 member
    edited November 2015
    jessicarose0602 said:

    I asked how I should do a reveal, not if I should. I understand all of you ladies have different opinions and of course that's okay. Just seems there's tons of negative comments no matter what I post on here. I apologize if you ladies read into anything I posted the wrong way though.

    I'm not sure how else you can do a reveal when you're states/a fair distance away, other than the ways everyone has already suggested. If a group video session or phone call isn't a reveal to you, then yes, you'll just have to figure out something else. Good luck.
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  • jessicarose0602jessicarose0602 member
    I guess ill have to get everyone together then back home when the time comes. Lol my mom uses a home phone and that's it. No Internet connection. I liked the Skype idea, once I really sat down to think about my options. Then again the video idea that was suggested was good too.
    I even seen one lady do her reveal by having her boyfriend stand behind her with two hands on her belly. One was painted with either pink and blue. He removed one hand and left a blue hand print. It was super cute and simple enough. Thanks ladies! Now my mind is going into overdrive. I'll admit I was stressing before and I know you ladies are just trying to be helpful. Thank you!
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  • PrimRoseMamaPrimRoseMama member
    I would reveal over the phone or Skype. The envelope thing is too complicated and true story, really very few people actually care about the sex of your kid. They'll be happy no matter how you tell them and the less to-do for many of them the better. I know you are super excited and its a big moment for you.


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  • jessicarose0602jessicarose0602 member
    Actually the envelope thing was only going to be for my sisters and my mom. Everyone can find out whenever they just find out. I'm pretty excited, yeah :) the moment of my BFP was the moment I've been waiting for for quite some time. I know it was the same for a lot of other ladies on here as well. The reveal was only for my very very close family. (Only 4 total) the whole balloons thing would have been over the top for that, I know. So that idea was out. I may try Skype unless my mom can't join in on that. Other than that I may just mail those envelopes I'd talked about previously. Either way I know my family will be thrilled no matter what, of course. My boyfriend and I will be over the moon, no matter what.
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  • djdawn29adjdawn29a member
    We had ours videotaped and uploaded to YouTube. Sent the link the our family that lived out of state. Worked out great.
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  • ijstarr28ijstarr28 member
    DH and I are in the same situation. Our plan is to have the u/s tech write it down and seal it.  We will have my MIL pack a little girl outfit or a little boy outfit in a present.  We are then going on a Disney cruise and we will reveal the sex 'privately' with Mickey Mouse and record it. This way we're not excluding one family over the other. We will then send out a link to the video on YouTube. 

    It'll be special and it'll be fun!! 
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    EDD: 7/5/2015!!

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  • BigboobsmcgeeBigboobsmcgee member
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    The sex If the child is not important, the health is most important. Do, so we celebrate with healthy baby parties? No. Why do people feel that you need to celebrate how the kid is going to pee and (maaybe) reproduce? It becomes very redundant and almost self centered when people have: reveal the sex of baby party, baby shower and meet and greet parties (yes, I have witnessed parents celebrating all three and it becomes very redundant and it seems very self centered). A simple phone call, is precious enough. Not everything pregnancy/baby related has to her cutsie.

    Again with this from you! Change the record. Just because someone is excited about the sex of their child, doesn't mean they are oblivious to potential health problems. Maybe she's just choosing not to air that on the internet.

    Why do posts from people excited about the sex have to elicit such negativity from you? What excites you about pregnancy might not be exciting for other people but who cares? Especially something as minor as this, that doesn't affect you one bit.

    OP isn't drinking castor oil, she isn't trying to make the baby come at 37 weeks, she isn't freaking out over lunch meat or asking us to look at an u/s pic of her child's genitals. She's just excited about this part of her pregnancy and wants to share it with her family and friends. Big friggin whoop.

    ------ Quote fail -----'' Why does it bother you that the sex of a baby is not important to me, but the health is? Yes, I state it, because many people call the anatomy scan the "gender scan" or the "sex scan," etc. Its my feelings, and yes I state them in a open public forum where I can express my feelings, just like everyone else. The rest of my post talked about how not everything baby and pregnancy related has to be over the top.
    Except no one is even discussing anatomy scans on this thread. She simply asked about doing a reveal for her family and wanted ideas. But please, continue expressing your feelings on something that isn't even being discussed.
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  • tripledaggerWed95976tripledaggerWed95976 member
    Seems u got a lot of good advise from other posters. I agree that nothing more than a phone call or Skype session is necessary. And I totally agree with PrimRoseMama that though the sex of the baby is way exciting for u and ur husband, it's not overly exciting for others. They will all just be super excited for u, no matter what the sex is.
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  • UniquewayzUniquewayz member
    edited November 2015
    Heyyy... I like the letters but I Maybe would do a card or a picture you can mail them... but I also love the video idea of your reaction something u can show baby later... I would just make it a great family and future memory for the baby ! Good luck and I would be interested in what u decided....


    Also pinterest has great ideas!
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  • anskipanskip member
    I understand it being important. My first LO was the first girl on my hubs side for like 5 generations. It was fun and important to us. We had a small party with just our closest family and friends. I'm glad we did too. It was one of the last functions that my hubs uncle was able to attend before he passed away. I love having those pictures. I hope you find something that works! I'm looking for something my for this one. My bro now lives in Vegas. :-)
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  • kqualls5kqualls5 member
    I don't know, my family and friends were really excited about our gender reveal. I admit there were a lot of people there, and it got overwhelming at one point (I didn't plan it, it was a gift thrown by mom & MIL). But it was cool how many people did want to come hang out, eat food, and watch us struggle to open a box that blue stuff fell out of. Maybe next time we'll announce with an ultrasound photo via social media, but I'm glad we went "over the top" for our first. Maybe that's just me though, lol.

    Also. It is somewhat frustrating to be talking about how you're excited to find out what the baby's gender is at the anatomy scan and get scolded for not being worried about the health. We're all worried about our child's health. Someone who doesn't care how their child is progressing doesn't download a pregnancy app..
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  • DrillSergeantCatDrillSergeantCat member
    kqualls5 said:
    I don't know, my family and friends were really excited about our gender reveal. I admit there were a lot of people there, and it got overwhelming at one point (I didn't plan it, it was a gift thrown by mom & MIL). But it was cool how many people did want to come hang out, eat food, and watch us struggle to open a box that blue stuff fell out of. Maybe next time we'll announce with an ultrasound photo via social media, but I'm glad we went "over the top" for our first. Maybe that's just me though, lol. Also. It is somewhat frustrating to be talking about how you're excited to find out what the baby's gender is at the anatomy scan and get scolded for not being worried about the health. We're all worried about our child's health. Someone who doesn't care how their child is progressing doesn't download a pregnancy app..
    I wish that were true. I've seen someone talk about how it's an unplanned pregnancy and she already hates the baby and another say it's an unplanned pregnancy and she wishes she could get rid of it but it's too late.

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  • kqualls5kqualls5 member
    @DrillSergeantCat what?? That's awful. It's weird to me they'd download an app though, because if I was hating my child or wanted to abort (which would NEVER happen) I wouldn't wanna chat about it with women who are pregnant or trying to become pregnant.
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  • DrillSergeantCatDrillSergeantCat member
    kqualls5 said:
    @DrillSergeantCat what?? That's awful. It's weird to me they'd download an app though, because if I was hating my child or wanted to abort (which would NEVER happen) I wouldn't wanna chat about it with women who are pregnant or trying to become pregnant.
    One of them calls herself babyhater. It's weird and probably just some bored person wanting to stir shit.

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  • kqualls5kqualls5 member
    @DrillSergeantCat I would really hope it's just someone wanting to cause drama. As petty as that would make that person.
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