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inappropriate boss comments

lauraharrison7lhlauraharrison7lh member
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Most of you may be assuming this would be a male but the men at my work have actually been lovely about my pregnancy. Today I had a comment similar to one I wasn't overjoyed with a few weeks ago but just let it pass. My female senior manager seems to be suggesting I've put too much weight on. I am coming up to 16 weeks and def showing but proud of it. When she makes a loud comment in front of a small audience, also female, they then think it's ok and join in or make a similar remark later. "Are you sure you're only 15 weeks". Whilst staring at my belly. I have never before had this kind of banter relationship with my senior manager so don't know why she's saying these things. Advice please
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Re: inappropriate boss comments

  • lauraharrison7lhlauraharrison7lh member
    I forgot to add I've only put half a stone on. 7 pounds
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  • DrillSergeantCatDrillSergeantCat member
    ambercakes92 said:

    Your silence, having a stony expression, and making direct eye contact with these women after a "joke" will likely get the point across that you don't appreciate their comments. Otherwise, I would just be direct: "You may see it as joking, but please stop commenting on my figure. I don't find it appropriate."

    Amen to that! If it's not okay while not pregnant, it's not okay while pregnant.

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  • clarybella07clarybella07 member
    Going through something similar
    I work for windsor wharehouse and we had an employe sale today my manager sees me choosing stuff to buy and she screams out Clary what are u doing here, this is not for pregnant woman, its not gonna fit u. And she laughs i wanted to cry. Fortunately a guy was there getting clothes for his pregnant women thats bigger than me and we told her not to disrespect and showed her all the stuff he got for his pregnant girl.
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  • missemmawoodhousemissemmawoodhouse member
    If you don't feel comfortable confronting your manager, take the issue to HR, especially if it continues.
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  • skc040512skc040512 member
    Since I prefer snark in just about any situation, I'd probably look straight back at my manager and say something to the effect of, "At least I have the excuse of being pregnant for my weight gain". But then, I can be fairly confrontational and am not afraid to be a bitch (and I work with all married guys who know not to say things like this to pregnant women lol)
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  • sarahuflsarahufl member
    I would say something to the manager- that you feel her comments are not appropriate. Then, if it continues, go to HR.

    Pregnancy doesn't give people free range to comment on your body. If you weren't pregnant (and just putting on weight) do you think it would be appropriate to say anything? Probably not.
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  • PugsandKissesPugsandKisses member
    Hey Boss Lady, Can I talk to you in private. Those remarks about my body are not appropriate in a work enviroment and they make me feel uncomfortable. As for making comments about my size, my Ob says that everything is growing normally. Thank you for your concern.


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  • cmerriburycmerribury member
    I would report that behavior to HR. It's not acceptable (or legal, at least here, not sure about where you live) for anyone to comment on your body in any way that makes you uncomfortable. If there is no HR I would say something directly to her. Along the lines of "Pregnancy is really hard on every woman, please refrain from mentioning anything about my changing body to or about me." and leave it at that.
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