Baby gear related - I LOVE all of the receiving blankets I've been given. Send them ALL to me please - adorable, sturdy, and multipurpose. What's not to love?
Not sure if this is a UO or not, but I'm pretty sure I will not be putting on makeup for pictures in the hospital. I could be wrong, but I feel like that will be the furthest thing from my mind. I have a couple friends who have posted their hospital pictures and they seriously have a full face of makeup on and their hair done. Pretty sure I'll be rocking crusty mascara and a headband if anything.
Me: 28, DH: 40 Married 9/28/13 DS born 11/12/15 EDD 8/13/18
I don't think I will tell DH when I'm having contractions until they're obviously regular and I'm in labor. I made the mistake of telling him I had a few contractions last night and now he's depressed that baby still isn't coming (even though I told him contractions don't necessarily mean labor)...
My DH and I are not telling our families or friends the exact date of the C-sec. They know the due date, and they know the cs will be completed by the due date at the latest, but we don't want a bunch of people in the waiting room when we have her. We just want to have her and take her in a little before she is passed around to everyone else. Our families seem to understand, but my co-workers (who are not friends of mine) just looked at me today like I was the worst person on the planet for not telling my family and they strongly feel our families will be upset.
Well, piss off bitches. The families already know and if they're mad about it, they aren't saying anything.
We're having twins
Our angel baby boy is looking over his twin sister - due November 21
I hate when people tell me I'm nesting...I'm naturally a clean freak and have always wanted to be super organized. My very close friends know this, but everyone else is like "oh you're nesting". No bitch, I'm finally not working so my house doesn't have to look like a mess.
I'm not wishing for time to pass quickly until baby's due date. Seeing that there's two weeks left is kinda freaking me out. And I've got a lot of loose ends to tie up at work....
I don't want anyone else in the room besides my husband when baby comes. Mother in law doesn't comprehend. I don't even want my own mother in the room, don't know why she thinks I would make an exception for her. We live a quarter mile from our hospital we will be delivering at, so I can't wait to see the look on her face when I tell her I don't want anyone coming to the hospital until a few hours after he's actually here. No point in waiting in the waiting area when we won't be letting anyone back there.
I don't want anyone else in the room besides my husband when baby comes. Mother in law doesn't comprehend. I don't even want my own mother in the room, don't know why she thinks I would make an exception for her. We live a quarter mile from our hospital we will be delivering at, so I can't wait to see the look on her face when I tell her I don't want anyone coming to the hospital until a few hours after he's actually here. No point in waiting in the waiting area when we won't be letting anyone back there.
My mother is convinced she's going to be in the delivery room. She'll say things like she will be really quiet in the corner and not say a word and I won't even know she's there. HAH. Nope. There is the littlest chance I might want her in there, but it's so small that I would never even say that to her.
Same here, I keep telling people "sure, I'll totally call you when I'm in labor" but I'm really not. What for? I don't want you there before, during or after my vagina opens up to the size of a papaya. I'll only be calling my mom and even she knows I only want my husband with me "helping me" push.
I don't think I will tell DH when I'm having contractions until they're obviously regular and I'm in labor. I made the mistake of telling him I had a few contractions last night and now he's depressed that baby still isn't coming (even though I told him contractions don't necessarily mean labor)...
DH is driving me nuts, every time I make a noise, he asks me if I'm having a contraction! He's so damn antsy and thinks every little thing is me going into labor. Every time I make noise while hoisting myself out of bed at night to pee, he wakes up and asks me if it's time! Grrr. If it happens late at night, I'll probably let him sleep and wake him up when it gets regular.
My cousin's girlfriend is due the same time I am, but they think she'll go any time now b/c of her symptoms and all that. Anyway, my mom was telling me how they're all going to contact each other when it's time and how they're all getting to the hospital - that's when I found out that both my aunt and uncle will be in the delivery room with her. To each their own, but that's just not my thing...at all. I can't imagine my mom being in the room, let alone my FIL! My mom said, "well, it's just such an honor to be in the room when the baby is born. They won't be in her way or anything, but just to be able to experience the birth is so exciting for everyone and is just a really nice way to honor the grandparents."
So, what was that - a passive-aggressive way to tell me your real feelings on not being in the room with me when I have my baby?? I just told her, "yea, well, I guess I'm ruining that for you." I'm not sorry either - this is not anyone else's baby - it's my DH and mine.
I have no patience anymore. None. For anyone.
We're having twins
Our angel baby boy is looking over his twin sister - due November 21
MIL lives down the street and insists that I sleep at her house for the next few weeks because SO has had to work overnight shifts at his job. She's afraid I'll go into labor while he's at work. Hell no am I staying there. First, I do not want to sleep on their basement couch, I've done it a few times and it's terrible. Second, I want privacy. I do not want my water breaking on said couch, when contractions start I want access to my birth ball, shower, bath, and my home. I do not want SO's whole family to watch me labor, especially since I plan to labor mostly at home. I'm a FTM so I feel like if I need SO to come home from work to take me to the hospital, he would absolutely make it in time. Although it was sweet of MIL to ask (although she kinda just told me instead of asked), I feel like this is her excuse to join me in the labor room which is just not happening. And she is not taking no for an answer about me staying there!
I don't want anyone else in the room besides my husband when baby comes. Mother in law doesn't comprehend. I don't even want my own mother in the room, don't know why she thinks I would make an exception for her. We live a quarter mile from our hospital we will be delivering at, so I can't wait to see the look on her face when I tell her I don't want anyone coming to the hospital until a few hours after he's actually here. No point in waiting in the waiting area when we won't be letting anyone back there.
Your situation sounds exactly like mine. MIL was not too pleased on our whole- we will call you once he's born. Oh well!
This will probably ruffle some feathers but... I can’t get on board with people that make a registry with expensive gifts & expect people to buy those said gifts. Then give a fit when they don't get what they have requested. A registry is just an idea, no one is obligated to buy from it. You chose to get pregnant so therefore it's your responsibility to provide for that child. Be thankful for any kind of gift you get whether it's from the registry or not. Every little helps!!
This will probably ruffle some feathers but...
I can’t get on board with people that make a registry with expensive gifts & expect people to buy those said gifts. Then give a fit when they don't get what they have requested.
A registry is just an idea, no one is obligated to buy from it.
You chose to get pregnant so therefore it's your responsibility to provide for that child. Be thankful for any kind of gift you get whether it's from the registry or not. Every little helps!!
I agree. My mom actually kept bugging me to add 'more' and more expensive gifts to my registry. A good chunk of what people bought for our baby showers (more than one due to DH's and my families not living close together) were not from the registry, or were similar items but not exactly the same. It was only close family (parents, grandparents, etc) that bought the truly expensive stuff- and we had no expectations for them do so. We would have happily bought it ourselves!
MIL lives down the street and insists that I sleep at her house for the next few weeks because SO has had to work overnight shifts at his job. She's afraid I'll go into labor while he's at work. Hell no am I staying there. First, I do not want to sleep on their basement couch, I've done it a few times and it's terrible. Second, I want privacy. I do not want my water breaking on said couch, when contractions start I want access to my birth ball, shower, bath, and my home. I do not want SO's whole family to watch me labor, especially since I plan to labor mostly at home. I'm a FTM so I feel like if I need SO to come home from work to take me to the hospital, he would absolutely make it in time. Although it was sweet of MIL to ask (although she kinda just told me instead of asked), I feel like this is her excuse to join me in the labor room which is just not happening. And she is not taking no for an answer about me staying there!
Nope, nope, nope! If she lives right down the street then it's good to know that "she's just a phone call away" if you need her. FWIW, I was originally planning on having my baby in my hometown for financial reasons, which is about two and a half hours away from where I live now. There were several reasons we chose not to, but one of my main points was that I could only tolerate my mother in small doses before I got pregnant - I didn't want to even think about living with her again from October until I gave birth. Let alone laboring with her in my face. And that's my own mom.
Never written on one of these but today I'm crabby so mine is that my fiance got a kitten because we have been having an issue with field mice. Point is i hate her she's annoying always licking herself and clawing furniture. She constantly wants to crawl on baby stuff and rip the carpet and chew on things. I bought her toys but no she want to mess up everything else not to mention can't eat a meal in peace with out her begging and crying and meowing the whole time!
Never written on one of these but today I'm crabby so mine is that my fiance got a kitten because we have been having an issue with field mice. Point is i hate her she's annoying always licking herself and clawing furniture. She constantly wants to crawl on baby stuff and rip the carpet and chew on things. I bought her toys but no she want to mess up everything else not to mention can't eat a meal in peace with out her begging and crying and meowing the whole time!
Get a spray bottle with water. Set it to stream, not mist. Anytime the cat does something again the rules say no firmly and give her a little spray. Just make sure you and your SO are applying the same rules so the kitten gets a clear message. Does not work for litter box issues, but it works great for scratching or begging. My cats now just see me pick up the sprayer and know they are doing something wrong. Also try putting aluminum foil over the baby stuff. Most cats hate it and after jumping on it a couple times learn what items are off limits and stay off it, then you can remove the foil. And no need to wrap the item in foil just put down a piece down on where the cat would try to get in (like the seat of the swing).
Thank you I will try these things because she is honestly making me want to throw her across the room I know that sounds mean but she is horrible. I will try your advice !!!
Here's another UO - I'm not alarmed at all by weight guesstimates. I feel like it's more of a circumference issues than what your kid might weight. Cool, he might weigh 9 pounds - but how big around is his head?
Here's another UO - I'm not alarmed at all by weight guesstimates. I feel like it's more of a circumference issues than what your kid might weight. Cool, he might weigh 9 pounds - but how big around is his head?
I always think like wtf does it matter? If he's 9 lbs what r u going to do? Hold him in forever? Wether he's 6 lbs or 10 lbs. Baby has to come out at some point lol
Okay here's mine. I can't stand it when people get elitist about "natural birth" or act like C-sections are some kind of damn tragedy. First, it's nobody's damn business how another woman has to deliver her baby. Second, chances are good that if it's by C-section it really is the only way babies can come out of her. Maybe she has had an emotional struggle with this and had to make peace with that fact. That doesn't mean she has been "duped" by money-grubbing doctors. I'm having a RCS because my other two children were born via emergency C-section after laboring for SEVERAL DAYS with no real progress and then going into distress. So yeah...my DH my OB and I all felt like it was best to just schedule one this time and save everyone (baby especially) the stress and agony. Chaps my hide when people act like I'm not even trying or I scheduled it for convenience. MYOFB!!! X(
My UO is I never cared who was in my delivery room. I always just wanted my DH by my side and he was the only one I wanted talking but didn't care who else was watching. Although with this last one (#4) I wanted my mommy!!! It surprised me and I was so happy she was in the room! I did tell her at one point to shut up when she asked if he was crowning yet, I knew he had a bit, but other than that she was awesome to have there. I'm close to my mom but not really close so it surprised me.
My UO and it just came to me after reading the last post... I really hate the word 'Crowning' I know that it's the proper medical term, but it's just so ugly sounding lol! It's the only one out of all the other nasty gross things about labor and pregnancy that I don't like.
My UO and it just came to me after reading the last post... I really hate the word 'Crowning' I know that it's the proper medical term, but it's just so ugly sounding lol! It's the only one out of all the other nasty gross things about labor and pregnancy that I don't like.
My UO and it just came to me after reading the last post... I really hate the word 'Crowning' I know that it's the proper medical term, but it's just so ugly sounding lol! It's the only one out of all the other nasty gross things about labor and pregnancy that I don't like.
Crowning is okay to me.. I wish we could call our mucus plugs something else though. I hate the word "swab" or "sweep" when it has to do with my vagina. "Membrane sweep" !? Ew. There is so much unattractive terminology associated with childbirth. To an extent, that is one thing I like about the few hypno-birthing things I've read; an in insistence to call things in more reassuring words. Like, our water doesn't "break", it "releases". Lol. I know it is the same thing really, however it has been shown that how we call and name something directly correlates to how we feel and relate to that thing. We really could benefit from not strictly using the terms science has given us for childbirth and woman's bodies! (Coming from a science geek!)
Here's another UO - I'm not alarmed at all by weight guesstimates. I feel like it's more of a circumference issues than what your kid might weight. Cool, he might weigh 9 pounds - but how big around is his head?
My son ended up being way bigger than guesstimated and his head was 14.5! He's a hoss! Made me more appreciative that I had to have a RCS.
Okay here's mine. I can't stand it when people get elitist about "natural birth" or act like C-sections are some kind of damn tragedy. First, it's nobody's damn business how another woman has to deliver her baby. Second, chances are good that if it's by C-section it really is the only way babies can come out of her. Maybe she has had an emotional struggle with this and had to make peace with that fact. That doesn't mean she has been "duped" by money-grubbing doctors. I'm having a RCS because my other two children were born via emergency C-section after laboring for SEVERAL DAYS with no real progress and then going into distress. So yeah...my DH my OB and I all felt like it was best to just schedule one this time and save everyone (baby especially) the stress and agony. Chaps my hide when people act like I'm not even trying or I scheduled it for convenience. MYOFB!!! X(
Can't love tit this enough! Seems like everyone who had one has to have some serious medical reason for it in their birth story. Mine is that LO is sitting pretty and shows no signs of being ready anytime soon(not dialated at all), my dr won't let me go passed my due date and will not induce, which means i have a greater chance of having one anyway after that and at any point in time can become an emergency. Well I had an emergency sec with my first and would rather avoid all of that at all costs and just do a RCS. It's like bf shaming too. If someone doesn't want to do it, it's their business so STFU with your opinions.
Thank you I will try these things because she is honestly making me want to throw her across the room I know that sounds mean but she is horrible. I will try your advice !!!
Also you can try balloons if the cat is jumping into things like the crib, etc. once those claws make contact and they pop, I doubt the cat will try that again!
Thank you I will try these things because she is honestly making me want to throw her across the room I know that sounds mean but she is horrible. I will try your advice !!!
Also you can try balloons if the cat is jumping into things like the crib, etc. once those claws make contact and they pop, I doubt the cat will try that again!
Lol that sounds like some amusement I like that idea too
I agree with the C section shaming. My first birth was vaginal and all went well. My second was a c section, not planned, but he ended up being feet first when i went into labor, so the C-section was performed. Now it's my third and I am having a scheduled c-section and I feel like I have to explain why to everyone, because many people tend to react negatively that I have it scheduled and that I am planning on it at all. My doctor recommended it for a few reason, one, my last birth was a c-section and there is some risk associated with that, and mostly because I have a very large fibroid right above my cervix which could cause excessive bleeding and difficulty for the baby to pass through. So it is the safest option to do another c-section. And for the record, I thought my vaginal birth was so much easier and would definitely chose to that again over another c-section if it were an equally safe option. So it's not like getting a c-section is easier. At least, it wasn't for me.
I don't understand why people feel it is their right to ask why you're having a cs once they find out. I had people at work (who work at another company that shares the building we're in, so I really don't know them) ask me about it yesterday when they were making small talk with me - which consisted of the standard round of questions surrounding the baby. When I explained we know she's coming on the 17th at the latest, they asked if it was a cs so I said yes. They immediately wanted to know why. I just responded with b/c that's what the doctor said I needed to do. Stop asking personal questions, twats.
We're having twins
Our angel baby boy is looking over his twin sister - due November 21
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My DH and I are not telling our families or friends the exact date of the C-sec. They know the due date, and they know the cs will be completed by the due date at the latest, but we don't want a bunch of people in the waiting room when we have her. We just want to have her and take her in a little before she is passed around to everyone else. Our families seem to understand, but my co-workers (who are not friends of mine) just looked at me today like I was the worst person on the planet for not telling my family and they strongly feel our families will be upset.
Well, piss off bitches. The families already know and if they're mad about it, they aren't saying anything.
We're having twins
Our angel baby boy is looking over his twin sister - due November 21
My cousin's girlfriend is due the same time I am, but they think she'll go any time now b/c of her symptoms and all that. Anyway, my mom was telling me how they're all going to contact each other when it's time and how they're all getting to the hospital - that's when I found out that both my aunt and uncle will be in the delivery room with her. To each their own, but that's just not my thing...at all. I can't imagine my mom being in the room, let alone my FIL! My mom said, "well, it's just such an honor to be in the room when the baby is born. They won't be in her way or anything, but just to be able to experience the birth is so exciting for everyone and is just a really nice way to honor the grandparents."
So, what was that - a passive-aggressive way to tell me your real feelings on not being in the room with me when I have my baby?? I just told her, "yea, well, I guess I'm ruining that for you." I'm not sorry either - this is not anyone else's baby - it's my DH and mine.
I have no patience anymore. None. For anyone.
We're having twins
Our angel baby boy is looking over his twin sister - due November 21
I can’t get on board with people that make a registry with expensive gifts & expect people to buy those said gifts. Then give a fit when they don't get what they have requested.
A registry is just an idea, no one is obligated to buy from it.
You chose to get pregnant so therefore it's your responsibility to provide for that child. Be thankful for any kind of gift you get whether it's from the registry or not. Every little helps!!
I agree. My mom actually kept bugging me to add 'more' and more expensive gifts to my registry. A good chunk of what people bought for our baby showers (more than one due to DH's and my families not living close together) were not from the registry, or were similar items but not exactly the same. It was only close family (parents, grandparents, etc) that bought the truly expensive stuff- and we had no expectations for them do so. We would have happily bought it ourselves!
DS2: EDD- 09.08.17
Also try putting aluminum foil over the baby stuff. Most cats hate it and after jumping on it a couple times learn what items are off limits and stay off it, then you can remove the foil. And no need to wrap the item in foil just put down a piece down on where the cat would try to get in (like the seat of the swing).
To an extent, that is one thing I like about the few hypno-birthing things I've read; an in insistence to call things in more reassuring words. Like, our water doesn't "break", it "releases". Lol. I know it is the same thing really, however it has been shown that how we call and name something directly correlates to how we feel and relate to that thing. We really could benefit from not strictly using the terms science has given us for childbirth and woman's bodies! (Coming from a science geek!)
We're having twins
Our angel baby boy is looking over his twin sister - due November 21