Going nuts with this secret!

Eddiesmom2015 · November 2015

Any advice on keeping the baby news on the DL?

I really don't want to be the lady who cried baby (my husband and I have suffered miscarriages in the past). So we are waiting until Christmas to share the news (currently pregnant 4wks 3days), with our parents and siblings and telling close friends and his work in Janurary. I realize that all these people are part of my support team, but they were all here for me with the second m/c- and I didn't announce that pregnancy to anyone, but my hubby and the dog. I have a really good feeling about this one and I'm excited. I can tell that my hubby is guarding his heart on this one. I just want to shout it from the rooftops! It's gotten to the point that friends are hesitate to share their good news with me (the lady who loses babies). So I appreiate sharing the news with my fellow July 2016 gals.

P.S. Do I have to disclose my pregnancy to my chiropractor? He is my best friend's dad.

calico34 · November 2015

Congrats (and sorry for your previous losses)! I have a similar plan as you, and feel about to burst at the seams. I don't think there is a right or a wrong way to tell people, it's just what you're comfortable with.

In answer to your other question, I would disclose it to him. Since he is a doctor, I believe he is ethically bound to keep that between you and him.

H&H 9 months to you!

Eddiesmom2015 · November 2015

Thank you Calico34! Your words and advice mean a lot to me!

Good luck at keeping the secert and CONGRATS on your July Baby!

I too am 31 years old

addyplusone · November 2015

We had planned on telling family on Thanksgiving, but I will only be 6 wks. We lost our last at 8 weeks, so I think we may hold off until Xmas now. That puts me at 12 ish weeks. Much more comfortable! I think you should tell any Dr as that changes the way they would treat you.

JackieV14 · November 2015

I am thinking that we will tell family at Christmas. I will be 10 weeks, and that is when we told with DS1.

Also, I agree, definitely disclose to your chiropractor. You can still be treated but it will affect HOW you are treated.

H&H 9 months to you, however & whenever you decide to announce will be great!

Eddiesmom2015 · November 2015

Thank you! I appreciate the response.

It's going to be a great Christmas for us all!

gigemily09 · November 2015

We're going to try to hold off till Christmas... But I don't know how well we will be able to do it. We have so many holiday parties and gatherings already on the calendar... I don't know how I'm going to keep it a secret when I'm not drinking anything!!!! Plus I've already gained like 5lbs, probably mostly bloat but, if I continue at this rate I'm gonna be popping probably by thanksgiving!!! Yikes!!

briannef90 · November 2015

Congratulations!! And I am so sorry for your previous losses

I am also waiting to tell my family on Christmas and it is KILLING me. I am so close with my family, so I want to share this excitement with them. What is helping me is writing in a journal. I bought a journal to write in daily while pregnant. I can write down all of my excitement. Also, I did share with just a couple people, like my coworkers and a couple of friends that I know won't say anything. It's hard to keep such happy news to yourself. I am also worried about how to keep in on the DL, especially during Thanksgiving because I will be having my 8 week ultrasound that Monday. Yikes!

I just keep telling myself it is going to be the best Christmas for my parents, and I can't wait to see their faces.

dolewhipper · November 2015

I would most DEFINITELY tell your chiro, as there are certain therapies they are strongly suggested not to do during pregnancy.

We're keeping things on the DL till New Years. Just a handful of people know now, and then we will tell parents around Thanksgiving.

MrsRo731 · November 2015

First off, I'm really sorry for your losses. Creepy internet hugs.

As far as your chiro, I would tell him.

We're telling our parents after my first appointment. The rest of our family we'll most likely tell around the new year. Everyone else will just be as we see them.

DobbysSock · November 2015

So sorry for your losses.

Your chiropractor would be ethically/legally bound to keep your information confidential so I think you are safe to tell him, and definitely should for medical reasons so that your care is appropriate!

I don't have advice from experience on keeping it quiet as I am a blabber mouth, but good luck! If you're worried about not drinking at holiday parties/dinners you could say you're on antibiotics, that you're avoiding alcohol as part of a new/healthy diet, or make your own drinks (cranberry juice and soda water looks like a cocktail, or look up recipes for mocktails). My friend, who kept it a secret from everyone for 12 weeks, said she focused on enjoying having a special secret between just her and her husband. She also kept a pregnancy journal, which was her way of talking about her pregnancy without telling others. May not work for everyone but worked for her!

LittleLunarMouse · November 2015

I like the idea of a pregnancy journal like others have mentioned, I think it would be cathartic as also a keepsake to give to baby some day! I know I loved reading the one my mom kept for me!

I too am a blabber mouth but hesitate to share the news because of loss. I told my two best friends, as they've been there for me every step of the way on my TTC journey, so having them to talk to about it will help a LOT. Do you have a bestie to confide in that won't blab? It's nice to have someone to talk to other than hubby. Bestie is excited she's gonna be an Auntie and that the baby is due in her birthday month xD

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