repeat csection with toddler?

smileybabyboy · November 2015

I've posted this on the csection board. Just trying to reach more people.

I'm trying to decide if I should have a repeat c section or a vbac. I feel like the csection would just be easier but I'm concerned now that I have a toddler at home. I've heard women heal within days of a vaginal delivery. For those who went through with the csection, was it difficult post op with your toddler at home? Thanks.

RN0107 · November 2015

I had a RCS when my toddler was 17 months. My H was able to take off 2 weeks of work which was so incredibly helpful. The hardest part was just not being able to lift my older son. As far as recovery I thought my RCS was much easier. I had no complications and minimal pain.

babyA227 · November 2015

I am in the same boat! I was going to attempt vbac but that is now not an option. My son is 4 and all he has ever known is mommy rough housing around with him. So I am sure the healing process will be a change for him. But luckily Febuary is a really slow month for my boyfriend at work (football coach) so he will be a huge help!

Achae · November 2015

I don't understand the belief that a csection is "easier." For who, the doctor? It is a major surgery and your body takes a longer recovery time. I would avoid any surgery if it's possible!

RN0107 · November 2015

I was just trying to say that comparing my first emergency c/s recovery vs the RCS the RCS was easier for me. I had less pain and I was able to get around better.

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brintie76 · November 2015

I had an emergency c-section with my first and healed up super fast. I'm expecting my 2nd in mid February and requested a repeat c-section. My toddler will be 23 months when her sister arrives. I'm not worried at all about my recovery with a toddler, I did so well after the first one. I'm actually excited that I don't have to go through another induction and 20 hours of hard core labor for nothing again. This will be so much easier, in and out in 48 hours or less, not the 5 days I was in the hospital with tje first baby!!!!

Life is Exciting · November 2015

I have a 2.5 year old and will be attempting a vbac. I am looking at it less from a recovery standpoint and more from the perspective of wanting to have the birth experience that I had hoped for the first time around.

smileybabyboy · November 2015

Thank you! I did hear a RCS has a faster recovery than the first. I think it would be easier than a vbac because we don't have a babysitter we can call over on a moments notice when I go into labor. I could have my mother or MIL come a day early and watch my son when I go into the hospital. I would rather have a RCS because that's what I'm used too. I have more fear and anxiety about having a vbac.

twinmom1121 · November 2015

I have twin toddlers and am really hoping for a vbac this time around. My recovery with my csection with them was really easy, but I don't think it would be as easy with toddlers running around. They are going to want to be held sometimes and won't be able to understand that mommy can't pick them up for 6 weeks. The more csections you have the harder on your body in my opinion because it is a major surgery! Good luck on whichever you decide!

chelsmcl · November 2015

I have a 2.5 year old and I'm hoping for a VBAC because I think the recovery would be tough while chasing around a toddler.

ARogers26 · November 2015

I have a 15 mo old. Will be 19 mo when i am due... I am also going for a VBAC. I would avoid surgery at all costs if you want the easier recovery. I realize you can tear with vaginal delivery, but csection is no joke- and mine was a smooth recovery!

Twindling · November 2015

I'm attempting a VBAC for many reasons.

1. Telling my twin 2 year olds that mommy can't hold them for 6 weeks will be hell.

2. Even though my first recovery was a breeze, doesn't mean the second will be.

3. Vaginal birth is less risky for me AND baby AND is better for baby's overall health.

4. I want the experience of a vaginal birth.

wisco29 · November 2015

smileybabyboy said:
I've posted this on the csection board. Just trying to reach more people.

I'm trying to decide if I should have a repeat c section or a vbac. I feel like the csection would just be easier but I'm concerned now that I have a toddler at home. I've heard women heal within days of a vaginal delivery. For those who went through with the csection, was it difficult post op with your toddler at home? Thanks.

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twinmom1121 · November 2015

Twindling said:
I'm attempting a VBAC for many reasons.

1. Telling my twin 2 year olds that mommy can't hold them for 6 weeks will be hell.

2. Even though my first recovery was a breeze, doesn't mean the second will be.

3. Vaginal birth is less risky for me AND baby AND is better for baby's overall health.

4. I want the experience of a vaginal birth.

I already commented but all of this for me too!

mabrams27 · November 2015

I had my now 3 year old by vaginal delivery however, I will be having twins by csection due to my previous labor complications with my daughter(I hemorrhaged). I am terrified of being cut open but whatever is safest is what it will be.

AdventureMama · November 2015

I had an emergency c-section with my first and will be having an RCS with this one. My son will be 2.5 and I'm really not looking forward to not being able to hold him, but a c-section is the safest option for my body. My recovery was also really, really easy so I'm hoping to have a similar (if not better) experience. It'll be nice to not have to labor for 36 hours before this one!

stephz44 · November 2015

So glad you posted this! I was going to attempt a VBAC, but dr. decided against it since I'm a high risk pregnancy. So, I'm a little nervous about the recovery with a 3 yr old at home, too. I remember the hardest part the first time around was getting out of bed and up from the couch. DH will be taking a couple weeks off and the gmas will hang-out to help too. DD will just have to understand that Mommy will be really sore from being in the hospital. Not really looking forward to being in pain again---but they give some good pain killers! ;P

Soon2bStaff · November 2015

Twindling said:
I'm attempting a VBAC for many reasons.

1. Telling my twin 2 year olds that mommy can't hold them for 6 weeks will be hell.

2. Even though my first recovery was a breeze, doesn't mean the second will be.

3. Vaginal birth is less risky for me AND baby AND is better for baby's overall health.

4. I want the experience of a vaginal birth.

These are my reasons for wanting a VBAC, especially number 4, but doctor is recommending RCS. For you, and others that said VBAC, was your first one because of specific complications: positioning, heart rate dropping, etc? Mine was failure to progress (40w2d after induction, breaking water, and 12 hours of labor w epidural after having meconium in the water) with baby getting stuck in my pelvic area but it keeps making me think all these "what ifs"...

twinmom1121 · November 2015

Soon2bStaff said:

Twindling said:
I'm attempting a VBAC for many reasons.

1. Telling my twin 2 year olds that mommy can't hold them for 6 weeks will be hell.

2. Even though my first recovery was a breeze, doesn't mean the second will be.

3. Vaginal birth is less risky for me AND baby AND is better for baby's overall health.

4. I want the experience of a vaginal birth.
These are my reasons for wanting a VBAC, especially number 4, but doctor is recommending RCS. For you, and others that said VBAC, was your first one because of specific complications: positioning, heart rate dropping, etc? Mine was failure to progress (40w2d after induction, breaking water, and 12 hours of labor w epidural after having meconium in the water) with baby getting stuck in my pelvic area but it keeps making me think all these "what ifs"...

The only reason I had a csection is because my baby a was head down and baby b was transverse. So they let me choose what I wanted to do. I felt it was less risky just going for the csection. Because of all that, I am a good candidate for a vbac which is why I am really hoping it works out!

Twindling · November 2015

I'm similar to twinmom. My baby a was breech and baby b was head down. My ob was not comfortable delivering baby a breech (only baby b) and I really didn't want a double whammy so I was okay with it. Because it was positioning alone, my ob says I'm one of the best candidates for a VBAC and have a higher chance for success since I'm essentially a FTM in the birthing aspect.

Life is Exciting · November 2015

Soon2bStaff said:

I'm attempting a VBAC for many reasons. 1. Telling my twin 2 year olds that mommy can't hold them for 6 weeks will be hell. 2. Even though my first recovery was a breeze, doesn't mean the second will be. 3. Vaginal birth is less risky for me AND baby AND is better for baby's overall health. 4. I want the experience of a vaginal birth.
These are my reasons for wanting a VBAC, especially number 4, but doctor is recommending RCS. For you, and others that said VBAC, was your first one because of specific complications: positioning, heart rate dropping, etc? Mine was failure to progress (40w2d after induction, breaking water, and 12 hours of labor w epidural after having meconium in the water) with baby getting stuck in my pelvic area but it keeps making me think all these "what ifs"...

Mine was failure to progress. Got stuck at 5cm dilated and never dilated further. I was 36 weeks and was induced due to low amniotic fluid. My OB office is generally OK with me trying for a VBAC (there are a bunch of midwives and OBs in that office and some are very outspoken that they think it's a great idea and want to support it, others are lukewarm and want to schedule the C-section in advance in case. Hubby and I are going to avoid scheduling a csection in advance unless absolutely necessary).

tarala · November 2015

Similar situation. My DD will be exactly 1yr 9 days old if I make it to my potentially scheduled c section date of 1/28.

I would have attempted a vbac but I am having twins, the the time between my surgeries have been super short and I have a major issue with strep b. I have already had a vancomycin infusion (which you would normally just get before delivery to knock it out) except it doesn't get rid of mine. I cannot risk that being passed on to the babies.

It is going to be really hard balancing the newborn twins and my 12 month old DD but we are just going to bed to get help from family and my DH is taking 2 weeks off

chelsmcl · November 2015

We needed an emergency c-section when I was already 7cm dilated because the cord wrapped around her neck and the lost her heart beat even with the internal monitors. The OB said I'm a good VBAC candidate because that was a freak issue and not something likely to reoccur.

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