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Baby blues (just venting)

SDuoduSDuodu member
edited November 2015 in October 2015 Moms
I'm a 22 year old FTM I have a 9 day old DD and the night time feeds are really getting to me it is oh so draining having to get up every 2 hours and trying to get her to fall asleep is another thing me and SO made the mistake of letting her sleep in our bed and now she doesn't want to sleep anywhere else I try to sleep when she sleeps during the day but it's near enough impossible with laundry and having to run errands my partner tries to help where he can but I think we're starting to secretly resent each other if one gets more sleep than the other not to mention there hasn't been any intimacy in a while and it's creating a bit of unwanted tension. I love my DD so much but sometimes I want to drop her at a family members house for a day but at the same time I don't want to leave her with anyone.
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Re: Baby blues (just venting)

  • hbrooks09hbrooks09 member
    This feeling is totally normal and it will pass! My little girl is 3 weeks old and I felt the same way when I first had her so don't feel bad or feel like you're a bad mom because before her you did have another life and now that's gone and she's your whole world now and it can be hard to transition into that. As for the nighttime feedings my pediatrician told me that as long as she's eating throughout the day very well (every 2-3 hours) to let LO sleep as long as she'd like through the night. If she wakes you up of course feed her, but don't feel like you have to every 2 hours that's exhausting! She will let you know when she's hungry especially at night. Let the chores wait. It'll get done when you have time. You need to focus on yourself and your little girl and getting rest because she needs you mama! Your relationship will bounce back and things will get better it's just going to take time. Ask someone to watch her for 15 minutes and you and your husband go for a walk or take a shower together, any time right now is better than no time. Keep your head up you've got this!
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  • JennaEllenJennaEllen member
    Hang in there mama! It will get better. 9 dais is still so so young and your little one is just trying to make sense of life outside the womb. There isn't a routine yet and it will be a couple of weeks before she starts to fall into one. Give her and yourself some wiggle room to figure eachother out. I totally understand the frustration with feeding, especially at night. I'm exclusively breastfeeding and it's hard not to feel twinge of resentment when you're up every 2 hours and DH is snoozing away.
    Enlist the help of those around you! See if family members can run those little errands and remember, that load of laundry isn't going to cry of you don't cuddle with it or feed it. Relax and take it day by day or hour by hour if needed.
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