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STM + - Anyone else's family ambivalent about your pregnancy?

oxley09oxley09 member
edited October 2015 in November 2015 Moms
Happy Sunday!

My husband and I are expecting our 4th child any day now (38 weeks and holding strong).  On both sides of our family we are the only children with kids, and everyone just seems so blasé about us having another - like it's just so unimpressive.  ;)  It doesn't bother either of us too much; we just kind of do our own thing and go about our business.  But I was curious how many other moms with multiple kids are feeling this too?  Anyone else's family all....
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Re: STM + - Anyone else's family ambivalent about your pregnancy?

  • shellperryshellperry member
    We are having are third and fourth no ones too excited but I feel like it's better it's more private this time around :)
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  • brianna91chavezbrianna91chavez member
    Im not a STM but YESSSSSS. My family is excited but my husbands side.....not so much. This is his third but our first together. I thought the baby would be a pretty big deal since his girls are 14 & 12 but nope. His dad is the only one who really acknowledges that I'm pregnant and talks about the baby. His mom acts like I don't exist so I guess that means she doesn't notice the baby either. It's whatever though because I don't really want her at the hospital or anything anyways. She's really pushy and demanding with our one year old nephew and I won't be able to handle that so hopefully she continues to ignore us...lol.
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  • Gapeach83Gapeach83 member
    edited October 2015
    Grandma's are super excited everyone else are eh. We are both close to our moms so that might be why. They were that way with #2. They are not mean or don't care they just aren't as excited. I am okay with that they aren't annoying me.

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  • CocoR04CocoR04 member
    Pretty sure my inlaws are more excited about my BIL's baby who is due in December because that baby lives 5 min from them. We live many states away and it's just not the same. Oh well.
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  • oxley09oxley09 member
    Glad to hear that other moms are going through this too, and that we're all pretty much accepting of it.  What can you do I guess?

    I'm usually pretty close with my dad, but ever since my younger sister started going through some things (a break up and moving back home) he seems to be pretty occupied with her and her needs, and neither of them have even asked about me in over a month.  It is what it is.  I'm entertaining the idea of not calling them when we go into labor and waiting for one of them to call me so I can say - "oh yeah, I had the baby weeks ago".  
    :))

    My mom on the other hand, lives across the US and she and I are not that close, and she is over the moon.  Go figure. ;)
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  • petreannpetreann member
    My SO's family is over the moon over this pregnancy! Our baby is going to be his first child the first grand child and great grand on his side, so YES i can totally see why. But on the other hand, this is my parents' 11th grandchild and seeing that my sister gave birth about a week ago and my SIL is due in january, my mom isn't that excited about my baby. But that's just fine because i get more than enough attention from SO family.  ;)
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  • chstr522chstr522 member
    My so's mom was told her grand daughter was pregnant before we shared our news(we waited a little didn't just pee on a stick and tell the world) so now she doesn't really care as much about him. Makes comments about being ready to be a great grandma again and how she didn't plan on being grandma again...

    This will be my first though and we are really excited! Luckily she lives 1.5 hours away so I can distance myself from her comments some of the time.
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  • knolliepollieknolliepollie member
    I'll be a FTM and we are having the first grandchild on both sides. My parents are beyond excited and have been supportive from the beginning. My MIL on the other hand hasn't said one word about her grand daughter to be. She hasn't called or texted to see how I'm doing, she doesn't respond when we send her updates or US photos, she even offered me a drink with hard liquor in it when I was around 26 weeks (and no, she wasn't joking!) her behavior really bothered me at first, but I've since let it go. My parents will be awesome Grandparents, so I'm not forcing anyone to "love" our daughter. One of his sisters has been great and I think it's good for DH to have some support, even if it's not coming from his parents.

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  • brownloveonebrownloveone member
    edited October 2015
    My family seemed excited at first, but that faded quickly especially since they hate the name I picked (Houston).They never call to check on me or ask about baby. Husband has two sisters n no parents and they never ever call either. My "friends" thought my mom would host a baby shower even though they're the ones that offered and my mom never mentioned one. I had a 30 minute surprise baby shower at work and I was sooo touched and grateful. I'm not planning on letting anyone know I'm at the hospital when I get induced on the 23rd. Like oxley09 I'll just say - oh had the baby the weeks ago! - when they do call!
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  • BowWowBowieBowWowBowie member
    Certain family members are over the moon we're having our second, others couldn't care less. They've made our importance to them known by the lack of their contact minus when they need or want something. (Especially asking for money when they *know* I'm on bed rest and our finances are so freaking tight) I'm not going to necessarily push them out of our life, but it's going to be in the back of my mind constantly when they try to act like family of the year. 
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