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MIL guilt trip

whitemn04whitemn04 member
in October 2015 Moms
So today is my 30th bday. DH and I decided to get a sitter (my mom who lives just up the street) for a couple hours. My MIL found out and now is saying it's too early for me to be leaving my 3.5 week old baby and threw a fit. I really think it's a jealousy thing as she said if we need to get away for a few hours and go to her town she would love to watch DS. The bar we are going to is 2 blocks from my house, it was a last minute decision so we just asked my mom, and I'm not planning to get wasted. MIL also made a comment that it's not right I introduced a bottle so soon and that I shouldn't use it as an excuse to go party. WTF? DH and I just want to go have a drink and get out for a little bit. My child is getting breast milk I pumped throughout the day. And why hassle having them drive last minute notice when it will be just for a bit and my mom can be here in literally 2 minutes?? mIL irritates me with her sudden stupidity when it comes to kids and now this really makes me want to avoid her. Blah!! Sorry for the rant but DH is probably tired of listening to me!
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  • beccaburke22beccaburke22 member
    You are an adult and have every right enjoy your birthday and to make decisions regarding your little one. Enjoy your night and happy birthday!
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  • cmjn94cmjn94 member
    This irritates me so much. It's absolutely not her business to tell you how to raise your own baby. We dropped off our LO with his godmother for a few hours when he was less than a week old so we could grab dinner and spend some time together. I am pumping and supplementing so it was easy to send a bottle; and you can introduce a bottle whenever you feel it's appropriate for your own baby.
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  • cc47033cc47033 member
    No ma'am!! DH and I went out to dinner after two and a half weeks and my mom watched the baby. You did not go out too early, nor should you feel guilty. Happy Birthday Mama, you have a great one!
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  • millereliz13millereliz13 member
    My little guy was just over 2 weeks old when my husband and I went to dinner for our anniversary. Your MIL just needs to learn she doesn't get a vote. Ignore her, she sounds jealous
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  • midge519midge519 member
    You two are mom and dad. You get to decide when you leave him, with whom, when he gets a bottle, and any other decision you may come across. We introduced a bottle to LO at 5 days old because at two weeks old we had an adults only wedding. We were gone from him for almost 8 hours that day. You can do what you want. I hope you had a great birthday!
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  • koriemokoriemo member
    We started using a bottle when he was 1 week old so that DH could feed him. I was pumping to up my supply and was totally exhausted. I wasn't planning to, but At 5 AM, I was falling asleep feeding the baby and "dropped" him on my lap. He started crying and Took him, told me to sleep, and gave him a bottle from the fridge. And guess what? He is fine! He nurses, drinks from a bottle, and uses a pacifier.

    We are going out next weekend for our anniversary! And I can't wait!
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  • NatalieBrooke2007NatalieBrooke2007 member
    I did this after a week. I didn't realize that people could even consider taking "me time" was a bad thing. Ignore your MIL; you're an adult.
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  • lindsayp916lindsayp916 member
    My MIL kept making comments about how my mother gets to see and watch the baby since she lives close to us, left several pity party/guilt trip voice mails, and finally we told her she was welcome to come watch baby any time she would like. Yesterday she drove 3 hrs yesterday to babysit while my husband and I went to a long lunch- which honestly was time so valuable and needed, I feel refreshed and ready to deal with diapers and late nights again.

    My point- your time away celebrating is a necessity to your well being and sanity! Take it and enjoy! Secondly, you can always offer to your MIL to watch the baby if she would like!
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  • whitemn04whitemn04 member
    I'm glad I went out! We had a great time. MIL commented it looks like we had a good time so I thought she was over it, but no. The comments kept coming and the constant calls to my husband asking how things are going and she is there if we need her. We had thanksgiving with them set up for the Saturday after but now that got moved to this coming Saturday because she just wants time with LO. So we had to rearrange schedules to accommodate. DH told her to come up some time. She mentioned stopping by the other day he said go ahead but then never did so I don't feel sorry for her. I think she would just rather wallow in her self pity and try to be a drama queen. I just ignore her.
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