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Nervous to be excited

aubreyellenaubreyellen member
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Hello everybody, it's my first time posting. I'm pretty sure I'm 7 weeks along in my pregnancy, which puts me due June 30 ish, and am definitely excited but with some reservation. I miscarried in May at 11 weeks, it was my first pregnancy. I think I am comparing every feeling and experience during this pregnancy to my previous one... So far my symptoms are WAY more intense. I've had sore breasts for two weeks and constant nausea/vomiting. I finally found relief with b6 and occasional unisom. I'm still trying to find the right amount for me but the alternative (relentless sickness) was ruining my life. I'm hopeful that the difference in symptoms is a sign of a strong implantation and growing baby, but until I hear a heart beat after 12 weeks I won't feel much peace of mind. Even then I know things can happen, but if I can make it past 11 weeks I know I'll feel better, less worried, less superstitious. What a lesson in patience, right? I've read some moms are feeling occasional cramps that are most likely the uterus/ligaments stretching. I think I have that too. In my first pregnancy, the cramps were non-stop though. This time, my nausea and sore boobs are really the only things that assure me I'm still pregnant. I'm afraid to tell anyone... I'm a teacher, so some of my coworkers and my principal all know (it's a little hard to maintain normalcy when you're visiting the ladies room 8 or more times in a morning!). They all took one look at me and they knew. Oh well. But my family, my husband's family, they don't know. I'm thinking of sharing on Thanksgiving but part of me wants to wait until Christmas so there's less waiting game after they know. Any other moms who have miscarried or in a similar situation? Would love to hear from ladies in the same boat. Thanks for the community and space to share :)
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  • little_brenlittle_bren member
    Sorry, mama. I'm anxious about mine not being sticky as well. Hang in there.

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  • ucfgeminiucfgemini member
    I went through the same thing last year and have the same reservations about getting exciting.  I even find myself telling family members, "it's still really early" almost to buffer myself.  I refuse to get excited until the second trimester.  I'm taking assurance in the symptoms just like you! 

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  • KaylaR628KaylaR628 member
    I've had almost the exact same experience...MMC at 10 weeks in May, 9 weeks pregnant today, with much more intense symptoms (and I'm a teacher!). I've been so sick it's been hard to worry, but I find now that I'm getting closer to when I miscarried last time, I'm getting more nervous. Also taking comfort in the symptoms, but it feels like time is creeping so sloooowly toward the "safe zone"! I think our worries are common and we can lean on our spouses and one another :). Positive thoughts for all of us!
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  • stillcozystillcozy member
    I'm with you on the constant Nausea sore boobs. I'm so worried about having a miscarriage that at times it's hard to feel excited! I'm almost thankful for the sickness as it reminds me right now that it's ok
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  • aubreyellenaubreyellen member
    Thank you ladies, the positive thoughts are so needed and appreciated! Here's hoping time ticks on quickly and we all reach our 2nd trimesters safely and happily. Congratulations to all of you!!
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  • purplefan1purplefan1 member
    I had missed your conversation earlier, so I just posted a similar thread! So glad I found this one, I am FREAKING OUT during this second pregnancy. First one ended in a missed miscarriage. Baby was measuring around 8-9 weeks with no more heart beatbut I was at 11 when they did a D&C in April. Waited a couple of months before trying again and fourth month got pregnant. Already this feels completely different than the last pregnancy. Much more intense symptoms (breast tenderness and nausea like crazy) and I actually *feel* pregnant. But as I wait for a second scan (they did earlier testing because of my first mc) I am so anxious. Lost the last one around this time and don't want to lose this one!

    Wondering about when to tell others about the pregnancy as well. My sister knows but none of my family or in-laws do. Feel awful because they keep telling us how much they are praying for us to get pregnant and I feel like a jerk trying to avoid telling them. Was going to wait til Christmas to announce when I would be firmly in 2nd trimester, but think we might tell family on Thanksgiving IF the next scan that Wednesday before Thanksgiving goes well. The next week and a half is going to take F.O.R.E.V.E.R. This whole first trimester feels like it is taking so much longer. How am I only 8 weeks pregnant????
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  • FunkymooncowFunkymooncow member
    I feel exactly the same! I've only told a few people (some coworkers as I'm a teacher too!) and they ask if I'm excited but I am fighting it. I want to be but so worried what will happen and 12 weeks 'safe zone' seems so far away! I'm hoping I feel better after our first hospital appointment on Monday if we can hear the heartbeat but our first scan wont be for a few weeks :(
    Hopefully everything will be ok for all of us and we can get excited soon!
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  • dennyandleedennyandlee member
    This is my first pregnancy and I'm terrified something bad will happen, even without a previous mc. I have a lot of different typical pregnancy symptoms but haven't had any ms. I'm 10+3 and my next OB visit and u/s is Nov. 25 when I'll be exactly 12 weeks. I wish I could stop worrying because I know it won't protect me, but I can't... Praying that we all have happy endings!

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  • pkwest04pkwest04 member
    I'm glad I'm not the only person feeling this way. My husband has been dying to tell everyone since the positive HPT. I'm 9wks and had heavy bleeding earlier this week. US was done and baby measures right at 9wks and has 18p heartbeat...but they aren't sure what caused my bleeding. Hubby was all geared up to announce at Thanksgiving which would be a out 11wks. Now I'm terrified to announce until after next appointment at beginning of December which will be official 12wks. The only symptoms I have had are sore boobs, exhaustion and congestion. I'm 30 with Hashimoto so I feel like having MS would at least be reassuring that baby is hanging-in there to make me sick. FX we all survive this first trimester with our sanity intact!
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  • catherinekatecatherinekate member
    Also a FTM and terrified. Thinking of you and everyone else here. <3 
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  • haj1213haj1213 member
    Our stories are so, so similar! I told my family almost right away when my first test came out positive with my first pregnancy, and now with this pregnancy at 7 weeks I am so hesitant to say anything at all. We are also considering telling at Thanksgiving, but like you I am just so nervous we will be disappointed again. When I express this to my husband he brings up a good point: my family was so supportive when I miscarried and if anything happened again, I would definitely want them in the loop. It's such a tough decision to make though.
    Best of luck to you! Keep thinking positive thoughts. I'm sure we will both be just fine :)
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