There are many things that I didn't realize were frowned upon until TB so I'm just curious what people think.
My shower is being held in my old "home city" I lived there until DH and I moved 3.5 hours away and I'm still close with my friends from college. Most of them were guys and were very involved in my wedding stuff. One of them was even my man of honor- instead of having a maid of honor. Many of my friends have moved away to different cities but two of my male friends stayed. My MIL thought it would be awkward to invite them to the shower so I decided to invite their girlfriends. The girlfriends are friends with each other and they also know my female friends that are going to be at the shower. I've only met them probably about 5 times but they've been dating my friends for over a year.
My intention with inviting them is to make them feel included in the group, but I was just wondering if other people thought it was going to come across as gift grabby.
*Kate*
February 2016
Re: inviting girlfriends of close friends to shower- opinions wanted
*Kate*
February 2016
*Kate*
February 2016
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Disclaimer: my mom included my guy friends on my guest list, but they're all gay and super excited to be included themselves.
Edit: words
ok cool so it is nice. I won't be offended at all if they don't come and it's the Saturday after Thanksgiving so they have a super easy excuse if they don't want to come too.
thanks for everyone's input,
*Kate*
February 2016
I'm use to it but still think it's alittle weird most of them we only see at showers, weddings, and funerals. But I know the older generation gets cranky if their daughter or granddaughter doesn't get invited.
So I understand feeling gift grabby but it is their choice to come and I think you've handled it appropriately
I think this is great, especially the last sentence:) very thoughtful of you to include them - it says that you want them to be a part of your life, not just their SOs.
Also, when I think back to the beginning of my relationship with my husband, I would have really appreciated this from his friends who are women. They weren't terribly inviting (mostly, there are exceptions!!), and if they have extended a hand like this, it may have been easier to get to know them.
That way, it's not gift grabby, and the expectation is one invite equals one gift. Versus a separate invitation which implies there should be two separate gifts.