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September 2015 Moms
sydneyhunt
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MIL rant
sydneyhunt
member
Where do I begin. I'm about to have a serious come apart. So to begin with... The moment we told my MIL that we were pregnant her first words to me were "well that's bad timing" because we were trying to save money to buy a house. Apparently my husband hadn't even told his mom we were trying. She has been so hateful my whole pregnancy. She up and told me if I wanted her to watch the baby that I needed to put more effort into our relationship. Where all she has ever done is criticize me. (She buys me dresses to wear to work every birthday and Christmas because she doesn't think I dress nice enough for work...).
Anyways fast forward to after I give birth and she is treating me like I am doing nothing right. First she tells me I must ask the pedi about what kind of formula he needs and to stock up on it (DS is EBF) because he isn't eating enough. He gained over a pounds by the time he was two weeks so obviously that isn't true. Then she asks me when he can get rice cereal. Uh.... Not right now! He was 6 weeks old.
I Crossfit and I have finally gotten back to it when he was 5 weeks old. We took him with us and DH coaches would take care of him while I workout. We got some super cute pics of him there and when he sent them to his mom she promptly called and yelled at him that he should not take the baby to the dirty gym. Like yelled at him like he is a child. Like I would just lay my baby on the dirty floor and say ok baby have fun... He is always held by me or DH or in his car seat. She then proceeded to call me today and yell at me! Excuse me?! I'm not your child. Do not speak to me about my child like that. I'm a damn adult! Speak to me as such.
Not only did she yell at me about this but she came over today and now apparently he is too fat and eating too much. So once I was under feeding him and now I'm over feeding him. Then while I'm burping him he is fussing because he was still hungry and MIL decided to stop eating and come take my baby off my shoulder and try to comfort him. Saying what's wrong little man. Uh he is freaking hungry!? Give me my child back.
Then the diapers are too small (size 1 at 7 weeks...) they drown him pretty much. He is still growing in to them. Then I am about to give him a bath as a part of our bedtime routine and she comes in and is it warm enough in this room. No it's not in her opinion we must go buy a heater. Oh we give him a bath every day that is not needed. He is too young for that.
I have 2 dogs and she said that if my child ever got kicked in the face by one of them or slobbered on by my Great Dane I'm not doing my job as a mother.
I have a work potluck on Wednesday but he doesn't get his 2 month shots until December 1st and apparently I'm a terrible mother for wanting to take him to work and show him to people... They keep asking and threw me a great baby shower. It's not like I'm going to let them all touch him. Ugh.
I am just so over her overbearing over protective self. I don't even know what to do. She seriously always makes me feel as if I'm not doing it right or good enough. It's so hard... I'm a FTM and I already question what I'm doing and just want my baby happy and healthy. Which he is.
Sorry for the novel. I just needed to let it all out and DH is over protective of his mom and says I'm too sensitive.
Anyways fast forward to after I give birth and she is treating me like I am doing nothing right. First she tells me I must ask the pedi about what kind of formula he needs and to stock up on it (DS is EBF) because he isn't eating enough. He gained over a pounds by the time he was two weeks so obviously that isn't true. Then she asks me when he can get rice cereal. Uh.... Not right now! He was 6 weeks old.
I Crossfit and I have finally gotten back to it when he was 5 weeks old. We took him with us and DH coaches would take care of him while I workout. We got some super cute pics of him there and when he sent them to his mom she promptly called and yelled at him that he should not take the baby to the dirty gym. Like yelled at him like he is a child. Like I would just lay my baby on the dirty floor and say ok baby have fun... He is always held by me or DH or in his car seat. She then proceeded to call me today and yell at me! Excuse me?! I'm not your child. Do not speak to me about my child like that. I'm a damn adult! Speak to me as such.
Not only did she yell at me about this but she came over today and now apparently he is too fat and eating too much. So once I was under feeding him and now I'm over feeding him. Then while I'm burping him he is fussing because he was still hungry and MIL decided to stop eating and come take my baby off my shoulder and try to comfort him. Saying what's wrong little man. Uh he is freaking hungry!? Give me my child back.
Then the diapers are too small (size 1 at 7 weeks...) they drown him pretty much. He is still growing in to them. Then I am about to give him a bath as a part of our bedtime routine and she comes in and is it warm enough in this room. No it's not in her opinion we must go buy a heater. Oh we give him a bath every day that is not needed. He is too young for that.
I have 2 dogs and she said that if my child ever got kicked in the face by one of them or slobbered on by my Great Dane I'm not doing my job as a mother.
I have a work potluck on Wednesday but he doesn't get his 2 month shots until December 1st and apparently I'm a terrible mother for wanting to take him to work and show him to people... They keep asking and threw me a great baby shower. It's not like I'm going to let them all touch him. Ugh.
I am just so over her overbearing over protective self. I don't even know what to do. She seriously always makes me feel as if I'm not doing it right or good enough. It's so hard... I'm a FTM and I already question what I'm doing and just want my baby happy and healthy. Which he is.
Sorry for the novel. I just needed to let it all out and DH is over protective of his mom and says I'm too sensitive.
Re: MIL rant
Funny thing that isn't baby related is she has given me sex advice about how to keep a man. Ha great coming from your MIL. Talk about an awkward conversation.
Her parenting style is martyr-dom, and basically insinuated that I was a terrible mother for doing things like only feeding my baby every 2-3 hours and putting him in the mamaroo while I ate dinner. According to her, I should be holding the baby at all times, and if he made so much as a fussing noise she would hold her ears and tell me, "I just can't stand to hear him cry, it's too painful!" Like it was my fault he was crying and not that he is, you know, a baby. She would also try to take him from me any second she could. I would have baby on boob and she would start hovering and asking to hold him.
Luckily, my husband also thinks she is nuts, so he would usually snap at her before i did (thank goodness). Do you think if you had a good heart-to-heart about how much she is hurting you, your DH would see the light? And maybe have a little chat with her?
Also, my LO is 10 weeks and I took him to my office a few days ago. He's had his 2 month shots, but I don't think I really needed to wait as long as I did. People were really respectful, and only a couple of people wanted to hold him. Babies this tiny scare a lot of people! Most people just wanted to look and coo at him.