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Depression at 23 weeks

CierraMcFadden10CierraMcFadden10 member
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So, I am due February 29th. I will be 23 weeks on Monday and I think I am experiencing depression. My body has always reacted negatively to hormones, and now that I'm pregnant it's even worse. I am honestly very happy and excited to be pregnant, and can't wait for our little girl to be here, but I've been going through a lot.

I recently switched jobs at about 16 weeks pregnant, and I'm not sure if it's just me or what but I am miserable. I took an amazing position that I had been wanting before I got pregnant, and now I'm so unhappy. I'm not sure if it's the hormones or what. I've been unable to keep myself together 3-4 times weekly. I end up crying in the bathroom on my breaks, and I get home exhausted and shaking from what feels like an anxiety attack. I've never been a depressive person before. My moods will then change and I'll try to "suck it up", and I'll be okay for awhile, maybe even a few days. I find myself unable to enjoy things that I used to. I also feel my marriage has been strained because of this constant depressive state that I'm in. I try to stay positive for the baby, but I feel like this is out of my control.

Does anyone experience this? I'm seeing my dr on Monday and want to discuss this with her. Any suggestions would help. Thank you.
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Re: Depression at 23 weeks

  • ecwkecwk member
    edited November 2015
    Sorry you're going through this. My only real advice would be to see a doctor and since you got that covered all I have to say is best of luck! Have you tried using the search function? There have been threads like this is the past. It might comfort you to read them an know you're not alone.

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    I definitely have anxiety and depression, but I was that way before getting pregnant. I cry on a daily basis. I'm in therapy multiple times a week to cope. Therapy does help me a lot, but I also would go back on medication if it wasn't.
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  • GoatSnakeMouseGoatSnakeMouse member
    My depression is severe (and sounds a lot like what you're describing) and, blessedly, it is totally treatable with a fairly low dose of Zoloft. Most docs are comfortable with Zoloft in pregnancy, especially at a low dosage. You should definitely explore all your options with a doctor, but don't immediately dismiss medication.
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  • gracehopper27gracehopper27 member
    I agree with the other posters - seeing a doctor should be your first priority. Is there a local expecting mothers group you could join? You are not alone! Hormones can have crazy effects - I cry much more than I used to. I hope you focus on taking care of yourself and doing what makes you feel good. It's okay to pamper yourself and focus your emotional energy on taking care of yourself during this time.
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  • DebraG421DebraG421 member
    See the doctor, but also realize he will probably try to put you on meds.  The decision is ultimately yours.  There are some good suggestions on these threads.  Read them and know you're not alone.  Answering these posts is one thing I am doing to feel better.  I have been severely depressed twice before- both after major big changes (even a job promotion is a big change and combining it with pregnancy??)  Don't feel that you have to/supposed to be happy.
    Of course you logically know that these are good things, but hormones are a mind twist and you feel how you feel!
    The best advice I ever go was to try to plan out one thing per day that you can count on to make yourself feel good... a massage, a nice bath, a nice walk, a talk with a friend, a good book, a dessert. Anything! Routine is key, And remind yourself of two things: your suffering has a purpose- you are doing this to get ready for baby and second, it WILL eventually come to an end.
    I recommend that you seek therapy, at least where someone can monitor your progress and keep an eye on you.
    My heart truly goes out to you, and you may not know me, but I truly relate to how helpless it all feels.
    Hang in there!
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