Telling family

kprice26 · November 2015

I will be exactly 9 weeks on Thanksgiving, and my husband and I would love to tell our immediate families. I'm worried though, my doctor said I won't get my first ultra sound or listen to the heart beat at my appointment earlier that week (they typically don't perform one until 10 weeks) so I won't have any verification that everything is OK. I'm 27 and have no health risks, but this is my first pregnancy and I have a 4 and 5 year old nephew that I'd hate to have to explain miscarriage to. Should I wait until closer to Christmas and hope they don't notice I'm not drinking? Its killing me that they don't know since we are both so close to our families!

lm45678 · November 2015

I told immediate family before the doctor's appointment... Told close friends and MIL after our 6 week appointment when we saw the little babe. We will tell the rest of our families at Thanksgiving (10.5 weeks) but I am waiting until Christmastime to put anything on Facebook.

I also have a 3 and 6 year old niece nephew but I am holding off as long as possible to tell them. For starters, they will ask me all.the.time when the baby is coming. And lastly, I don't want to have to have me or their mom explain to them if something happens.

I may tell them in February or March? If you were going to announce it to the whole room, maybe get them a little something so they can go play in another room? I've seen my niece and nephew multiple times and we've talked about my pregnancy without them ever catching on!

DeePaddy24 · November 2015

In my situation we told my side of the family right away, before any Dr's appt or confirmation that everything was okay. I was trying to be positive, but, I also realized that if anything were to go wrong, I was going to want their support. We're telling DH's family tomorrow. In this case we have now seen the baby & heartbeat because I needed a dating u/s...but, even if I hadn't had that, we were still going to tell them for the same reason. Plus, it's hard for us not to share such happy & exciting news with them. I completely get that it's a bit more difficult when considering young kids (we don't have any kids in the family yet)...but I'd probably still lean more towards telling them, if only for the support. Do what is going to make you both most comfortable, though!

HBamama2B · November 2015

Our parents know and want us to announce at Thanksgiving, but we are waiting until Christmas after 12 wks. (I'm 34 and do IVF so higher risks). Whatever you feel comfortable with is the right answer!

cjt121413 · November 2015

My parents and DH's sister know. We will tell DS and the rest of the family at Christmas if everything goes well. DS is almost 7 and I don't want him to have to share in the hurt of a mc of it comes to that.

mrsp2213 · November 2015

Parents and siblings knew at 5 weeks. We just had our first appointment and ultrasound on Friday (10w1d) and we are now in the process of telling other family/close friends as we see them. We'll announce on social media before we mail our Christmas cards out. We told parents and siblings early knowing that we'd need their support in the event something went wrong. It's such a personal choice on who to tell when, just do what feels right to you.

chrystalgriffith · November 2015

were waiting intill december 30th 2015 by then i well be 14 weeks so far i only told 2 people.

likeabel · November 2015

Do what ever you feel comfortable with. I've told most of my immediate family and felt fine telling them. But, apparently my grandmother missed the memo that I didn't want everyone to know and about 10 people congratulated me at church this morning. Cool.

mrsb8244 · November 2015

We told our immediate families really early, about 1 1/2 weeks after we got our first positive. We had our first appointment on Friday and found out I was 6w6d. Most of our family and friends know now. We didn't have any young kids to worry about so that may have changed things. I knew I wouldn't see my family again for a while so I told them while we were all together this weekend

jas060515 · November 2015

With our first (7yo) we told everyone as soon as we found out. With our second we did the same thing and it was hard to explain when we lost him at 16 weeks, especially to our ds who was 5 at the time and very excited to have a sibling. With our third we didnt tell anybody, only my mom and it was good having her support when we lost it at 9 weeks. With our third we decided to wait until our genetic testing and anatomy scan results came back, to tell our families and it was a great experience. Now with this pregnancy we are waiting until we get the genetic tests results (10weeks) and we might tell our parents, but we arent 100% sure yet. Good luck and do what you think is best for you and your family.

Emztron500 · November 2015

I told right away with my first. I just told my mum and best friend and my one sister that I work with (she saw me every day so it was hard to hide the fact that I was violently ill) but it got around fast and the family that I hadn't told immediately was hurt when I "officially" announced at 7 weeks after having an early ultrasound to confirm all was well. This time I've only told my husband and best friend - she's the level of close where she notices if I even miss a period, lol - and I plan on announcing to the whole families at once at Christmas so no one's feelings are hurt. It's sort of fun to keep it to ourselves to be honest, and a lot more relaxing not having everyone's thoughts and feelings about it in my face all the time.

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