Any second or third time moms worried about adding one more?

AmberLiz99 · November 2015

This is our third, and probably last. My hands are pretty full with a 4 year old and 18 month old. This morning u was up ever 15 minutes from 3:30 on, throwing up from ms around 5. When ds woke up for the day at 5:45 I asked if dh would get up with him since I was already holding dd. He refused, rolled over and wouldn't answer me.

I know it was probably just a bad morning, but now I'm freaking out about dealing with 3 mostly on my own! Please tell me in not the only one worried. I'm going to have more kids than I do hands.

Bear14+ · November 2015

I would have made it impossible for my husband to sleep. That is not very nice, I'm sorry. I hope you feel better!! It sounds like you'll have a nice age gap between everyone & maybe it will be easier than you think. I have heard that going from two to three is easier than one to two.

NicknShan · November 2015

I am worried just about #2!!

My husband travels for work, so I will be outnumbered most days of the week with a 2yo and newborn. And I have a full time job.

So no - you aren't alone in your worry. :-) but I am sure it will quickly become the norm, and your 4yo will be a great little helper.

And sorry about the DH. They can really suck sometimes.

TwoBadMice · November 2015

Yes I'm terrified about having 2!!!!

BPaisley · November 2015

Ugh, yes, so worried. I guess DS2 is going through the 18 month sleep regression, so last night I had to sleep in his room in the la-z-boy recliner for the night, after several attempts to get him to sleep alone, in our bed, etc. His 3.5 year old brother often wakes up a few times at night, too, recently.

I already feel like I got run over by a truck, I have no idea what is going to happen when I also have a newborn to deal with... and generally DH does not get up unless one wakes while I'm preoccupied with the other. To top it off, I have to move the two boys into the same room because we will need DS2's bedroom for the baby. I am desperately hoping that they actually like rooming together so much that they sleep better afterwards!

I just keep reminding myself that 7.5 months is a long time and lots of things will change during that time... hopefully one of those things will be our sleeping situation!

hockeyfan42 · November 2015

I am freaked out about having a second. DD was an awful baby until about 18mo... I swing between excitement and 'mother of God what have we done' on a daily basis. I've heard the jump from one to two kids is a harder adjustment than 0 to 1 or 2+.

lm45678 · November 2015

Sounds like you need a foghorn to wake DH up... Or a swift kick in the ass

VBorda85 · November 2015

I'm having a third and it just started to kick in. I didn't sleep well because my 2yo refuses to sleep in his room and was coughing all night. At least my 9yo helps a lot and my DH usually deals with all the 9yo baseball and sports. Also trying to get 2yo out of diapers!

Jason&Erin82507 · November 2015

Yes and no. I know I can handle it, but like some have mentioned, there are a few things I have to do before little one number 3 arrives. DD2 has been waking and coming into our room in the middle of the night (between 2 and 3am) I am usually so exhausted that I just pull her into bed with us. I know this is setting us up for a sleep training disaster, but I don't plan on trying to fix it until 2nd tri when my exhaustion (hopefully) subsides. I also want to potty train DD2 after the holidays so that I don't have 2 in diapers. I have 7 months.....let the countdown begin.....

fishwife799 · November 2015

Raises hand!
I wanted three but wanted a few years between #2 and this one. Instead I'm getting 21 months. I also have a 3 year old. My husband works all the time so I am absolutely the main caretaker. I am sure we will all survive but some days will be harder than others! Good luck to you

colesmom33 · November 2015

I am sooo scared!! My DS will be 23 months when these babies are born. If I was younger I would have spaced them out more and time is not on our side! I was so nervous when I thought we were only having one and now that there is more than one, I'm not sure how we'll do it! I figure I'll just hold my breath and close my eyes and push through it for the next five years!!

FutureMrsCAF · November 2015

I'd be lying if I said I wasn't a little nervous, but this baby will be born right in the beginning of DH's summer break (he's a teacher) so we'll be able to tag team for a few months, which makes me feel better.
I'm sorry your husband was not helpful this morning. If this is something that happens often, I would most definitely discuss it with him. It's unfair to expect you to carry the load of all the children.

bio-oesch · November 2015

We have always wanted 4 and I love being a mom of 3. DH is very involved, but I still have moments of mom guilt with these 3 and then feel bad for baby #4 getting stuck with me too, lol.

But for the most part i'm excited and know we will be just fine

mamaofatribe · November 2015

I'm on baby number 8 and I'm not scared to raise yet another one but more that I'm starting over since my youngest will be in kindergarten this coming school year which meant all my kids would be in school. My eldest will be 22 at that time. So ya it's just starting over is what I think about.

TunieBee · November 2015

mamaofatribe said:
I'm on baby number 8 and I'm not scared to raise yet another one but more that I'm starting over since my youngest will be in kindergarten this coming school year which meant all my kids would be in school. My eldest will be 22 at that time. So ya it's just starting over is what I think about.

That's just impressive.
I'm scared of having #2 and my husband is incredibly helpful plus I have tons of family around. We do part-time daycare and I work part-time. Hats off to you ladies.

(Mostly I'm excited but yes...scared)

MamaNicoleof3 · November 2015

I was wayyyyyy terrified when we got unexpectedly pregnant with our son- at the time, our daughter had just turned one. They're 21 months apart and it was very hard at the beginning, but they're best friends (most of the time) now. She's 7.5 and he'll be 6 next month. I'm not scared in the least to add this one. My kiddos will be 8 and 6.5, so they'll be a huge help. The thing that isn't so great to me is the whole starting over deal. My kids are so self-sufficient. It'll be hard to go back to the newborn stage

cattlebride · November 2015

I'm nervous as well. DD will be 2 and a half by the time baby comes. I'm worried because she sleeps like a dream, 9p-9a and take an hour nap in the afternoon. I keep thinking there's no way possible I'll luck out and get another baby that sleeps this well.

on3in2015 · November 2015

Im pretty nervous about adding another little one into the mix. My daughter just turned 5 and my son is 2. Im most anxious because pretty much all the parenting falls on me as my husband is a full time student and once this baby is born he will be graduated but will be at a full time job. Ive heard its hardest going from 1 to 2 but much easier going from 2 to 3. Hopefully thats true for all of us.

Im also sort of worried about the judgement that comes along with having a 3rd child. Seems as though there is a stigma attached to having a 3rd.

OP Im sorry your hubby was less than helpful this morning.

katxattack1212 · November 2015

I'm expecting #2. My daughter will almost be 5 when baby arrives. I am sure all will work out, but I keep wondering wth I was thinking.
I know dd will be a great help. My hubby is amazing and my mother lives near by. I'm sure we will survive.

likeabel · November 2015

BPaisley said:
Ugh, yes, so worried. I guess DS2 is going through the 18 month sleep regression, so last night I had to sleep in his room in the la-z-boy recliner for the night, after several attempts to get him to sleep alone, in our bed, etc. His 3.5 year old brother often wakes up a few times at night, too, recently.

I already feel like I got run over by a truck, I have no idea what is going to happen when I also have a newborn to deal with... and generally DH does not get up unless one wakes while I'm preoccupied with the other. To top it off, I have to move the two boys into the same room because we will need DS2's bedroom for the baby. I am desperately hoping that they actually like rooming together so much that they sleep better afterwards!

I just keep reminding myself that 7.5 months is a long time and lots of things will change during that time... hopefully one of those things will be our sleeping situation!

There's an 18-month sleep regression?! Ughhhhhhhh!

AmberLiz99 · November 2015

Thanks ladies for the empathy! I'm sure we will all fall into a grove once our little ones arrives. I hope you guys are right and going from 2-3 is easier!

Dd will only be 24 months when I'm due, so I'm wondering if I even will try to potty train or switch out of a crib before... Only time will tell!

HeartLikeMine3 · November 2015

DS will be 3 the week the baby is due. I am nervous because DS is a handful and is so spoiled getting all the attention I am hoping the baby will help this some. I'm mostly nervous about having the time to breast feed while entertaining a toddler. All I can remember from the early days is nursing like 24/7!!

theatremandy · November 2015

I have mixed feelings. I'm nervous about keeping the kids occupied so I can nurse, coordinating naps so I can rest, etc. But then I remember that last time, I handled two newborns, so one will be a breeze...right? :-S

MrsHurtado · November 2015

I am very worried about how my daughter is going to react to another baby... she is very jealous when I hold friends' babies! We also still nurse and I don't think she will share well so if she hasn't weaned on her own by 2 (which is in 2 months) then I will be starting that process! I do know of lots of people who do it though and have wonderful children and lives so it is possible! LOL

And sorry about the hubby... I think it is harder for it to be "real" to them until they see the baby (an ultrasound) or your belly starts to grow. I know I personally seen a difference in my husband after we had our first ultrasound. He actually made dinner yesterday after working all day because I was sick all afternoon and had not even started when he got home! And he did it all on his own! Win for me! Lol

MrsHurtado · November 2015

HeartLikeMine3 said:
DS will be 3 the week the baby is due. I am nervous because DS is a handful and is so spoiled getting all the attention I am hoping the baby will help this some. I'm mostly nervous about having the time to breast feed while entertaining a toddler. All I can remember from the early days is nursing like 24/7!!

I plan on baby wearing this one for that exact reason!

tslmom87 · November 2015

I'm an ahole and dh would have been on the floor. Sorry you had a rough morning.

This is #3 and possibly our last. When I was pg with #2 I was soo depressed and worried about dd and how she was going to be. Dd2 is 10 months and dd1 is almost 5 and they are the best of friends. With #3 I'm not scared or worried at all. I'm kind of in the more the merrier camp!

It's alot easier than we think. You'll be just fine!

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