How would you take this

jizzypuff · November 2015

I'm going to take my little girl to California to meet both my husbands family and mine as well. (I live in Georgia at the moment and neither family has met her). Well my sister in law is the only one that can pick me up because my family all work that day and my own mother doesn't drive. I love my sister in law and we get along well. My husband was talking to his mom I guess and she said she was going with her daughter to get me to make sure her daughter doesn't install the car seat wrong. I told my husband that I know how to install the car seat I never expected his sister to do it which is weird of his mom to assume. The way I am taking this information is that she wants to come to personally make sure the car seat is put in properly because she doesn't think I can do it. I'm afraid this is the beginning of her trying to boundary stomp or make it known she is the one going to call the shots. How would you take it?im not sure if I'm over reacting.
Also for extra info I will not be staying at my mil's place only my parents. My mil has never boundary stomped ever since we have been married so I found this very strange. I also told my husband the next time they talk to inform her I know how to install the car seat and to thank her for the thought.

jen83mn · November 2015

It sounds more like your MIL doesn't trust your sister-in-law to do it properly and maybe she just wants it ready before arriving at the airport to make it easier for all? If she's never acted up before, I wouldn't take it personally. Probably just a miscommunication

You'll know soon enough once you get there if she'll be trying to step over any boundaries, but I think I'd just let this slide

Either that or she just wanted an excuse to go to the airport too because she's so excited to meet the baby!

jizzypuff · November 2015

@jen83mn Well you see I have the car seat and I will be bringing it with me so there is no way for it to be installed before I get there. I already asked her if she wasn't working that day so she can come meet my daughter; so she was already invited that's why I'm confused.

chelseajeanene · November 2015

I would feel really weird about this situation too. You're not over reacting. I'm not sure how I would handle this but I definitely would take offense to it

JenLovesDesign · November 2015

I think she made a silly excuse to pick you up at the airport so she could meet the baby sooner. Parents are gaga over babies.

kanga915 · November 2015

JenLovesDesign said:
I think she made a silly excuse to pick you up at the airport so she could meet the baby sooner. Parents are gaga over babies.

This. I think you're overthinking it

jizzypuff · November 2015

kanga915 said:

JenLovesDesign said:
I think she made a silly excuse to pick you up at the airport so she could meet the baby sooner. Parents are gaga over babies.
This. I think you're overthinking it

@kanga915
I personally invited her to the airport a week before this call tho.

eah325 · November 2015

I think you're overthinking it. I don't think she means any offense. Don't go into the trip assuming the worst. If she's never acted inappropriately before, she deserves the benefit of the doubt from you.

jbettles · November 2015

I would think nothing of it. If anything, it's a knock on SIL. I would assume she means SIL might not know how the latch system works in her vehicle and doesn't trust her to show you correctly, and just isn't thinking about how you would probably know anyway. I really wouldn't take offense, and certainly don't see it as her stomping on boundaries. If she were going to exert control, I think it'd be something more obvious. This at least comes off as her wanting everything safe and right for you and baby.

tlc11934 · November 2015

I think she just wants to see the baby. Don't sweat it.

troopersmom · November 2015

It's probably nothing but it could be the start of something. I don't like it. Let us know how the trip goes- good luck

lauramichelle58 · November 2015

It's totally annoying but probably harmless. Good luck lady...let us know how it goes!

Growingapepper · November 2015

Yeah its hard to say. If she's worried about your capabilities then she's crossing the line. If she was just making an excuse to come see the baby because maybe your SIL didn't want her to come with her, then totally harmless. Only time will tell, until then remain calm!

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