DH loves his nightly drink. Usually its only one or two, but a few nights during the week and almost every Friday and Saturday night he has more then a few. It is a super touchy subject for us. I have never been a big drinker so for me to not drink isn't an issue, and therefore can't use the well if I can't drink you can't either. Its not really an issue at this point, but I am just worried that there will be an issue later on and I need to go to the hospital and he will have had too many to drive. When is a logical time to have the "no drinking" talk??
Re: When are you asking your husband to stop drinking?
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Do you foresee it as being a big conversation? I'm sort of confused, sorry. To me it would just be a matter of reminding him that he'll be driving you to the hospital and obviously he'll have to be sober.
Are you worried he'll drink anyways? I don't want to read into your post but you mention it being a touchy subject - is it safe to assume you think he drinks too much?
NicknShan you are right and there could be an issue at any point. Maybe it will be easier after our first appointment and he can hear the heartbeat. Then it will "feel more real"
My husband is responsible with his alcohol when he drinks, but I wouldn't expect him to quit drinking entirely just because something *could* happen. Of course when my due date gets closer he'll make sure he's able to drive within a moments notice. I feel like that's common sense. But leading up to that point I think it's unreasonable to expect him to stop drinking entirely.
Once baby comes, I still think having a couple of beers is ok, as long as you're drinking responsibly and able to be a responsible parent.
*Edit because words are hard
Hmmm, ok well with what you've said here, I'd actually suggest you consider not having this conversation this far in advance, because that, to me, indicates that you do think he has a problem, and he may resent you bringing it up this early - and you may have to deal with this your entire pregnancy. I think as you get closer to your due date, if he hasn't figured it out on his own, you'll just remind him that drinking will need to be curbed. I would hope he would know this on his own, but if not - I think waiting to bring it up may be an idea to think about.
Your ticker shows you have a six year old? Was this an issue when you were pregnant then?
If it's the latter, I would absolutely agree with what @CourtJack said and not have the conversation this far in advance. He's a dude. Out of all the men I've seen become fathers, they've all had their fair share of beer/drinks prior to becoming daddy. And they've all figured it out on their own how to handle their drinking when the time comes to bring a baby into the world.
**Edited to add that I realize this can be a touchy subject. Just trying to offer a different perspective
@augbride87. gotcha
I have an 8 year old from a previous relationship. So, similar situation!
Whatever you decide, I hope it works out and you guys come to a mutual understanding
I wish my husband would finish off the beer in the fridge... I'm more of a beer drinker than my husband, and the 6-pack of pumpkin beer that I bought before the BFP is sitting in there mocking me. It will be going with us to Thanksgiving dinner, so I can get my beer loving sisters to finish it.
I may be misinterpreting, and I apologize if so. Best of luck in figuring this out.
Me: 33 H: 36
Married: 12/14/13 DS: 1/29/09
BFP2: 10/9/15 MMC: 11/12/15
BFP3: 4/6/16 DD: 12/12/16
I would be lying if I said part of me didn't think it was an issue, but I think I am going to wait and see if he figures it out on his own. It might seem silly to worry about this 7 or 8 months early, but you can't help when your mind thinks about things.
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Me: 33 H: 36
Married: 12/14/13 DS: 1/29/09
BFP2: 10/9/15 MMC: 11/12/15
BFP3: 4/6/16 DD: 12/12/16
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