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June 2016 Moms
MillerMama13
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Need to AW and vent!!
MillerMama13
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So we decided to tell immediate family today. MIL, FIL, SIL and her fiancé. And then my brother and SIL. We already told my Mom and Dad and my Sister and BIL because we saw them in person soon after we found out.
We thought taking this pic and sending it out was a really cute idea. Unfortunately we did not get good reactions. SIL and MIL are pissed because SIL was originally supposed to get married in June. Even though she told us she was 99% sure she was going to change venues and the date would be in September instead, before we got pregnant. And she did change venues so in reality it makes no sense for them to be upset. They just said "Wow. What would you have done if the wedding didn't change to September". Grrrrr. I'm trying so hard not to be upset because I fully expected them to have a negative reaction because that's just how they are. If they weren't 100% involved in something then they are completely negative about it.
SIL even had the nerve to say "so you told us with a stupid freakin picture!" I so want to lose my shit on them but I'm trying to let it go.
Sorry for the vent!
We thought taking this pic and sending it out was a really cute idea. Unfortunately we did not get good reactions. SIL and MIL are pissed because SIL was originally supposed to get married in June. Even though she told us she was 99% sure she was going to change venues and the date would be in September instead, before we got pregnant. And she did change venues so in reality it makes no sense for them to be upset. They just said "Wow. What would you have done if the wedding didn't change to September". Grrrrr. I'm trying so hard not to be upset because I fully expected them to have a negative reaction because that's just how they are. If they weren't 100% involved in something then they are completely negative about it.
SIL even had the nerve to say "so you told us with a stupid freakin picture!" I so want to lose my shit on them but I'm trying to let it go.
Sorry for the vent!
Re: Need to AW and vent!!
Married 5/30/15
TTC #1 June 2015
BFP #1 9/28/15, EDD 6/10/16. DS born 5/23/16!
TTC #2 May 2017
BFP #2 m/c 11/18/17 5w5d
BFP #3 12/17/17 EDD 8/25/18. It's a boy!
Love you pic!
I completely know what you mean about a family member not being happy with anything they weren't personally responsible for.
It's quite possible though, that they'll surprise you and be better grandparents than you would have thought. My suggestion is that once they start buying the baby clothes, put baby in something they personally bought every time they're over. It kept my in-laws happy, making my life much more pleasant! Oh, and whatever they buy you, make sure you rave about it. It will tame their attitude problem a bit.
Our SILs sound very similar! Mine threw a fit that my DH and I chose to get married in her birthday month. We got married nowhere near her birthday. She didn't say a word to me at the bridal shower, rehearsal dinner, or the wedding. Sometimes you have to take that behavior and let it whiz past your head. They'll get over themselves eventually.
I bet they would have acted like that no matter what. I'm dreading telling my in laws at thanksgiving.
I am sorry you were on the receiving end of such terrible behavior. It truly baffles me how terrible people can be.
There's absolutely no excuse for them reacting that way - regardless of their location. I'd say them being far away is a wonderful thing for family. I feel sorry for them that they have to live life being that miserable.
DD born June 2016
Second due August 2020 (team green!)
DD2 | June 2011
DS1 | Oct 2013
ADD3 | Oct 2014 (April 2001)
DS2 | June 2016
DS3 | Dec 2018
Due with baby blob August 2021
Haha I didn't even realize I did that. Maybe I have powers that not even I know about.
B-)
DD born June 2016
Second due August 2020 (team green!)