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Pregnancy Venting/Rant

xxarlannaxxxxarlannaxx member
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Let me just start off by saying that I love my growing baby and there is nothing I wouldn't do to protect and prove my devotion to him. I am 32 weeks pregnant, for the past 3 weeks I have been dealing with intense lower back pain, severe heartburn or acid reflux EVERY SINGLE NIGHT the minute I am semi-comfy, headaches, I wake up severely swollen every morning, extreme fatigue... The list goes on!! When I want to sleep, I can't until forever passes and when I can't sleep I am so tired and lazy and on the verge of passing out...until I get the opportunity to do so...then I can't again due to one of the many terrible situations (and more) listed above. When I do sleep, the moment I wake up the first thing I notice is how swollen my hands and ankles are. My fingers and toes resemble breakfast sausages, and it's really uncomfortable. I feel so unattractive, so hopeless, so useless, like I'm on the verge of dying from being ripped in half or exploding from the inside out....I'm very much over the pregnancy stage. My first two pregnancies were a total breeze. With my daughter I had maybe two months of morning sickness and motion sickness which was pretty bad but after that It was a great, easy pregnancy. With my son I had absolutely NO SYMPTOMS! And when I say no symptoms I'm saying I could've went seven months into the pregnancy was not even knowing I was pregnant, not one hint other than maybe some very slight weight gain. This third pregnancy is turning out to be the death of me!! And I feel guilty because I keep complaining about how this pregnancy is causing all these issues and pains and that this pregnancy is no longer enjoyable, it just downright sucks. But I also feel like when the baby does come I'm going to miss being pregnant. I'm going to miss not being woken up every hour on the hour etc and want the pregnancy part back. I just feel like no matter what tricks and tips I try to use to help ease the pain and frustration it never works. Then I want to cry because I feel like a total b!+ch and like all I do is complain now which is just terrible. Please somebody tell me I'm not crazy and that I'm not the only one wishing for their baby to come out because their body feels like it's having the most terrible meltdown malfunction ever....rant over.
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  • lelajohnsonlelajohnson member
    Girl. I know exactly how you feel. A few years ago, I broke my back, and it never Healed correctly. So I knowwwww lower back pain. I have all of the other symptoms. It is horrible. I am now 40 weeks and a couple of days, and I just want her out. I tried all inducement methods and even prayed for her to come out and I don't even believe in that stuff. I am just desperate. I have lost all hope in an end of pregnancy. I am scheduled to be induced and I still think it just won't work. You aren't alone.
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  • xxarlannaxxxxarlannaxx member
    It actually is so relieving to hear I'm not alone lol.
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  • celainevcelainev member
    Have you talked to your doctor about this? Severe swelling with a headache can indicate preeclampsia.
    If not, make sure to lower your salts and spices and increase your water intake. Also, try sleeping sitting up. Prop yourself up with pillows or sleep in a semi reclined recliner.
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  • xxarlannaxxxxarlannaxx member
    I actually haven't discussed it with my doctor. I was told to expect some swelling and more intense body aches in the late stages of pregnancy (third tri) so I didn't really think anything was out of the norm. I haven't gotten a lot of headaches or headaches that seem to be connected to another onset symptom but I NEVER got headaches before. I would get a headache maybe 3-5 times a year, where as in the past 3/4 weeks I've had 3 headaches that just sucked and slowed me down even more which was frustrating. It just feels like my body is having a meltdown at this point. Just aches and pains in one way or another all the time.
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  • StormiewinterStormiewinter member
    Swelling and headache that kept returning were my first signs of preeclampsia. It wasn't a severe headache but it just kept coming back. Call your doctor just to be safe.
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  • ZoeyRaeJamesZoeyRaeJames member
    I feel your pain! Even though I'm not having the swelling and headache issues. I can't get comfortable, due to either heartburn, or my sides hurting from my LO using my ribs as a kicking and punching bag! And the stretching of skin..Ugh! So, so sore, when I lay down wrong. Hang in there, Mama! Your LO will be here before you know it. :smile:
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  • xxarlannaxxxxarlannaxx member
    I see my dr on the 19th so I'll ask if I should be concerned then.

    Thanks everyone! So glad I'm not alone on this :)
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  • jlavadojlavado member
    You are not alone...I read a lot because I am feeling the way you do. I am almost 38 weeks and I am so done being pregnant. I feel bad complaining but I can't sleep anymore, I can't get comfortable at all, I have all kinds of different pains, heart burn it's horrible...anyways I just want to sit and very at times, during the day it's not as bad but nights are worse. I am going to be induced on the 24th by choice, I just want my baby here and I want to be normal again. Hang in there we know it's all worth it at the end
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  • xxarlannaxxxxarlannaxx member
    It really is painful and very uncomfortable. And I don't think people looking from the outside understand how really frustrating and exhausting it can be never feeling comfortable, settled, energetic, progressive etc. Anytime I try and talk to my mom about it all she has to say as "well you better get used to it. It might suck but oh well, you got things to accomplish so just do it." -_- gee whiz mom...thank you! Sometimes to me it feels like I just need to vent, but sometimes I forget that I have vented about the same thing numerous times for the past couple of weeks and the people around me are probably getting sick of hearing it and I feel guilty after but more frusterated. A NEW little something I've been dealing with...(this might be TMI) is it feels like my baby is punching my vagina. It almost feels like you're peeing yourself or having something incredibly small just play around right on the inside of your lady part. It's very awkward feeling your vagina randomly jolt in such a way that it makes you think your baby's hand (or another body part) is almost out. I am desperately trying my best to hold in there though and just except what comes and just keep being positive and be happy that my baby is healthy and clearly loving my womb lol
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  • delujm0delujm0 member

    There are several safe heartburn medications that can be taken while you are pregnant.  I was on prescription strength Zantac (which is preventative rather than reactionary) for the entirety of the third tri.  It was amazing.  Highly recommend.

     

    Definitely talk to your doctor about what you are feeling.  They're the only person who can tell you waht is normal and what you might be able to treat.

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  • catgrazcatgraz member
    You're not alone!!! And I'm fed up with the way others react to me complaing : the messages are -more or less direct - : " you're overeacting! Can't be that bad!", "it's part of the game! Suck it!", " you're a bad mum, you should be happy!" , "baby is ok? Yes? Then everything is fine, nobody cares about you", "6 weeks to go? Why are you complaining? It's nothing!", "what? You wish, baby would come a bit earlier? You're so selfish!"
    I don't feel like I'm really "allowed" to complain so now I start answering "I'm fine. Thank you!"....
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  • xxarlannaxxxxarlannaxx member
    That's basically me at this point too lol just toughing it out while doing my best at keeping my mouth shut. Obviously everyone knows how excited & happy I am to be pregnant & getting to meet my son soon because I voice that as well. They love listening to me go on about how joyful and exciting pregnancy is, but the moment I show any sign of frustration or discomfort it's like they start judging or thinking I'm looking for a pity party which is not even close. It's just reality, there's a pro and cons to everything, even pregnancy! It's not all smiles and rainbows and puppies and glitter and happy things...it can be painful and exhausting and nauseating Etc but nobody wants to hear about those things. I was just starting to think that I was the only pregnant woman voicing her frustrations because that's how everyone around me made me feel (other than my hubby,my hubby totally gets it actually), like I was just absurd to voice pregnancy issues instead of put on a smile and act like the invincible super mom.
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  • AnaelseaAnaelsea member
    it helps to swim. it takes alot of the weight off!
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  • xxarlannaxxxxarlannaxx member
    I wish I could
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