When should I tell hubby?

amandajmonceaux · November 2015

We recently had a loss in May of this year. It hit both of us hard and now I'm scared to tell him just in case it happens again. Any suggestions? I was trying to wait till after my first ultrasound. But I'm so sick. Also we lost our last one at 8 weeks and found out at our 12 week ultrasound that the heart had stopped. So I'm very unsure when would be a good time.

EasterEggs · November 2015

I have never been through a loss so I can't exactly relate. But shouldn't you tell him now? Doesn't he deserve to know and to celebrate the pregnancy right now? I can't imagine hiding anything from my husband, and I would also want his support during this emotional time.

Taymiller · November 2015

I can't imagine not telling my husband, especially if I had experienced a previous loss. I wouldn't want to go through everything by myself. My hubby is my BFF and we are a team, in sickness and in health. I would tell him ASAP.

amandajmonceaux · November 2015

I just don't want to get his hopes up only to be let down again. But I do agree with you both. We are supposed to be a team.

calico34 · November 2015

EasterEggs said:

I have never been through a loss so I can't exactly relate. But shouldn't you tell him now? Doesn't he deserve to know and to celebrate the pregnancy right now? I can't imagine hiding anything from my husband, and I would also want his support during this emotional time.

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Adding: OP you may want to change your SN if that is your real name, internet security

amandajmonceaux · November 2015

I'm not sure how to do that on a phone

calico34 · November 2015

I think the easiest way is to change it from the Knot website

blackgirlmagic · November 2015

I would log onto the website and do it that way!

winnie1122 · November 2015

I would just tell him! I've been through 4 losses and it never gets easier, and my DH takes it really hard too, but I can't imagine going through it without my husband and I think he would be even more upset if he found out I kept that from him. For better or for worse.

juliagulia38 · November 2015

Ditto was PP's said. I couldn't imagine going through my miscarriage without my DH by my side. He was my rock. For better or worse.. You need to just tell him.

nopegoat · November 2015

I would definitely go ahead and tell him. I couldn't imagine going through something so devastating with his support. Also I am pretty sure my H would be upset if I waited that long to tell him.

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