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Anyone else feeling guilty/missing DH?

ohiocourtbabymommaohiocourtbabymomma member
in June 2016 Moms
DH and I have really busy schedules normally. He is a middle school teacher and is doing lots of coaching this year because I am finishing up school for elementary education and student teaching in January which means no income from me.
Normally I try to get up in the morning with him before he leaves for work and either have a cup of coffee with him or make him breakfast or something so we get some time together. Then, in the evenings we usually eat dinner together and just relax. Well, now that I am preggos, I just can't seem to get up any earlier than I need to in the morning cuz I am feeling so exhausted. Also smelling any food in the morning, like eggs, makes me instantly nauseous. And then in the evenings I am falling asleep practically at 7:30 on the couch. I know I need to take care of myself right now and hubby is nothing but supportive but I just miss him and feel disconnected during the week since we hardly have any time together :( Anyone else feeling like this?? I'm sure all these hormones aren't helping either. lol Thank you in advance ladies!
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Re: Anyone else feeling guilty/missing DH?

  • LilwatzLilwatz member
    Last pregnancy I went through a "permaswoon" period first trimester where I missed my husband like crazy and got butterflies thinking about him.  I used to near cry when he left for work.  It was so weird.  Interestingly enough, same thing happened to him about me during the third trimester.  This time I want to be alone and sleep.  :D

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  • totsaboundingtotsabounding member
    I definitely understand that feeling of being two ships passing in the night. When you hit the second tri, chances are you'll have more energy and hopefully the ms will subside. Then you can probably get back to your old routine of coffee/dinner togetherness.

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  • ohiocourtbabymommaohiocourtbabymomma member
    Oh my goodness thank you, ladies. Literally just cried when my husband left for work. lol I know it'll get easier but just knowing he is working so hard for us and our little bun that it makes me feel guilty seeing him for ten minutes when he gets home and then drifting off to sleep. Blah! I think I will try to do something special for him this weekend. Thank goodness we both have Saturday's and Sunday's off!
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  • totsaboundingtotsabounding member
    You're a good spouse. I felt awful last week because my DH and I had a sex date and I fell asleep in my lo's rocking chair. *cue sad trombone*

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  • NamelessAriaNamelessAria member
    I can relate to this ohiocourtbabymomma. My DH works weird hours and often isn't home till pretty late. It isn't uncommon for him to not get home till 8 or 9 at night. By the time we eat dinner I'm falling asleep on the couch. I literally fell asleep in the middle of dinner the other night because I was trying to wait to eat with him around 9:30. I honestly don't know how one manages to fall asleep during dinner but somehow my exhausted pregnant body found a way.

    My DH has been emotional about our lack of time together. It bothers me also but I know I don't really have a choice. I know I need to take care of me and baby and I'm just too tired to stay up with him now. DH doesn't understand how something the size of a sweet pea can steal so much energy and he says I'm "using the baby as an excuse for everything." Which, to be fair, "everything" here is not wanting to wake up before I have to, going to bed early and not wanting to eat certain foods. Okay fine, and being extra moody and emotional. DH was so incredibly mopey this past week because he had off from work and wanted us to stay up till 3am playing video games like we did before. He told me I "ruined" his vacation. He also is insistent I'm doing all this on purpose because I just simply don't want to spend time with him anymore.  Basically, I guess what I'm trying to say is, it's been hard on both of us.

    I keep reading that the fatigue/exhaustion eases up in the second trimester so I'm hoping that's true.
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  • bprowessbprowess member
    edited November 2015
    I have been feeling awful about "neglecting" my hubby. We haven't had sex in over a week because I simply feel awful by the time he gets off of work.  I haven't cooked a full meal for him or my great aunt in over a week because the smell of food makes me sick.  I haven't had an appetite, so I don't care to think about food.  I know they need meals even if I don't eat them.  Hubby hasn't complained and is so patient, but I know that I need to do better for us all.  It's just so hard when I feel like crap all the time.  Can't wait for this to pass.


    ETA:  I was feeling so guilty that I stopped working, made myself some soup, ignored the nausea and put a chicken in the crockpot for dinner tonight... Baby steps...
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  • chloe97chloe97 member
    I don't know if it's the bonding hormone or what, but I need to be constantly snuggling with H when we are together. We weren't huge fighters before the BFP, but we haven't even been snippy with each other once (usually it me) since the BFP. It's weird, it's like I feel this biological urge to keep him close to me.
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