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continue throughout my day *warning*

TucknBoomTucknBoom member
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So yesterday was the best day of my life I married the love of my life, I was getting ready to leave to go back home the next day(today) and I was going to tell my mom I was having her first grandchild. Well the middle of the night rolls around and I'm having worse cramps and I go to the bathroom and there is blood. Red blood. I am having the worse cramps ever in my lower back and uterus and I feel like I'm going to vomit. everywhere. I called the hospital because it is like 2am and who else do you call? They immediately tell me my pregnancy is no longer viable(phone diagnosis) and they tell me there's nothing they can do because it's so early and a miscarriage is untreatable...that I will be fine and that unless the bleeding threatens my life that I should just continue throughout my day. CONTINUE THROUGHOUT MY DAY. I get it I'm overly emotional- hell I'm an absolute wreck- but I just woke up to blood when I was hoping to wake up to my new husband and to kiss him goodbye so I could drive 20 hours to see my family and tell them that in July I would be meeting the other love of my life and I'm just wondering how and I supposed to continue throughout my day?
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  • MsBeachNJMsBeachNJ member
    Congratulations on your wedding, and I'm sorry to hear you're experiencing this. Instead of the ER, perhaps you can call your primary doctor today, I am sure they will see you and be able to give you a better idea as to what is going on. Fx that it was just spotting and all is well! 
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  • MrsBinPAMrsBinPA member
    Oh, I am SO sorry you are going through this.   I had a miscarriage with my last pregnancy at about 6.5 weeks.  For me it also happened on a special day, Valentine's Day/DH's birthday.  It's really hard/basically impossible to just go about your day.  I drank wine that day.  Lots of wine.  Not going to lie.    It will get easier, but it will take time.  You are in my thoughts.
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  • retasretas member
    Thinking and praying for you @CassyColberg. I too would call your primary phsician today
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  • MrsRo731MrsRo731 member
    edited November 2015
    Thinking of you and your DH @CassyColberg. 

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  • TucknBoomTucknBoom member
    Thank you everybody. I'm trying to get myself together so I can finish getting the house ready so I can go back home but I can't convince myself to get out of bed.
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  • knitmamaknitmama member
    My thoughts and prayers are with you.
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  • crdocrdo member
    I'm so sorry. Thoughts and prayers with you.
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  • TucknBoomTucknBoom member
    Again thanks everyone the bleeding is slowing down and I'm probably going to get up and actually be productive at some point in the near future. I just don't understand why I'm bleeding I am young I'm healthy and I've done everything right that I needed to do I just don't get why I can't just have a healthy baby.
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  • winnie1122winnie1122 member
    Sorry you have to go through this, I've been there and it sucks. I would say though, I would still call your OB and see if she will go ahead and order bloodwork to see if your hcg is going up or down. I know the pain isn't reassuring, but bleeding is still possible in a viable pregnancy. Even if you are miscarrying, it will be good to make sure it's a complete miscarriage and not ectopic so you aren't in any danger of infection or anything. I had my first miscarriage when I was 21, with no health problems whatsoever, so I know how unfair it seems, but it's not your fault. Take care of yourself and get some rest if you can. And call your OB! She'll know exactly what to do. 
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  • dinodna3dinodna3 member
    Thinking of you today. *hugs*
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  • TucknBoomTucknBoom member
    @winnie1122 @dinodna3 thank you both so much I really am having a meltdown and will try to get into see a doctor ASAP.
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  • BostonBaby1BostonBaby1 member
    I'm so sorry that you're going through this. My best advice to you would be to be gentle on yourself. If you feel that you need to stay in bed today, do that. Do what you need to do for yourself right now. Sending thoughts and prayers.
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  • NamelessAriaNamelessAria member
    First of all I'm so sorry that you're going through this. What an upsetting end to an otherwise amazing day. Congratulations on your marriage!

    If you can you may want to postpone your trip by a few days. If you can get in to see your OB/primary and have things checked you probably want to be in town for that. I also can't imagine that you feel like driving 20 hours after the night you had. My family is a 15 hour drive away so I'm used to the long drives to see family and I can absolutely 100% say I'd wait a day (or more) to go. Those long drives are hard enough when you're well rested and not that upset.

    As some others have said, it is possible to having bleeding and it still be a viable pregnancy. My primary care doctor told me "no bleeding is the best sign but if you have some spotting or bleeding try not to get too upset over it right away. It could mean something is wrong or it could be something that isn't a big deal. Always tell me or your OB about any bleeding though so someone can look into it."

    T&P with you, your new DH and your baby. I hope everything works out for all 3 of you and that baby ends up being okay.
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  • juliagulia38juliagulia38 member
    I am so sorry. I would try to get in with an OB and just double check. When I had my miscarriage I was 20, and healthy. It was just one of those things I couldn't do anything about. You didn't do anything wrong! Don't forget that. This isn't your fault. IF you are having a miscarriage it's because something it wrong with the baby, not you. Try to rest and take care of yourself. I'm here to talk if you just need someone to talk to. *hugs* let us know what happens.
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  • nopegoatnopegoat member
    I am so sorry. Sending lots of T&Ps.
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  • callen10210callen10210 member
    I'm so sorry that is an awful way to end such a wonderful day. I would definitively call your OB and try to get in to see them just to be sure. Sending thoughts and prayers towards you and your family.
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  • TucknBoomTucknBoom member
    I have to go now seeing as it is a trip that I'm bringing someone else on. The bleeding has slowed down and is just red blood it's not dark and it's not clumpy it's just red. I have a friend who I talked to and she said she had the exact same thing I'm having right now happen to her and her son is two now so I have some hope.
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  • ThePax89ThePax89 member
    Get your levels tested. Remain hopeful if you can. It's not over yet.
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  • TucknBoomTucknBoom member
    I am getting my levels tested when I get to my home town tomorrow because I am not far along enough for there to be a heart beat
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  • blackgirlmagicblackgirlmagic member
    HUGS!!!image
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  • TucknBoomTucknBoom member
    The bleeding has slowed down and there is no clumps or anything. So I don't know what to think right now. My mother just informed me that she also cramped and bled with me and my brother so I'm slightly hopeful.
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  • calico34calico34 member
    T & P your way!

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  • TucknBoomTucknBoom member
    Took two digitals today and both said negative I don't even understand how that is possible. They were positive a few days ago.
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  • BostonBaby1BostonBaby1 member
    CassyColberg said:

    Took two digitals today and both said negative I don't even understand how that is possible. They were positive a few days ago.

    Unfortunately, it sounds like it maybe a chemical pregnancy ( which is just the term for a very early miscarriage that hasn't been able to be seen on ultrasound yet.) however, you are pregnant as of right now and I would wait for the blood tests to come back with confirmation. Sending thoughts and prayers your way and fx your numbers come back good despite the bleeding
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