Miscarriage/Pregnancy Loss
janderson483
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Miscarriage & Pregnant Friends
janderson483
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Been trying for 3 years for a 2nd lo. Miscarried in May (blighted ovum) and again last week at 9 weeks (no heartbeat).
Most of the women in my circle of friends have children, and many are now pregnant again after barely trying (yes I actually know bc we talk about it all the time).
Two just announced their pregnancies and have due dates near what mine would have been. Though I am over the moon for them, I am finding it difficult to be around them. I'm sure our similar due dates is part of it, I'm sure the rawness of this latest miscarriage is part, but I don't know how to be around them.
How do you spend time with people who are pregnant without feeling bitter or sad? These are dear people to me and I want to be happy for them and celebrate with them but I don't know how.
Most of the women in my circle of friends have children, and many are now pregnant again after barely trying (yes I actually know bc we talk about it all the time).
Two just announced their pregnancies and have due dates near what mine would have been. Though I am over the moon for them, I am finding it difficult to be around them. I'm sure our similar due dates is part of it, I'm sure the rawness of this latest miscarriage is part, but I don't know how to be around them.
How do you spend time with people who are pregnant without feeling bitter or sad? These are dear people to me and I want to be happy for them and celebrate with them but I don't know how.
Re: Miscarriage & Pregnant Friends
BFP1 04/24/2015 EDD Dec 2015 MMC 10W5d;
BFP 2 09/25/2015 EDD June 2016 MMC 9wks;
BFP 3 03/22/2016 EDD Dec 6th 2016
This is one of the hardest parts of the grieving process. My sister gave birth to her second son 3 weeks to the day that I lost my daughter. I had so many different emotions, mostly anger and jealousy. I would never resent my sister or her children for what happened to me, but its incredibly hard to hide your feelings when you are already so emotional. Watching everyone else around you have perfectly healthy babies is never easy, no matter how much time has passed. Having someone to talk to about your true feelings is the best medicine. Someone you can be completely honest with, that wont judge you or think differently if you aren't bringing in new babies with joy and love. These boards are the best place for this. We have all gone through hell, so we can all pick each other back up and support one another. Love to all the momma's out there!
Praying for you.
Me: 33 H: 36
Married: 12/14/13 DS: 1/29/09
BFP2: 10/9/15 MMC: 11/12/15
BFP3: 4/6/16 DD: 12/12/16