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MIL's buying stuff

Sully3302Sully3302 member
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Last weekend DH's family came to visit. My mil was asking if we needed a snowsuit, I replied by saying "no, not this year". I can't imagine we will be doing tons of outdoor snowy activities this winter. One hour later, I get a text and a picture of the snowsuit that was bought. And now they are all coming back over tomorrow to drop off the snowsuit... Like we need it right away. I hope this isn't going to be the new thing to visit every weekend. I need some time with DH...and Saturdays are my favorite lol!
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  • chelseajeanenechelseajeanene member
    edited November 2015
    I wish the family and friends who did this would just buy without asking, and leave a receipt lol that way nobody gets annoyed!
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  • lauramichelle58lauramichelle58 member
    Mine does the same thing. Hang in there girl!
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  • Sully3302Sully3302 member
    I wish I could return it all and save up to buy a jogging stroller for the spring!
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  • lauramichelle58lauramichelle58 member
    Sully3302 said:

    I wish I could return it all and save up to buy a jogging stroller for the spring!

    Can you say that??? Be honest and share how you'd prefer gift cards to combine for that? A stroller is essential and I'm in love with my jogger!
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  • BrandiLaw87BrandiLaw87 member
    I feel you on this one. I had numerous conversations with my mom and MIL about how I wanted to buy LO a dress to wear at Christmas. Well my MIL just went to LV and of course, comes back with a Christmas dress for her. And DH works 6 days a week and it seems like whenever he gets a day off, his family needs help with something.
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  • troopersmomtroopersmom member
    My own mother does this to me- then acts hurt when I ask her why she won't listen. I exchange it all for things I want later
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  • nanako0nanako0 member
    Both my mother & MIL made a big deal over buying LO her first bathing suit for the summer. I was excited to choose a tiny adorable bathing suit for the baby girl but it's too late because we don't go swimming very often and she already has 2! Most of her 1st year wardrobe has been this way- stuff we were handed down or gifted that I would have NEVER chosen myself. I keep reminding myself that it's just the 1st year or so then I get to dress her until she has a job & can buy her own clothes lol
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  • squigles28squigles28 member
    At Christmas, my child has 5 outfits to wear ha-ha! But my grandma and aunt take the clothes thing personal.
    So I still bought my own dress and a pair of PJs for the morning.
    Then their outfits are for Christmas eve and a backup, since I know my girl will get messy.

    Also I used their outfits for pictures with Santa and our Christmas pictures because I knew they would notice and appreciate it. Just some ideas of how to accommodate
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  • BrandiLaw87BrandiLaw87 member
    nanako0 said:

    Most of her 1st year wardrobe has been this way- stuff we were handed down or gifted that I would have NEVER chosen myself.

    Me too. My first child is a boy, so I got to dress him however I wanted. He still got hand-me-downs, but I picked through them. I haven't bought my daughter one item of clothing because she had so much gifted and a bunch of hand-me-downs. And no receipts to exchange anything. While I appreciate everything, I want to pick my own daughter out some clothes lol
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  • v1wwov1wwo member
    My MIL is also like that. She buys stuff that are educational, necessary, etc. We don't have a lot of room to put things and I like my house to be minimalistic and most of the stuff we already have anyways. I get that she is far away and wants to help out and be an awesome grandma but we don't need this stuff.
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  • Sully3302Sully3302 member
    Snowsuit arrived today...its huge and probably won't fit her until the summer! Lol
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  • tlc11934tlc11934 member
    I sell or return anything I dont like. I love my MIL but we have opposite styles and I have to return most of what she buys.
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  • krtagtowkrtagtow member
    My MIL always makes comments about how much clothes DD has, yet is constantly buying her new clothes because she "couldn't resist". I've told her multiple times that DD does not need anymore clothes!!
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  • Yiggle09Yiggle09 member
    My mother bought this atrocious Christmas outfit that looks like it belongs in the 20s. She put a gift recite in it like we could possibly return something gramma bought.... my husband unpacked it from shower swag and said were returning this right lol I said unfortunately it's from my mom. Well ff to today he's already in 6 m pants! She asked me to put him in it and take pictures before he's too big! I was so dreading having all those family pictures with him in that weird Christmas suit
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  • jen83mnjen83mn member
    Sully3302 said:

    Snowsuit arrived today...its huge and probably won't fit her until the summer! Lol

    Which means you can ask for the gift receipt to return it?! :)
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  • jen83mnjen83mn member
    My mom gave me a bunch of my old baby clothes for my boy to wear (the ones that weren't girly), but obviously styles have changed in 32 years and most my old clothes were very well-worn and uncomfortable-looking. One even had strings on it which isn't even safe! My mom is an almost-hoarder, so she has a huge garbage bag full of my baby clothes and even burp rags that should have just been thrown away! I plan to take a pic of him in my old snowsuit just for the keepsake, but don't plan on him wearing it this winter (plus, I think he'll be too big). I am keeping the few clothes she gave me though just for my own memories.
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  • PreggersinParisPreggersinParis member
    Why are MILs so freaking pushy? They act like we're idiots. Mine has been INSISTING since, like, May that we have a bumper for the crib. For reasons of our own, we don't have one, and we don't want one, plus the baby doesn't even sleep in there. She won't let it go but I'm holding my ground!
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  • lynnaeschrlynnaeschr member
    My MIL keeps wanting to get a double set of silly things for her house. Like a car seat and stroller. They live an hour and a half away and there is no reason to have a second of either of those! I keep telling my husband to tell her practical things like a pack and play, activity mat, etc. I understand her want of having some baby things there but at least get things that would be helpful to have since we aren't there all that much!
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  • abchrist1abchrist1 member
    Why do mil's always want to buy snowsuits for tiny infants? If baby can't even sit up, they most likely won't be playing in snow. And we're not suppose to strap them into the car seat wearing big bulky coats....waste of money. The world would be a much better place if in laws ask and listen instead buying whatever.
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  • eah325eah325 member
    abchrist1 said:

    Why do mil's always want to buy snowsuits for tiny infants? If baby can't even sit up, they most likely won't be playing in snow. And we're not suppose to strap them into the car seat wearing big bulky coats....waste of money. The world would be a much better place if in laws ask and listen instead buying whatever.

    This!!! It's so frustrating!
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  • Sully3302Sully3302 member
    Exactly! She asked but just didn't listen!
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  • MrsML2beMrsML2be member
    They aren't from my MIL but we do now have 5 snowsuits for our little one! People just love buying them I guess. Did I mention we live in CA? We are going back east for thanksgiving. I guess I'll just have to rotate a new snowsuit in each day
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  • mwertalikmwertalik member
    @MrsML2be that's hilarious, the baby will be sweating his ass off the whole trip lol
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  • thinkpink101thinkpink101 member
    jen83mn said:

    My mom gave me a bunch of my old baby clothes for my boy to wear (the ones that weren't girly), but obviously styles have changed in 32 years and most my old clothes were very well-worn and uncomfortable-looking. One even had strings on it which isn't even safe! My mom is an almost-hoarder, so she has a huge garbage bag full of my baby clothes and even burp rags that should have just been thrown away! I plan to take a pic of him in my old snowsuit just for the keepsake, but don't plan on him wearing it this winter (plus, I think he'll be too big). I am keeping the few clothes she gave me though just for my own memories.

    My mom did this to me with our first, except she brought obviously girly things. Bloomers trimmed with lace etc. her reasoning? Girl clothes are much cuter. Not going to argue with that, but I'm not dressing my boys in lace! My mom also wanted to buy LO a snowsuit and was offended when I declined. I tried to explain we wouldn't use it, LO will not be playing in the snow this winter and it's too bulky to go in the car seat. Oh and it had pink and purple on it, lol.

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  • jen83mnjen83mn member
    thinkpink101 said:

    jen83mn said:

    My mom gave me a bunch of my old baby clothes for my boy to wear (the ones that weren't girly), but obviously styles have changed in 32 years and most my old clothes were very well-worn and uncomfortable-looking. One even had strings on it which isn't even safe! My mom is an almost-hoarder, so she has a huge garbage bag full of my baby clothes and even burp rags that should have just been thrown away! I plan to take a pic of him in my old snowsuit just for the keepsake, but don't plan on him wearing it this winter (plus, I think he'll be too big). I am keeping the few clothes she gave me though just for my own memories.

    My mom did this to me with our first, except she brought obviously girly things. Bloomers trimmed with lace etc. her reasoning? Girl clothes are much cuter. Not going to argue with that, but I'm not dressing my boys in lace! My mom also wanted to buy LO a snowsuit and was offended when I declined. I tried to explain we wouldn't use it, LO will not be playing in the snow this winter and it's too bulky to go in the car seat. Oh and it had pink and purple on it, lol.
    Hahaha! I'm thankful my mom didn't go that far!
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  • bhll97bhll97 member
    My MIL has the worst sense of style. She has bought the ugliest upon ugliest clothes for DS. The problem is my hubby is really sensitive about his mom so I can't say much. He says, let's just take a picture of him wearing it and send her the picture. And where will this picture end up? Facebook?! Framed on the mantle in her house?! My DS would see that picture one day and think: "why did my parents dress me in that?!" It wasn't me!!!!! It was Grandma!!!! So I refused on one particular outfit that looked really girly. We still took pictures of him in some of the okay looking ones (not great, just okay). But I have to say MIL has picked out some cute Jammies and I have always been nice to her about the clothes even when I'm cringing inside.

    Oh and one more thing. My MIL has money but is always buying clothes on sale. I have no problem with saving money but I feel like she is wasting money in a way because some of the clothes look really cheap. I would rather her get just one slightly more expensive quality outfit Instead. Oh and the sales are usually non-returnable.

    But a gift is a gift so I shouldn't complain.
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  • StephaniexoStephaniexo member
    With Christmas coming up it's 100000x worse. My mother just sent me a picture of this shelf with a bunch of bins & legos in the bins, & told me she bought it for my son. He's 7 weeks old. So now I'm going to have this shelf taking up space in my nursery because he's not even going to be playing with these things for several months. I hate clutter, & I hate having things that aren't needed. It's going to drive me crazy.
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  • tlc11934tlc11934 member
    @Stephaniexo ask her to hold onto the Legos until he's older. No need to store something for years.
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  • Sully3302Sully3302 member
    We already had the talk with grandparents about not going crazy. We'll see how it goes! My mom just bought us a mamaroo (gently used) and said it was LO early Christmas present. More like a present for me... It gives my arms and back a break during the day!
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