FTM and scared!

bravoandprosecco · November 2015

I'm so jealous of all of you who are feeling excited and ready to meet your LO. I'm 38 weeks and feeling more and more nervous the closer I get. I have no idea what to expect, just that my whole life is about to change! Between labor, to bringing baby home I'm scared and think I'd rather stay pregnant! I worry I won't bond with baby and I'll be overwhelmed and not know what to do when he gets here. Anyone else feeling this way?

poupoule · November 2015

I probably would too but my mom is coming so everything will be alright

Lets say she cancels her flight. I would tell myself : Take it day after day, do your best, trust your gut, take the help people offer. You will do great !

amm0512 · November 2015

It is completely normal to worry about not bonding, and it is also normal to have a delay in bonding even once the baby arrives. With DS, I was fiercely protective of him from the moment he was born, but I think it was almost a week and a half before I felt that all-consuming love for him that people talk about. And yes, the baby will change every aspect of your life, and the first few weeks will be exhausting and overwhelming. But it is absolutely worth it all!

faithg214 · November 2015

I am feeling the exact same way. I will be at 39 weeks tomorrow, and part of me can't wait to hold my LO, but the other part of me is scared to death because I don't know what to expect. I am especially scared because I am not with the father anymore. But I am extremely thankful for my friends, especially my roommates. They have been there for me pretty much since the beginning and have helped me through this experience.

Xette · November 2015

The fact that you're worried already says you'll be a good mom. I was the same way with my 1st pregnancy. I've never even held a newborn before that. One the baby comes, maternal instinct will start kicking in.

Tealmoore · November 2015

I'm feeling the same, I think reality has hit in about how life will never be the same. I worry about how I will manage this new life and how it will impact my relationship with my husband, we have been so used to doing our own thing for 11 years and now it's all about to change. I am so excited but so anxious at the same time cause nobody can really tell you what it's going to be like! Just a waiting game now I suppose

xx

Kristi4938 · November 2015

I am 39 weeks and have been feeling the exact same. Now that labor is imminent, I'm getting really scared of both the delivery and if being a mom to a newborn. I'm terrified that I won't bond with her and will just be miserable. I do think this is all normal. As others said, I think it's important to accept and ask for help. that will be my strategy.

CayceFry · November 2015

I am terrified as well!!! I'm scared I won't know what I'm doing or when to feed the baby or how to properly take care of him. Or of just screwing him up from the get go!!! It is nerve racking!

french_mani · November 2015

Yes definitely feeling the same way. I still have a few weeks to go, so I think I shall just keep trying to prepare myself so I feel a little less nervous. Right now I don't want him to come out!!!

Cmagno · November 2015

I remember feeling this way before DD was born. Labor was tough (3 days) but totally doable (In retrospect it really wasn't that bad) and as soon as I met DD everything really was magical. I was tired and BFing was hard and at times we were so confused trying to care for a little human being but it really was wonderful! I didn't have a super hard pregnancy but I thought the newborn stage was way easier then the end of the pregnancy because I was no longer thinking about all my fears and got to focus on cuddling LO!

cdepperschmidt · November 2015

Yes! Had been feeling great about this change and then woke up last night in a panic. My baby is due tomorrow. I'm anxious about the delivery and something going wrong. I'm also anxious about changing from being an independent person to having someone depending on me for everything. It's a lot of pressure!

lulamagoo · November 2015

You are completely normal for feeling this way. Even as a STM, I am terrified. I know how hard the first months can be and tired we will all be, but I also know how awesome it will be.

And if you don't bond immediately, it's okay. Sometimes it can take a while, but the first time you get that smile or the first time the baby calms down for only you, because you are their mom, you will feel it.

TheJoergers · November 2015

Yes I very much feel this way, it bothers me that everyone else around me seems more excited then I am including my six year old. But on the other hand I'm so tired of being pregnant and just want it over with, I hate it , hated it the first time too. I'm at 37 weeks and I to am worried that I won't bond simply BC of the anxiety of all the other life changing happening at the same time. It is nice however to know I'm not the only one, makes me feel like I'm normal...

TacoSarah · November 2015

I felt that way too and the first few hours after he was born I was scared of him. But then nature took over and all the anxiety went away.

wulfpackgirl · November 2015

We've had our baby home for a week now. I also am a FTM and it's gone much easier than I thought it would. He came 5 weeks early so he does sleep a lot. He's such a good baby and I can't stop staring and cuddling him. Bringing your baby home is the best thing ever! You'll be fine and so in love. You may not get as much sleep though but it's not too bad.

lr0619 · November 2015

I'm a FTM due in 6 days. The advise my mom gave me if you're worried about the pain of labor is: keep telling yourself it won't last forever, it will end!

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