Hey all little background. My first cousin who was a brother to me just passed away early yesterday morning in a car accident. He was only 22 years old. We are only 7 weeks 2 days but due to how close I was with him we want to name this baby Blake. My dh approached me about naming our little one almost the exact same time it was running through my head. I have a couple of questions.
1. Would you ask my cousins parents about using their child name? If so what time would you ask? Close to third tri, end of second tri, Right before delivery?
2. I know typically its an unpopular opinion to name a girl a masculine name on the bump but with this much meaning would Blake for a girl be appropriate?
3. Also what do you all like better. For a boy do you like Blake Allen or Blake Daniel better. For a girl what would you suggest?
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I think it's really lovely you want to name your little one after your cousin. To answer your questions:
1. I would ask your cousins parents about using the name, but chances are they'll think its a nice way to honor their son. I would talk to the parents at the end of the second tri or in the third tri.
2. I think Blake is a beautiful name for a girl, and it's a great one for a boy.
3. I vote Blake Allen for a boy. For a girl, Blake Elizabeth comes to mind.
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I would ask your cousins parents in the second trimester. I would just feel out the right time more than anything, I think you will know when the time is appropriate.
I prefer Blake Daniel for a boy. I agree with PP that Blake Elizabeth would be good for a girl. I think a longer feminine middle name would pair beautifully with Blake such as Adelaide or Ainsleigh.
Blake Allen sounds better.
I like Blake Allen
For a girl, maybe use it as a middle name?
I'm a little biased to the name Blake for some reasons
I would ask permission but I think you'll get the answer you're hoping for.
To answer your question- I would tell them that you are thinking about using the name once the initial shock of what has happened wears off a bit. Maybe in a month or so.
I would absolutely use Blake for a boy or a girl and love it on either. For a girl I would use a 2 or more syllable feminine middle name- Elizabeth, Marie, etc. Are there any other meaningful names you could use?
For a boy I like the flow of Blake Allen.
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Agreeing with PPs that Blake works as a unisex name. Blake Lively's popularity has made it increase in popularity among female names recently already.
no real opinions on middle names - I do like names that mean something to you, or named after someone and agree a two-syllable or more middle name will flow nicely with Blake.
I think it might be worthwhile to wait to make sure your family is okay with your idea/plan before having your heart set on both the first and middle names if (though I doubt it, but you never know) they're really not fond of the idea.
In terms of the "best time" to ask may depend on their grieving period too. Take it a day at a time right now. And I would just be honest when you do go to talk to them, ask them how they would feel if you named your son/daughter after their son?
@crdo and all the other ladies who suggested Blake Elizabeth. My dh and I both really like it due to that was my dhs grandmas name and a family name on his side.
@redheadbride15 we will have a scan to determine the baby's sex.
@cattuccino I agree grief is so varible as far as times and we will be very careful not to intrude on thier grief as we are very close to my aunt and uncle as well.
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2. Blake is a gorgeous name for a girl (Look at Blake Lively! She rocks the name!)
3. Blake Allen. Blake Elizabeth is pretty... I also like Olivia Blake
I would def sit them down and talk about naming your child after their son to honor him. I'm sure they would be happy to know that u thought enough of him to name your own precious blessing after him!
As far as Blake for a girl, I absolutely LOVE it. I do live masculine names for girls, anyway, like Logan or Dakota or, well, Blake! If ours is a girl, we will b naming her Aubrey Jo. (My DH dads middle name is Aubrey, my dads middle name is Joe).
I think Blake for a girl would go great with a flirty feminine name for a middle name, like PP said, Blake Elizabeth is adorable. For a boy, anything would b suitable, but I'd use a two syllable name to go with it, like you said, Blake Allen, or even a longer first name with Blake as the middle name.
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