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First Time Pregnancy Anxiety

dbillingsley623dbillingsley623 member
in July 2016 Moms
Hi All,

My husband and I had been TTC for two years and just as we were about to start preliminary testing for infertility treatment, we got a positive test result. I'm currently 5w5d and the doctor won't see me until 8 weeks. I can't contain my excitement but also my anxiety levels are unlike anything I've ever experienced. There's really nothing for me to base my fears ok, but the fact that I still think it's too good to be true might be contributing to my sleepless nights and hyper attention to any weird feeling or symptom. We are keeping this a secret for the most part so I don't have anyone to talk to and my mom and sister don't really understand my craziness because they have always been positive people. I just hope all is well and when I go to the doctor during week 8 I'll get good news! Anyone else experiencing these fears and anxieties?
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  • AshGee18AshGee18 member
    Hi first time prego here (5w4d). We haven't shared the news with anyone yet either so nobody is really understanding my excitement/anxiety. Everytime I feel a slight cramp or nausea I wonder if the baby is OK. We don't have an appointment with the doctor until about 8.5 weeks. I'm extremely nervous and so excited at the same time and just really trying to go with the flow. I'm constantly waking up in the night to pee and having trouble getting back to sleep and thinking "is this normal?" You're not alone in the anxiety department. But as I've been told by others mom's and reading online ... just go with the flow and try to relax :)
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  • brielle330brielle330 member
    a million billion percent! I expected the TTC to take a lot longer than it did, and now I'm in a state of "wait...what?!" I also found out at 3w3d, and I can't stop reading the statistics on that...I've had pretty severe dizziness (which is the reason I found out so early), and it's making think a whole host of scary things...and mild cramping...I don't know if that's normal! I feel for you :( it's maddening. I keep telling myself that every person alive today was 3w3d at one point-but I think because I know about it, I feel like baby is so fragile and can't manage the mild cramps!
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  • TaymillerTaymiller member
    My advice, stay busy!! Dont consult Dr.Google, EVER! Take a Benadryl at night if you are having sleep issues. And take some deep breathes.

    Hugs ladies, I totally understand. I am trying to be a little more chill this time around because I think I made it worse with my worrying and anxiety last time.
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  • LeahK2016LeahK2016 member
    I am the same way! This is my first pregnancy, and I wasn't planning it. I found out at 3.5-4 weeks, and I wasn't able to schedule an appointment with an OB any earlier than 9.5 weeks. Thankfully I don't drink or smoke or anything like that, so baby wasn't exposed to those things. I'm just not sure what's normal and what's not, and I'm freaking out on the daily. My boyfriend keeps telling me to relax and everything is fine, but it's easier said than done.
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  • gigemily09gigemily09 member
    This is my first time too! I don't think it's hit me yet really, it's very surreal! That sucks that your doc won't see you till 8 weeks! I had an US two days ago at 5wks 2days because I had what I thought was my next AF but turns out it was just implantation bleeding. My doc wanted just to make sure everything was okay! you should just talk to your doc and tell them how freaked out you are and just see if you can meet with them! Try not to stress so much though!
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  • mntnmummntnmum member
    Totally can empathize. First time here too, and I'm nervous. Every twinge or feeling I wonder if all is well. I started crying just worrying about it on my drive in one day (thanks a lot crazy emotions). I am trying very hard to just distract myself with work and the exciting parts of baby. No one but me and the hubs know, so struggling here alone. Happy to have you all on here! Hang in there! You are not alone!
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  • briannef90briannef90 member
    I feel the same way. This is my first pregnancy and I can't help but be scared about every little pain or when symptoms disappear. The moment I found out I was pregnant my 2nd thought, after my first being OMG, was "I could have a MC"  I'm 6 weeks today and I have just been trying to distract myself with positive things and stop reading things on the internet so much. I'm just going to enjoy my pregnancy.

    Something I did read about the fear of miscarriages was, "Welcome to the next 60 years of your life. You never stop worrying about your children." I guess it's just a Mom thing. ;)
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  • dbillingsley623dbillingsley623 member
    Wow! So happy to have you ladies here to chat with! My hubs and I only told our parents so none of our close friends or co-workers know. I really don't have anyone to talk to about these anxieties and fears. My sister thinks I'm crazy but she had a normal pregnancy and has always been a calm person. I'm 6w today and am trying to focus on the positive things of pregnancy. It is still such a shock even 6 weeks in! Good luck to all of you and please keep me posted on everything
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  • palmtreeNPpalmtreeNP member
    I feel the same!!! Total maniac here. I'm now 6w4d, found out with a BFP at 4w1d & haven't told a soul out of pure fear of what could happen. My mom is my BFFFFFFF & I haven't even told her yet; going to do something cute at Thanksgiving after out first OB appointment on 11/17 --- I am praying that our first scan is aces & that will make me feel better/relieved somewhat. Thinking of all us & praying for happy, healthy 9 months :)
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  • chanfachanfa member
    I feel the same way. I am usually very stressed out and have anxiety attacks and I have been afraid of bad news during my first appt. DH tells me not to stress out but of course it's easier said than done. Last night I had a dream that it didn't work out so clearly my brain is going crazy. 

    My first appt is 11/30 so a long way to go!
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  • Ireland350Ireland350 member
    edited November 2015
    Hi. I'm 5w5d today and I got my BFP the day I was expecting to have AF come so I could make my appointment for my vaginal Ultrasound for our first IUI cycle. I just turned 36 in Sept., DH will be 37 in Dec. We are first time parents so this whole pregnancy experience is new to us. DH can't believe it's real, he asked me to take another test a week after our BFP. Still got a BFP, so he feels better. I'm just trying to stay calm and relaxed and letting DH stress. I've read stress can lead to MC, so all I can do to stay calm I'm trying to do. Reading these boards and seeing similar symptoms and thoughts helps me. My first appointment is 11/25.
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  • hwal98hwal98 member
    I totally understand. This is my first pregnancy, and it's been filled with mixed emotions. We've told parents, siblings, and a few close friends. And I stop them when they jump in excitement "congrats!!!!" because I'm still so unsure about what's really going on inside of me. I have had many sleepless nights and high anxiety worried about how this is all going to go, so I can totally relate. I honestly have just tried to keep myself busy. I notice when I'm just sitting in my room on google, it stresses me out more. I try to just keep my mind busy throughout the entire day, until I'm exhausted and sleep is next. It's helped a lot just not thinking about it. It's a high anxiety situation because it's so out of our control! I hope for posiitve news for all of us! 
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  • aceoffaithaceoffaith member
    Another FTM here :) We tried for 3 years and this was our second IUI cycle...it's hard to accept that after all of that trying we're actually expecting! We're waiting to tell anyone until after our first U/S on the 16th. I've had major anxiety because at 6w3d I still have only experienced minimal symptoms. Sore boobs, bloating early on, 1 headache. It's so strange, but I just wish I could have a wave of MS or two just so I can "feel" everything progressing!
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