I had a MC on 10/26 at 8 weeks pregnant. 2 days later, I accepted a job offer in a town 4 hours away, so we're packing up and moving on 11/20. I've been in the same city for 8 years - my whole adult life, really - and I've been at the same job for 5 years. It was my first job out of college. I'm overwhelmed with all of the changes, while also dealing with the emotional turmoil of losing a baby. I want to wait a while before trying to get pregnant again so that I can settle into my new job and the new town. I want to make a good impression, and I guess I'm a little worried about starting work and then immediately getting pregnant. I'm also just afraid of another MC happening because I don't want to go through it again.
My husband, on the other hand, doesn't want to wait at all. The doctor told us to wait 1 month, but he wants to start trying again as soon as possible. I feel guilty for not wanting to right away, and I wish he could understand the physical and emotional trauma that I went through. He's typically a very understanding person and he's respecting my wishes on this, but it just sucks that he doesn't really get it and that I feel like I'm the one putting our lives on hold (my words, not his). Does anyone else feel hesitant to try again? We had been trying for 5 months when we got pregnant. It was a very much-wanted pregnancy.
Me: 29, DH: 31
Married: October 2014
Began TTC: April 2015
BFP #1: 9/18/15. EDD 5/18/16. MC 10/26/15. (9w)
BFP #2: 2/27/16. EDD 11/7/16. MC/D&E 4/20/16 (11w)
BFP #3: 9/22/16. EDD 5/29/17. DS born 4/24/17
BFP #4: 5/20/18. EDD 1/23/19.