2 sisters in law are pregnant!

SoManyBoys · October 2015

So my brother told us that his wife is expecting the end of April... So that is exciting that we will be about a month apart!!!

Then last night, my husbands sister tells us she is pregnant. My husband and I have been talking about it for awhile waiting for her to tell us cuz she has been looking pregnant. Well last night, she tells us she is due February! She is 20 weeks pregnant and just told us. she hasn't told her grandmother yet and just told us officially. It is so weird that they waited so long! And it's her first. Now I feel like I want to wait a really long time to tell them about me... It just seems weird to announce two weeks after them that we are due almost 3 months later! Very weird situation!

swflJD · October 2015

How exciting to have cousins so close in age! My sister and BIL are due at the end of November with their first. Our due dates are 6 months and 1 day apart. It is going to make for some really fun family gatherings in the future!

nsouplynn · October 2015

How very exciting to have the cousins close in age! When I was pregnant with my first, I was pregnant with four other cousins (due within a couple months apart) and it was so exciting to get the babies together at family get-togethers.

Bluejay3030 · October 2015

So much fun!! I'm jealous! It is a little weird that the one waited till 20 weeks to tell family, but I'm sure they had their reasons. I don't think it would be weird to still tell them early--then you have longer to commiserate about pregnancy and share nursery ideas, etc!

helleebellee · October 2015

If I can, I'll be waiting until 20 weeks ish. 5 recent losses play a huge roll in my wait time. Plus, when you're on #8, people kind of stop caring and start in on the awful comments, so, we wait. Everyone has their reasons.

My SIL is due in February, as well, but we're not close, and rarely talk. My other SIL is due in March, but she lives a few states away and I've only met her once. So I'm going it alone this round. But being pregnant with people you're close to is fun.

babycakes8214 · October 2015

That's fantastic!

I have one friend who is due a month before me and another who is due a month after me. We are all so excited to be doing this together again. Our babies were all born within 2 weeks of each other the last time around. Finding out my other friend was expecting has really helped me get excited about my pregnancy, I've been too scared of a loss to get excited.

LadySamLady · October 2015

So exciting! I'd love to have a fellow pregnant pal IRL. If you want to tell your family (or anyone) sooner than 20 weeks, you absolutely should! Everyone deals with pregnancy differently. And like a PP said, the sooner you tell the sooner you can commiserate! Also, this probably won't be the first time you're not on the exact same page about pregnancy and/or child rearing. What's good for you won't always be for her and vice versa - and it is OK!

sillyfox · October 2015

With DD, I was pregnant at the same time as DH's brother's wife. The babies are 10 days apart!! I love how close in age the cousins are and they are SO cute together!! They're 16 months so they play and share and jabber at eachother, and I know they'll be close their whole lives! I love it! But fair warning, there are a ton of hormones and for absolutely no reason at all I was weirdly jealous about the dumbest stuff while we were pregnant. Why does she get more sonograms than me? Why is she posting so many bump pictures on FB? Did she copy me, I have that same shirt! It made NO sense and we were actually pretty good friends but try not to compare yourself!

This time, my little brother's fiancé is pregnant, due in March! I'm definitely more excited this time but, remembering how I felt and also remembering that this is her first, I am very consciously trying not to steal her thunder. But I'm thrilled that both of my babies will have cousins so close in age!

Congratulations! Those feelings of she did something this way, would I look weird if I do it differently, are totally normal! And totally awkward, I can commiserate! But there is no right or wrong answer, just what feels right to you and DH! Enjoy being pregnant with them and try to look at it as a blessing! And try not to be too jealous when they have their babies before you, that part is tough when it rolls around.

Sorry if that all sounds weird. Just trying to give a little advice from a BTDT perspective! :x

mrsjlopez12 · October 2015

That's is fun! Having lots of little cousins to play with! One of my SIL just had her baby one week ago and my other SIL is due two days after Christmas! We are announcing on Christmas Eve! I'll be 22 weeks by then! I want them to have their moments pregnant and new baby's. We are betting my SIL will have her baby the week before Christmas.

chottomotto · October 2015

I'm always pregnant at the same time as one of my SILs. My husband's brother & his wife are actually due in a couple weeks. They always announce right away. My brother doesn't announce until month 8-9, and once they waited until after the child had arrived! (They have 4 kiddos.) I'm 10 weeks and I haven't told anyone, not even my best friend or my brother. I'm not telling until I absolutely must. I was thinking of announcing at Thanksgiving dinner (16 weeks) but I might be able to make it to our family Hanukkah party (19 weeks).

beff12 · October 2015

That'll be awesome to have all those kids that are the same age! I'm in a similar situation - due the 29th, my cousin is due the 29th, and my SIL is due the 31st! All in May!

snmhxf · October 2015

My sil is pregnant, she told us pretty much immediately. I cried! We had been trying for over a year at that point and I just knew that even if we got pregnant soon after she would, once again, steal our thunder. Then we got pregnant.. Amazing.. No one knows. Sure enough she's having a girl and everyone is thrilled.. So we are not announcing for several more weeks to let that excitement die down. We will likely announce sometime Around thanksgiving.. I'm 11 weeks now so I'll be like 17 weeks.

katykatykaty · October 2015

That's neat! When I was pregnant with my first, both of my husband's sisters were pregnant too. One sister and I ended up being in labor on the same day (actually I was on day 3 of labor by that point), and we had our kids 45 minutes apart!

Soontobejones33 · October 2015

My BIL'S new girlfriend, like in the last two months new, is pregnant. Due around the same time as me. I'm a little irritated. This is my family's 8th grandchild, so not so special. But his family's first, well maybe first. Dang it I feel like the interloper is stealing my thunder. :-S Haven't even met her yet. Guess it will be good for the baby to have a cousin so close in age on his side. Not really close to the rest of his family and my clan is fairly large but spread out.

jessiedee13 · October 2015

I didn't tell my family at all until I was 38 weeks. And I wouldn't have even told them then except I was clearly going to be appearing at family gatherings with a baby. Told my hubby's family at 16 weeks. With our second baby we told my family at 20 weeks and his family right away because I was very sick and needed help caring for our son. This time around, I've told only the people (family and otherwise) that need to know and it will stay that way until baby is born. It's a personal preference to keep our business our business. I don't need or want the opinions or comments since they are never positive.

On a brigher note, my oldest has a couple cousins that are just 2 months older than him and it is the most exciting thing ever to watch them grow up together!!! It'll be a blast for you guys!

ciciramirez · October 2015

Not weird at all. My uncles wife told everyone in the famoly thay she was pregnant. I already knew i was pregnant we are 2 months apart sges due march im due in may. Just tell them. Because you never know what can happen if you dont use your mouth. Speak up.

lalala2004 · October 2015

ciciramirez said:
Not weird at all. My uncles wife told everyone in the famoly thay she was pregnant. I already knew i was pregnant we are 2 months apart sges due march im due in may. Just tell them. Because you never know what can happen if you dont use your mouth. Speak up.

You need to up both your grammar game and your troll game if you want to be entertaining, at least.

lionstigersbears · October 2015

Soontobejones33 said:
My BIL'S new girlfriend, like in the last two months new, is pregnant. Due around the same time as me. I'm a little irritated. This is my family's 8th grandchild, so not so special. But his family's first, well maybe first. Dang it I feel like the interloper is stealing my thunder. :-S Haven't even met her yet. Guess it will be good for the baby to have a cousin so close in age on his side. Not really close to the rest of his family and my clan is fairly large but spread out.

Just remember it takes two to tango...it's so easy to villianize the new person, but your BIL played a role too. Who knows, she could be a wonderful person. I'm sorry you're feeling like your thunder is stolen, but I hope you'll find that there is plenty of love to go around.

eliseandbaby · October 2015

I'm lurking from December, but I have three brothers and all their wives are pregnant!! One even has same due date as me. Very odd situation but also kind of funny and exciting.

bgoodwin4 · October 2015

My sister and I are pregnant and due two weeks apart!!! We were both pregnant last year around this time, were due two days apart and both miscarried. Hoping it sticks this time for both of us (I'm 9 weeks, she's 7). These will be our first kids and the first grand babies as well. we are trying to come up with fun ways to tell our parents at thanksgiving. If anyone has any thoughts, please share:)

LaurenB2016 · November 2015

I see so many of you on here who are super excited about a SIL being pregant! How do you do it???

My SIL just announced (she's only 4 weeks and I'm 16 wks) but they had planned on waiting a couple years on having kids (being a few years younger than me and my husband). Then the week after we announce our pregnancy, they said they would start trying.

This has happened over and over with my SIL and BIL - we got a puppy, they got a puppy, we got married, they were engaged 2 months later. I'm so upset at her that I threw away her last baby gift to me because it was all set up to announce her pregnancy. My husband and I never get to have our special "life moments" for long before she jumps in and does the same thing.

Even the china, crystal, flatware, etc. on her wedding registry was the same as mine. Give me a break.

Any advice??? I have a feeling this will never stop and I"m angry about it. My MIL keeps saying "Aren't you excited to be an aunty?" (Um, no...) I need help to have the right attitude!!

Thanks ladies

vinerie · November 2015

Lucky you! I agree with PP that to have cousins the same age is really neat!

Pascal86 · November 2015

@LaurenB2016 - That sounds super annoying! I have the opposite problem though - my husband is an only child, and my sister isn't exactly on the marriage/kids track, so I'm the only one doing any of this stuff. It's not an actual problem, just kind of wish there were more cousins on the horizon, more family stuff going on, etc. So I know all problems are relative - other people having the opposite problem doesn't make your situation less annoying, but maybe thinking about that helps you recognize the perks of your scenario.

I'm pretty excited though - one of my best friends had her baby this weekend (doesn't know I'm pregnant yet, but was really excited that we might try for close to her kid), and another good friend just told me she was pregnant, so I'm super excited to finally have someone else to go through this with! At 12 weeks we've barely told anyone, but I told this gal since we're in it together now

LaurenB2016 · November 2015

That makes sense. Hopefully as her pregnancy progresses, it will feel more like we are in this together instead of her always trying to steal my thunder. I would be much happier if it was a girlfriend or my sister instead of my SIL though

curranco1 · December 2015

I agree that I would be annoyed about all the copying (china, etc). I would probably be more annoyed about the copied china though haha. As someone who grew up with a somewhat large family living (mostly) in the same city, I have to say there's never a day that goes by that I don't thank God for my cousins. I have two cousins who were born the same year as me (dads all brothers, so the wives all SIL) and it was just the best growing up! From kindergarten until I graduated college, I was only without a cousin at school with me for one year (he opted to go to an all boys Catholic school). We are all still close and starting to have kids at the same time, too (cousins due in dec, march and me in May) and I'm so excited to be able to get the babies together! So I would think about what a gift it is for your child to have a cousin so close in age. I hope they end up being the best of friends

sophieophieoh · December 2015

My sister is due may 6 with her 3rd(the girl she's always wished for) and I'm due the 29th, it'll be interesting xD

dshannah · December 2015

LaurenB2016 said:
Even the china, crystal, flatware, etc. on her wedding registry was the same as mine. Give me a break.

Well, imitation is the sincerest form of flattery:)

But, more importantly, in 20 years when you break your plates and glasses and the patterns are no longer in production, one of you will have the replacement parts to buy from the other:)

Trying to find replacement parts for my grandmother's china and crystal (forget about the flatware!) has been an exercise in futility:(

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