HELP! Rian- How do you prounounce at first glance?

madisonlowe2 · November 2015

So. Long story short...We are having our first boy after two girls together. My husband also has another daughter from a previous marriage making it 3 girls for him. To honor him, I am giving in and letting him name our baby boy after him. His name will be Adrian Tremayne _____ II.

I want him to have a somewhat of his own name.... I don't want to call him Two. Deuce. Little Adrian. etc. I was thinking of using Rian from the end of Adrian. How do you pronounce it at first glance?
What is your honest opinion of the name?

Or. Would you just go with Tre from Tremayne?
I'm so confused and it's driving me crazy! I am 20 weeks this week and feel like I should have my son's name by now.

What would you call your son if those were him names?
PLEASE HELP!

mrstrax · November 2015

AJ as in Adrian Junior?

If I saw Rian written down I would assume it was a youneek version of Ryan.

fghmama6701 · November 2015

I would pronounce Rian like Ryan, but if I were just to see Rian on paper and not Adrian, I would think you had just misspelled his name.

I would personally just call him Adrian. My name is Sam and my son's name is Sam. It's not as awkward as you'd think. Wait until he's born to worry about nicknames... they tend to just fall into place.

JaiLou8833 · November 2015

I like the idea of using the last part of adrian. But.. seeing Rian spelled out looks kinda odd. Maybe spell it Ren ? I also like Tre from the middle name though too. Plus I think Tre gives him more of his own name.

lm45678 · November 2015

I would assume it was Ryan spelled differently.

I would just wait and see what nickname comes to him? We all thought my nephew would want to go by Tommy or TJ but he insists on going only by Thomas, his choice.

ElRuby · November 2015

You seem like you already regret giving him your husband's name so what is the point?

eileenmcgoo · November 2015

Ryan

Bringmemylongswordho · November 2015

There's something a bit messed up with him having 3 daughters' who presumably have his last name pushing for giving his son his entire name (especially as this doesn't seem to be a family tradition. ) to be "Honored ". Because having 4 children isn’t enough of an honor.

madisonlowe2 · November 2015

ElRuby said:

You seem like you already regret giving him your husband's name so what is the point?

No, I don't "regret" anything. I didn't think he would care so much about his name as I was able to name my two daughters without him saying much of anything. Since this is a boy he seems to care more. I honestly had a name already picked out and then he started saying he wanted his son to be named after him.

madisonlowe2 · November 2015

Bringmemylongswordho said:

There's something a bit messed up with him having 3 daughters' who presumably have his last name pushing for giving his son his entire name (especially as this doesn't seem to be a family tradition. ) to be "Honored ". Because having 4 children isn’t enough of an honor.

The sarcasm can go elsewhere. Really.

madisonlowe2 · November 2015

laurenm2123 said:

I would assume it was Ryan spelled differently. I would just wait and see what nickname comes to him? We all thought my nephew would want to go by Tommy or TJ but he insists on going only by Thomas, his choice.

That's what I said I would probably end up having to do...just wait and see his little face and then call him by something. I have called him Rian (Ryan) for awhile, but my husband doesn't think it makes sense to be pronounced that way since it has nothing to do with Adrian except the spelling of the ending.

Wahhhh.

SmrBrd2012 · November 2015

I would think a youneek and/or "feminine" spelling of Ryan or "Ree-ahn." If you want him to have his own name, why not just give him Adrian as his MN? I don't think it's fair to put your wishes aside for a name your son will have forever. Just my 2 cents. At any rate, I think if you are set with the name as is, he should either just go by Adrian or Tre. I do like PP's suggesting of AJ, too.

Bringmemylongswordho · November 2015

madisonlowe2 said:

Bringmemylongswordho said:

There's something a bit messed up with him having 3 daughters' who presumably have his last name pushing for giving his son his entire name (especially as this doesn't seem to be a family tradition. ) to be "Honored ". Because having 4 children isn’t enough of an honor.

The sarcasm can go elsewhere. Really.

It's not sarcasm, I honestly think it's sad that he feels his son has to be a junior for him to feel honored. It's a bit Henry the VIII.

ETA: this reaction is coming from you saying that you "gave in", as that implies you are not happy with the decision. As far as Rian, I would also assume that it was a youneek version of Ryan. Tre or the PP suggestions of an initial nickname. My personal vote would be to wait and see what nickname happens organically based on his personality and mannerisms.

ElRuby · November 2015

^^ this! Oh and @madisonlowe2 you can't dictate how people respond to your question. I didn't read sarcasm in @Bringmemylongswordho response at all.

mamaksweez · November 2015

Like pp's I'd pronounce it Ryan at first glance. If I knew his name was Adrian and it was a nn it's more obvious how you'd like it to be pronounced.
I do think that whatever you call him at home others will call him. Most people will hear his name before they see it. (With the exception of teachers, on resumes, etc. but they will most likely see Adrian not Rian.)
Also don't worry about not having a name yet I am at 32+2 with no boy name yet.

KaLikeAWind · November 2015

If your husband wants your son to be named after him, and you dont mind, name the boy Adrian and be done with it. Rian looks like you misspelled 'Rain', and seeing it just sitting there with no context - its doesn't seem masculine. I'm not sure if it seems feminine, either, but my point being that I would not have any idea this was a boy, or that this name was some kind of honor for anybody.

To answer your questions -
I would pronounce it Ree-un, like rerun, without the second R
My honest opinion of the name is that its not good
Tre sounds like you're trying to be gangsta / rockstar cool (I just keep thinking of Tre Cool from Green Day). Like with Adrian, use the whole name. Also, as an aside, when I try to type 'Tre' my autocorrect changes it to 'Tree'. Every time.

keri0426 · November 2015

I personally would just shorten the name to sound like Age. Or maybe Dre. When he is in school he will be writing Adrian on papers, not his nickname so it really won't matter how you spell it regardless of his nn. You have plenty of time to figure it out and when he is born you can just go by what comes natural.

MamaWren919 · November 2015

I assumed it was a misspelled Ryan. I agree with your husband though that pronouncing it like Ryan really doesn't make sense, since that has nothing to do with the sounds in Adrian. I would call him Adrian or Tre instead. Really, I would choose a name we both like together and middle name Adrian.

lindsayTTC · November 2015

At first I thought it was a feminine spelling of Ryan. If you are already concerned about him having his own name, maybe you need to rethink the name. Incorporate his name in the middle name.

Elsa1984 · November 2015

At first glance, I thought it was supposed to be a feminine version of Ryan. I don't like it. If I was honoring my husband and naming the kid completely after him, I would use my husbands full name and just be don't with it.

rebelone · November 2015

madisonlowe2 said:

So. Long story short...We are having our first boy after two girls together. My husband also has another daughter from a previous marriage making it 3 girls for him. To honor him, I am giving in and letting him name our baby boy after him. His name will be Adrian Tremayne _____ II.

I want him to have a somewhat of his own name.... I don't want to call him Two. Deuce. Little Adrian. etc. I was thinking of using Rian from the end of Adrian. How do you pronounce it at first glance?
What is your honest opinion of the name?

Or. Would you just go with Tre from Tremayne?
I'm so confused and it's driving me crazy! I am 20 weeks this week and feel like I should have my son's name by now.

What would you call your son if those were him names?
PLEASE HELP!

Honestly, if he wants to name his son after him I would give him the full name instead of applying a "you-neek" spelling. If you're not happy with this then I think you both need to agree together on a name.

MrsCliffwood · November 2015

Rian is an Irish boys name and here it's pronounced Re-an. (Like Cian)

So to me not 'youneek' at all and I quite like it.

FutureMrsCaesar · November 2015

My brain couldn't decide between Ryan or Re-an, to be honest. I like the idea of a nn AJ or using Tre. I know a few Trey's and none of them are 'gangster' so I guess I just don't have that association. My husband and my oldest son both have the same first name, different middle names, and it does get confusing so having a nick name plan isn't a bad idea. We use Matt for DH and Matthew for DS, every.single.time. It works for our family and friends but isn't failproof for everything.

ecwk · November 2015

Rian is the Irish form of Ryan and it is pronounced Ree-an. That's what I would think. I like it as that but not as a you-neek form of Adrian.

little_bren · November 2015

MrsCliffwood said:
Rian is an Irish boys name and here it's pronounced Re-an. (Like Cian)
So to me not 'youneek' at all and I quite like it.

If she's in America, no one will pronounce it like Cian. It does look "youneek" and misspelled here in the States.

ETA: clarity

cmerribury · November 2015

Rian spelled looks like REE-ann to me, which is a girls name. I would not choose this as a nickname for your son. Sometimes it's best to just wait and meet them. We had a nickname of Des lined up for our Desmond, but almost never use it. He prefers the formal full name. With out second (Malcolm) we aren't planning on a nickname at all, if one presents, then it does.

southerngirlgetsfit · November 2015

I would pronounce it like Ryan.

Knottie1442268460 · November 2015

Maybe you can come to a compromise with your husband. Maybe tremayne as first name and you pick a middle.

madisonlowe2 · November 2015

MamaWren919 said:

I assumed it was a misspelled Ryan. I agree with your husband though that pronouncing it like Ryan really doesn't make sense, since that has nothing to do with the sounds in Adrian. I would call him Adrian or Tre instead. Really, I would choose a name we both like together and middle name Adrian.

I agree with you. I wanted to name him Adrian Decker and call him Decker or Deck. It's my maiden name and I feel it's a very strong name. However, for whatever reason....he really wants his son to be named after him.

He never said anything when I named my two girls..but the boy seems different.

madisonlowe2 · November 2015

MrsCliffwood said:

Rian is an Irish boys name and here it's pronounced Re-an. (Like Cian)
So to me not 'youneek' at all and I quite like it.

Yes!

This.
I have looked it up and it is a boy's name. The feminine version of "Ryan" was what is made up. Rian actually means "king."
Thank you for liking it. lol!

madisonlowe2 · November 2015

FutureMrsCaesar said:

My brain couldn't decide between Ryan or Re-an, to be honest. I like the idea of a nn AJ or using Tre. I know a few Trey's and none of them are 'gangster' so I guess I just don't have that association. My husband and my oldest son both have the same first name, different middle names, and it does get confusing so having a nick name plan isn't a bad idea. We use Matt for DH and Matthew for DS, every.single.time. It works for our family and friends but isn't failproof for everything.

That's what I'm trying to avoid. I don't want them to both come when I call kind of thing. He will be a II so AJ I couldnt do. I dont like the Junior thing with his name...II just sounds better to me. We also have a couple of AJ's and DJ's in our family and also Trey's...so I was trying to stay away from it. Ehh. I just don't know.

madisonlowe2 · November 2015

ecwk said:

Rian is the Irish form of Ryan and it is pronounced Ree-an. That's what I would think. I like it as that but not as a you-neek form of Adrian.

What if it's not so much a unique version but more of a Nickname? What do you think about it then?

madisonlowe2 · November 2015

Baby'smom said:

Maybe you can come to a compromise with your husband. Maybe tremayne as first name and you pick a middle.

I'm not a fan of Tremayne...I rather have Adrian! Lol!

cbrefeld · November 2015

A dear friends mom is Rian (Ree Ann) but I also know a college aged girl Rian who pronounces it like Ryan.

VitaLuna · November 2015

If you don't like it, it's off the table, end of story. My H and I have both had names that we really love, but if the other person doesn't like it, back to the drawing board. It's not just his baby.

To answer your question, I'd pronounce it Ryan, or at quick glance, might think it was Rain. I don't think Adrian is bad, so I'd just go with that if you have your heart set on naming him after the father.

LoveIsOwlYouNeed · November 2015

Like most everyone else, I would pronounce it like Ryan and assume you were doing a unique spelling, or if I just saw it somewhere without you son around, I would assume it's a girl with a boy name that her parents tried to make feminine by misspelling it.

Tre is often a NN for a "third" so I'd assume he's Adrian the third. Not a huge deal, but something to consider.

jeanbug12 · November 2015

madisonlowe2 said:

FutureMrsCaesar said:

My brain couldn't decide between Ryan or Re-an, to be honest. I like the idea of a nn AJ or using Tre. I know a few Trey's and none of them are 'gangster' so I guess I just don't have that association. My husband and my oldest son both have the same first name, different middle names, and it does get confusing so having a nick name plan isn't a bad idea. We use Matt for DH and Matthew for DS, every.single.time. It works for our family and friends but isn't failproof for everything.

That's what I'm trying to avoid. I don't want them to both come when I call kind of thing. He will be a II so AJ I couldnt do. I dont like the Junior thing with his name...II just sounds better to me. We also have a couple of AJ's and DJ's in our family and also Trey's...so I was trying to stay away from it. Ehh. I just don't know.

Typically when a baby is named after dad, they get the Jr suffix. II is used when they are named after a family member who is not dad (uncle, grandpa, etc...)

If you want the baby to have his own name, you and your husband should find a name you both agree on. If you aren't on board with a jr it should be off the table! Maybe he can have dad's name as his middle name or they can share the same initials.

madisonlowe2 · December 2015

Not a unique form of Adrian- His name would be Adrian, I just want to call him Rian.

madisonlowe2 · December 2015

Rian is actually a male name and means King. I would just be using it off the end of Adrian as a nickname.

jerseygirl9090 · December 2015

Why not use Adrian for his middle name and give him his own first name? I'm also not a fan of having the same exact name as your child I just think it's not very creative unless it's like a family tradition then I understand. That's just my opinion though you should do what you think is best. I pronounced Rian like Ryan when I first saw it.

MixedBerries88 · December 2015

My first instinct would be to use Trey from his middle name. My second suggestion would be to consider giving him his own middle name. It may just be the industry I'm in but I have seen a lot of confusion with the online/electronic identities of Srs and Jrs. This way you have a way to distinguish identities and pick a name you want to call him.

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