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Being Sensitive When Announcing Pregnancy

chloe97chloe97 member
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I'm 6wk 1 day and so far I've only told 2 friends that I'm pregnant. I told my bff who just had her first via IVF and is planning her second IVF round soon and another recently married friend who has also been talking about TTC soon.

I'm not going to lie, we got pregnant on our first try and I was somewhat relieved because I was really concerned about being sad and discouraged hearing other people's pregnancy announcements if it took awhile. We've already talked about being sensitive when announcing to a friend with fertility issues on this board, but what about friends/family who are in the initial stages of TTC? Or maybe who had planned to TTC but recently got laid off or had to postpone for other reasons?

We will hit our second trimester on Christmas Eve, so we would like to make a big announcement with H's extended family. The issue is that 2 of his cousins had plans to TTC that they had to push off for various financial reasons. Is it better to tell people you know could be trying or wanted to start trying quietly beforehand? Does anyone have experience with this?
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  • MsBeachNJMsBeachNJ member
    I think its really nice that you're being so considerate of other people during this time when I'm sure you want to shout from the rooftops about your excitement. 

    I have to be sensitive to an older sibling who wants another child, when her husband absolutely does not, and another sister who is quite older and single, quickly running out of her time to conceive a child (not that shes even sure she wants one, she's very independent but doesn't want the choice taken from her bc she's 40). I am nervous to share the news with both of them because I think it is going to hurt both of them. Part of me already resents having to be cautious about it with the 1 who already has multiple healthy children so I don't feel badly, the older one, I do feel badly but I also feel like its my every right to celebrate and be elated during this time... bottom line is, I'm sorry I don't have specific guidance for you but you're not alone! 
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  • staceymwigginsstaceymwiggins member

    Honestly,  DH and I have struggled with waiting to TTC, infertility and loss.  I understand your want to be sensitive toward others but at some point those people are just going to be elated for you, for a new baby, for your journey into motherhood.  They will share in your joy, in their own way. 

    I think in our situation we found it easier to accept and be happy for people who showed how thankful they were/are.  When we heard "Yah, we have another kid on the way" it hurt, it isn't just a kid on the way.  It's a gift, a miracle, a blessing.  Use your words carefully when sharing. 

    And can I just say, you are amazing for considering others while you could be shouting from the rooftops.  And, after the announcement, go shout it!!!

    Congrats!!


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  • chloe97chloe97 member
    @MsBeachNJ I'm sorry you're going through that. I'm sure your sisters will be thrilled when things get closer, but you're right it's so hard to navigate through everyone else's emotions about your pregnancy when it feels like people should just be happy for you!
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  • cattuccinocattuccino member
    I'm glad you're thinking how your announcement might affect others - maybe initially tell those you're worried about privately and personally beforehand so they have time to deal with their emotions and aren't surprised in a public setting?
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