I'm going to punch my US tech in her face

autie5cp · November 2015

Let me start from the beginning...my DH and I are having a gender reveal party at 15 weeks, we plan on getting a 3D US and not having the tech tell us and have a box with reveal balloons done at party city so all of our family and friends and my DH and I can find out at the same time...So fast forward my husband and I go into my first trimester US this past Friday (I'm 12 weeks) and the first thing my husband says to her is "if by any chance you can see the sex of the baby please don't tell us because we don't want to know" she acknowledges and agrees...2 FREAKING MINUTES LATER... The US tech says, "looks like we have a penis right there, it's going to be a boy" so I stare at her with the look of absolute death and she tries to save herself with the "or it could be an oversized clit" Sweet baby Jesus, if I wasn't trying to set a good example for Cletus the Fetus in my womb her head would have been smashed through the screen...anyone else have any US tech stories?

BuzzBee614 · November 2015

I am so sorry this happened to you! it is incredibly unprofessional. I understand people make mistakes, but this is seriously their job, they should be paying attention.

I think her 'save' was hilarious if it wasn't so crappy for you guys that she told you.

However, since it's so early I wouldn't trust that 100% until you get a later US. I mean it could be an oversized clit or a tail or....

gampster · November 2015

My friend was told at 14 weeks it was a boy only to find out a month later they were really having a girl! Maybe you will still get a surprise.

JSandP1120 · November 2015

I am so sorry that happened to you. My DH and I are team green and at my NT scan Friday the tech told us it was a girl. I wanted to kill her. I know how you feel, but like PP said I wouldn't trust it 100%. Its still too early.

schicksal · November 2015

I'm with everyone else - sucks that it happened, but there's a very good chance that she was wrong anyway. It's too early.

lionstigersbears · November 2015

Love when medical professionals let their human show with slang

ETA so sorry this happened @auntie5cp and sorry I got distracted by her word choice!

laurenmdrn16 · November 2015

A similar thing happened with my son. We were adamant about being Team Green, even when complications arose. So, I was in the hospital and they had just done my weekly US and everything looked fine with baby, but I wasn't doing so well. The poor tech was trying to make me feel better and said (in front of MH and mom), "Don't worry, even if they have to deliver early, boys tend to have stronger lungs so he should be just fine." I was shocked for a second and was too afraid to look at MH or mom to see if they heard it too. We all kind of just pretended we didn't hear anything, but later confessed that we all heard. As it turns out, my older sister had come with me to my anatomy scan and she actually was able to see the penis when the tech told me to look away, so basically the only person in my immediate family who didn't know before his birth was my little sister!

I would say that it is still really early for you so there could still be some mystery. Sex organs can be tricky to determine, even at the anatomy scan and I know a few people who were told they were having a boy, but ended up with a girl. Don't let it ruin your excitement and surprise.

missnc77 · November 2015

I don't know, I think the reveal parties are cute, but I also know how I am when finding out a surprise around a group of people vs. a more intimate one on one situation. There's just too much stimulation for me to be able to really feel the emotion of the surprise. If you can get past your party plans being ruined by her slip up, think of it as you and your husband got to find out together without a bunch of background noise that you're having an amazing baby boy. You can still surprise your family at the party and relive the surprise with them. I think it would probably be more fun to be more invested in their own reactions rather than having to process your own at the same time. You still have that to look forward to!

autumnlynne1221 · November 2015

Most sonographers will not speculate gender before 16 weeks at the earliest. The hormones before that have the genitalia looking the same. I would only trust blood results prior to 16 weeks. I personally will only tell gender after 18 weeks. Some sonographers absolutely hate when patients act as if they only care about gender and not the health of the fetus. I know a few that will say they couldn't see it or they aren't sure just because the patient was only concerned with gender and not the really important things. An anatomy scan is a very important diagnostic tool not a gender reveal scan. We see very horrible things every single day so it's very refreshing to have patients that ask about the health of the fetus and not the gender first thing when they walk through the door.

kbrands7 · November 2015

I understand that you're angry that the sonographer told you the sex after saying you didn't want to know. I would think that most people who mention it in the ultrasound this early do want to know; it's possible she got confused. However, as PP have stated, it's really too early to be a very accurate reading. Your surprise may not have been ruined. If it was accurate, then you have a memory of finding out with DH before everyone else knew and you can try to move forward with the knowledge that you have a healthy baby (possibly boy!) gracefully.

CharminglySouthern · November 2015

I totally get being frustrated, really. But at 12 weeks, the anatomy is pretty much identical. The only way to tell the difference is the angle of the dangle since both have a nub there.

Further, there's no way in hell I would even trust a 15 week ultrasound for a sex reveal. Especially when you're having a party and everything. I guess I just dont see the big deal with waiting until it's more accurate. I've seen so many posts here where they've been wrong.

I guess my second issue would be having some party to celebrate something so silly and then 4 weeks later finding out something was seriously wrong at my anatomy scan.

emilyj77 · November 2015

I'm really sorry she possibly ruined your surprise. With DD we were team green and at my 20 week ultrasound a doctor came with a group of students or residents and on her way out said "She looks good." I wasn't sure if she was revealing to me the sex or maybe she just used that term for all babies. Anyway, I didn't tell anyone (DH wasn't there) and was adamant I was having a boy. Low and behold DD came along.

And you're going to hate me for saying this, but this is just one example of things not turning out the way you planned. With my first pregnancy I had so many plans that were completely turned around. Natural birth = planned c-section, nursing for 12 months = formula almost right away, potty trained by 2 years old = 2.5 years old, just to name a few. Things happen and like it or not it's our job as parents to adapt and overcome.

tripledaggerWed95976 · November 2015

So sorry that happened! If it's any saving grace, just know that since you were only 12 weeks, she could totally be wrong. Many ultrasound techs won't even guess at 12 weeks

JessicaB0627 · November 2015

@autumnlynne1221 Do you get a lot of people that cry when they find out baby isn't what they wanted? I had a friend that found out she was having a boy, wanted a girl, cried during the whole ultrasound and didn't even care about the health of her child. I want to punch her in the face!

Also @autie5cp I'm really sorry that happened! Like pp said, I really wouldn't trust it too much anyway!

camillaandcarson · November 2015

I am so sorry!

alexandrac86 · November 2015

I wouldn't pay much attention to her opinion. For one, at 12 weeks you cannot determine the gender accurately, she's a tech and should know that. For two, she disregarded your request to not know that gender. That's very unprofessional.

wsgjmw1 · November 2015

like PP have said, most u/s tech's will not or cannot tell you at 12 weeks, there is a very large possibility she is wrong! I just had mine and the tech told me it was way too early and she couldn't tell me either way.

kyraaD · November 2015

you're only 12 weeks along, OP. I'm surprised the tech even thought to guess the gender. don't put too much weight on her guess. you could still end up with a little girl.

babykasper · November 2015

One of my girlfriends wanted it to be a surprise and the tech at 18 weeks told her accidentally it was a girl! So we celebrated girl! They even named her before she was born. She tried to deliver at home in a birthing pool and 36 hours later wasn't progressing so finally went to the hospital to deliver. They did an emergency c-section on her and said congratulations, it's a boy! And before she passed out from exhaustion she told the doctor he was wrong, she had had a girl and her name was Kendra! Lol

Soooo even much later in the game, the techs can make mistakes! We all went on a shopping frenzie before she even left the hospital because she and hubby had a prepared nursery for a girl! Including the pink walls!

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