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Pregnancy can be Complicated...

AGK2015AGK2015 member
in April 2016 Moms
So it's been super swell hearing everybody's love stories on the GTKY thread; I'm glad to see that there are so many good partners out there! But at the same time, I've also been reading the news out of Indianapolis about the pregnant pastor's wife who was murdered in her home.

I won't pretend to know what happened in her case (whether it was really a home invader, or whether she was killed by someone closer to home), but I do know that somewhere in the neighborhood of 20% of women who die in pregnancy are murdered.  Most of those women are murdered by an intimate partner.  Even though that's a small sliver of the population at large, estimates are that somewhere between 6% and 8% pregnant women are victims of abuse, which often escalates during pregnancy.  Further, 1 in 6 women who are victims of domestic violence indicate that the abuse started during their pregnancy.

I sincerely hope that everyone on this board is treated with the love, support, and respect that they deserve, but the reality is that there might be women lurking or participating here who are part of that 6 to 8%.  If you're one of them, you're not alone.  Your safety is important. Your baby's safety is important. YOU are important.  If you need it, the number for the National Domestic Violence hotline here in the United States is 1-800-799-7233.  They're staffed 24 hours a day, and can help you access the resources you need to keep yourself safe. If you're not comfortable calling, you can also talk to your doctor; he or she may have asked you that question at your first appointment, but if things change (or if things are the same, but you're now ready to tell someone), you can let your OB know. Intimate partner violence is a health issue, and it's your OB's job to help you have the healthiest possible pregnancy; it's okay to reach out to them for help.

Anywho, end PSA.
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  • emgee27emgee27 member
    Thank you for sharing such an important message <3
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  • spatter1spatter1 member
    Great information, thank you for sharing! I wasn't aware the numbers were so high. I know "20%" might not sound like a lot, but that's the same estimated percentage of known pregnancies that end in miscarriage and think of how many ladies we have met on here that have tragically experienced that. :( I hope everyone on here is in a loving supportive relationship! 

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  • BrittnyS10BrittnyS10 member
    A very sobering thought. Thank you for sharing this information. I think we should all take a moment and say a prayer for these women.
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  • NachosAndPeachesNachosAndPeaches member
    Okay at first I was like wtf, Debbie downer, why are you scaring us, but then I finished reading, lol. I hope everyone here is in a good situation!
    First BFP 12/2012, MMC at 9 weeks
    Second BFP 6/2013, resulted in DS, born 2/23/14 :-)
    Third BFP 5/2015, natural MC at 6 weeks
    Fourth BFP 8/2015, hoping for sticky little brother or sister to H!
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    Proud SAHM to our little monkey H. 
    Pro Vax, extended breasftfeeder, ring sling and stroller loving mama. I don't judge you unless you don't vaccinate!
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  • cglr2012cglr2012 member
    Love this thread. I may not know what it's like to be in this type of situation, but I have loved ones that have. I pray that any ladies reading this, who may be in that situation, has the courage to do something about it. ❤️
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  • ivyvines6ivyvines6 member
    That's a sobering statistic :(
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