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Babies: 3 - 6 Months
stephaniesarahi
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Baby being held! Desperately need help!!
stephaniesarahi
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My baby boy is 3 months and 2 weeks old. He only wants to be carried, I thought as he grew this situation would get better but it's only getting worse. It's come to a point that if I put him down for one minute he starts crying, he doesn't even want me to sit down, he wants me standing and walking around with him. He doesn't like his crib, bouncer, bassinet or car seat. He just wants to be in my arms at all times and only wants to sleep on my chest. I don't have any time for myself, he's starting to weigh more and I feel really bad back pain. I've tried putting him down in his crib, I sing to him, talk to him, he enjoys watching Mickey Mouse so I put it on to distract him, but nothing works he just stars crying really bad like if someone were hurting him and as I grab him he immediately stops crying. My mother had agreed of babysitting him when he turned 3 months so I can go back to work but that's out of the question she can't deal with him. It's very tiring. I don't know if it's bad to just let my baby "cry it out" and get used to being in his crib that way. This is my first child, and I really have no ones help I'm watching him 24/7 my partner helps me a little bit when he gets home from work but not much. I need some advise in what I should do. Please help
Re: Baby being held! Desperately need help!!
Your 3 month old baby is too young to just leave him to cry. I'm sorry but he is. It sounds like you have a high needs baby and that's not easy. Some of my closest friends have high needs babies and there are days they are at their wits end but leaving him alone to cry is not the answer.
You are the mom and he needs you so you don't have the option to just leave him. You have to power through because most likely this will pass. You need to try to find some help OR ask your partner to help more. Is there any reason he can't give you more of a break?
Do you have a carrier like an Ergo or Baby Bjorn, anything? Babywearing helps a lot and helps baby stay close to mom which sounds like what your LO needs.
There's a reason the experts don't recommend leaving your baby to cry when they are under about 6 months old. They cry because they have a need.
I was super worried about going back to work at 12 weeks because of it, but the ladies at the daycare are pros...they had her comfortable there within the first couple of days. If you have to work you have to work...the baby will adjust to another care person. I'd suggest with a high needs baby you use a professional nanny or daycare rather than a relative of at all possible. They have the tools to deal with it appropriately.